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part barren

struggles, in the Epistles of St. Jerome, who had

himself been an athlete

in these ascetic contests.

"Oh, how many times," wrote St. Jerome to

Eustochium, the virgin

to whom he addressed one of the longest and most

interesting of

his letters, "when in the desert, in that vast

solitude which,

burnt up by the heart of the sun, offers but a

horrible dwelling

to monks, I imagined myself among the delights of

Rome! I was

alone, for my soul was full of bitterness. My limbs

were covered

by a wretched sack and my skin was as black as an

Ethiopian's.

Every day I wept and groaned, and if I was

unwillingly overcome

by sleep my lean body lay on the bare earth. I say

nothing of my

food and drink, for in the desert even invalids have

no drink but

cold water, and cooked food is regarded as a luxury.

Well, I,

who, out of fear of hell, had condemned myself to

this prison,

companion of scorpions and wild beasts, often seemed

in

imagination among bands of girls. My face was pale

with fasting

and my mind within my frigid body was burning with

desire; the

fires of lust would still flare up in a body that

already seemed

to be dead. Then, deprived of all help, I threw

myself at the

feet of Jesus, washing them with my tears and drying

them with my

hair, subjugating my rebellious flesh by long fasts.

I remember

that more than once I passed the night uttering

cries and

striking my breast until God sent me peace." "Our century," wrote

St. Chrysostom in his _Discourse to Those Who Keep

Virgins in

Their Houses_, "has seen many men who have bound

their bodies

with chains, clothed themselves in sacks, retired to

the summits

of mountains where they have lived in constant vigil

and fasting,

giving the example of the most austere discipline

and forbidding

all women to cross the thresholds of their humble

dwellings; and

yet, in spite of all the severities they have

exercised on

themselves, it was with difficulty they could

repress the fury of

their passions." Hilarion, says Jerome, saw visions of naked

women when he lay down on his solitary couch and

delicious meats

when he sat down to his frugal table. Such

experiences rendered

the early saints very scrupulous. "They used to

say," we are told

in an interesting history of the Egyptian

anchorites, Palladius's

_Paradise of the Holy Fathers_, belonging to the

fourth century

(A.W. Budge, _The Paradise_, vol. ii, p. 129), "that Abbâ Isaac

went out and found the footprint of a woman on the

road, and he

thought about it in his mind and destroyed it

saying, 'If a

brother seeth it he may fall.'" Similarly, according to the rules

of St. Cæsarius of Aries for nuns, no male clothing

was to be

taken into the convent for the purpose of washing or

mending.

Even in old age, a certain anxiety about chastity

still remained.

One of the brothers, we are told in _The Paradise_

(p. 132) said

to Abbâ Zeno, "Behold thou hast grown old, how is the matter of

fornication?" The venerable saint replied, "It knocketh, but it

passeth on."

As the centuries went by the same strenuous anxiety

to guard

chastity still remained, and the old struggle

constantly

reappeared (see, e.g., Migne's _Dictionnaire

d'Ascétisme_, art.

"Démon, Tentation du"). Some saints, it is true, like Luigi di

Gonzaga, were so angelically natured that they never

felt the

sting of sexual desire. These seem to have been the

exception.

St. Benedict and St. Francis experienced the

difficulty of

subduing the flesh. St. Magdalena de Pozzi, in order

to dispel

sexual desires, would roll on thorny bushes till the

blood came.

Some saints kept a special cask of cold water in

their cells to

stand in (Lea, _Sacerdotal Celibacy_, vol. i, p.

124). On the

other hand, the Blessed Angela de Fulginio tells us

in her

_Visiones_ (cap. XIX) that, until forbidden by her

confessor, she

would place hot coals in her secret parts, hoping by

material

fire to extinguish the fire of concupiscence. St.

Aldhelm, the

holy Bishop of Sherborne, in the eighth century,

also adopted a

homeopathic method of treatment, though of a more

literal kind,

for William of Malmsbury states that when tempted by

the flesh he

would have women to sit and lie by him until he grew

calm again;

the method proved very successful, for the reason,

it was

thought, that the Devil felt he had been made a fool

of.

In time the Catholic practice and theory of

asceticism became

more formalized and elaborated, and its beneficial

effects were

held to extend beyond the individual himself.

"Asceticism from

the Christian point of view," writes Brénier de

Montmorand in an

interesting study ("Ascétisme et Mysticisme," _Revue Philosophique_, March, 1904) "is nothing else than all the

therapeutic measures making for moral purification.

The Christian

ascetic is an athlete struggling to transform his

corrupt nature

and make a road to God through the obstacles due to

his passions

and the world. He is not working in his own

interests alone,

but--by virtue of the reversibility of merit which

compensates

that of solidarity in error--for the good and for

the salvation

of the whole of society."

This is the aspect of early Christian asceticism most

often emphasized.

But there is another aspect which may be less familiar, but has been by no

means less important. Primitive Christian chastity was on one side a

strenuous discipline. On another side it was a romance, and this indeed

was its most specifically Christian side, for athletic asceticism has been

associated with the most various religious and

philosophic beliefs. If,

indeed, it had not possessed the charm of a new

sensation, of a delicious

freedom, of an unknown adventure, it would never have

conquered the

European world. There are only a few in that world who have in them the

stuff of moral athletes; there are many who respond to the attraction of

romance.

The Christians rejected the grosser forms of sexual

indulgence, but in

doing so they entered with a more delicate ardor into

the more refined

forms of sexual intimacy. They cultivated a relationship of brothers and

sisters to each other, they kissed one another; at one time, in the

spiritual orgy of baptism, they were not ashamed to

adopt complete

nakedness.[74]

A very instructive picture of the forms which chastity assumed among the

early Christians is given us in the treatise of

Chrysostom _Against Those

who Keep Virgins in their Houses_. Our fathers,

Chrysostom begins, only

knew two forms of sexual intimacy, marriage and

fornication. Now a third

form has appeared: men introduce young girls into their houses and keep

them there permanently, respecting their virginity.

"What," Chrysostom

asks, "is the reason? It seems to me that life in common with a woman is

sweet, even outside conjugal union and fleshly commerce.

That is my

feeling; and perhaps it is not my feeling alone; it may also be that of

these men. They would not hold their honor so cheap nor give rise to such

scandals if this pleasure were not violent and

tyrannical.... That there

should really be a pleasure in this which produces a

love more ardent than

conjugal union may surprise you at first. But when I

give you the proofs

you will agree that it is so." The absence of restraint to desire in

marriage, he continues, often leads to speedy disgust, and even apart from

this, sexual intercourse, pregnancy, delivery,

lactation, the bringing up

of children, and all the pains and anxieties that

accompany these things

soon destroy youth and dull the point of pleasure. The virgin is free from

these burdens. She retains her vigor and youthfulness, and even at the age

of forty may rival the young nubile girl. "A double ardor thus burns in

the heart of him who lives with her, and the

gratification of desire never

extinguishes the bright flame which ever continues to

increase in

strength." Chrysostom describes minutely all the little cares and

attentions which the modern girls of his time required, and which these

men delighted to expend on their virginal sweethearts

whether in public or

in private. He cannot help thinking, however, that the man who lavishes

kisses and caresses on a woman whose virginity he

retains is putting

himself somewhat in the position of Tantalus. But this new refinement of

tender chastity, which came as a delicious discovery to the early

Christians who had resolutely thrust away the

licentiousness of the pagan

world, was deeply rooted, as we discover from the

frequency with which the

grave Fathers of the Church, apprehensive of scandal,

felt called upon to

reprove it, though their condemnation is sometimes not without a trace of

secret sympathy.[75]

There was one form in which the new Christian chastity flourished

exuberantly and unchecked: it conquered literature. The most charming,

and, we may be sure, the most popular literature of the early Church lay

in the innumerable romances of erotic chastity--to some extent, it may

well be, founded on fact--which are embodied to-day in the _Acta

Sanctorum_. We can see in even the most simple and non-miraculous early

Christian records of the martyrdom of women that the

writers were fully

aware of the delicate charm of the heroine who, like

Perpetua at Carthage,

tossed by wild cattle in the arena, rises to gather her torn garment

around her and to put up her disheveled hair.[76] It was an easy step to

the stories of romantic adventure. Among these

delightful stories I may

refer especially to the legend of Thekla, which has been placed,

incorrectly it may be, as early as the first century,

"The Bride and

Bridegroom of India" in _Judas Thomas's Acts_, "The Virgin of Antioch" as

narrated by St. Ambrose, the history of "Achilleus and Nereus," "Mygdonia

and Karish," and "Two Lovers of Auvergne" as told by Gregory of Tours.

Early Christian literature abounds in the stories of

lovers who had indeed

preserved their chastity, and had yet discovered the

most exquisite

secrets of love.

Thekla's day is the twenty-third of September. There

is a very

good Syriac version (by Lipsius and others regarded

as more

primitive than the Greek version) of the _Acts of

Paul and

Thekla_ (see, e.g., Wright's _Apocryphal Acts_).

These _Acts_

belong to the latter part of the second century. The

story is

that Thekla, refusing to yield to the passion of the

high priest

of Syria, was put, naked but for a girdle

(_subligaculum_) into

the arena on the back of a lioness, which licked her

feet and

fought for her against the other beasts, dying in

her defense.

The other beasts, however, did her no harm, and she

was finally

released. A queen loaded her with money, she

modified her dress

to look like a man, travelled to meet Paul, and

lived to old age.

Sir W.M. Ramsay has written an interesting study of

these _Acts_

(_The Church in the Roman Empire_, Ch. XVI). He is

of opinion

that the _Acts_ are based on a first century

document, and is

able to disentangle many elements of truth from the

story. He

states that it is the only evidence we possess of

the ideas and

actions of women during the first century in Asia

Minor, where

their position was so high and their influence so

great. Thekla

represents the assertion of woman's rights, and she

administered

the rite of baptism, though in the existing versions

of the

_Acts_ these features are toned down or eliminated.

Some of the most typical of these early Christian

romances are

described as Gnostical in origin, with something of

the germs of

Manichæan dualism which were held in the rich and

complex matrix

of Gnosticism, while the spirit of these romances is

also largely

Montanist, with the combined chastity and ardor, the

pronounced

feminine tone due to its origin in Asia Minor, which

marked

Montanism. It cannot be denied, however, that they

largely passed

into the main stream of Christian tradition, and

form an

essential and important part of that tradition.

(Renan, in his

_Marc-Aurèle_, Chs. IX and XV, insists on the

immense debt of

Christianity to Gnostic and Montanist

contributions). A

characteristic example is the story of "The

Betrothed of India"

in _Judas Thomas's Acts_ (Wright's _Apocryphal

Acts_). Judas

Thomas was sold by his master Jesus to an Indian

merchant who

required a carpenter to go with him to India. On

disembarking at

the city of Sandaruk they heard the sounds of music

and singing,

and learnt that it was the wedding-feast of the

King's daughter,

which all must attend, rich and poor, slaves and

freemen,

strangers and citizens. Judas Thomas went, with his

new master,

to the banquet and reclined with a garland of myrtle

placed on

his head. When a Hebrew flute-player came and stood

over him and

played, he sang the songs of Christ, and it was seen

that he was

more beautiful than all that were there and the King

sent for him

to bless the young couple in the bridal chamber. And

when all

were gone out and the door of the bridal chamber

closed, the

bridegroom approached the bride, and saw, as it

were, Judas

Thomas still talking with her. But it was our Lord

who said to

him, "I am not Judas, but his brother." And our Lord sat down on

the bed beside the young people and began to say to

them:

"Remember, my children, what my brother spake with you, and know

to whom he committed you, and know that if ye

preserve yourselves

from this filthy intercourse ye become pure temples,

and are

saved from afflictions manifest and hidden, and from

the heavy

care of children, the end whereof is bitter sorrow.

For their

sakes ye will become oppressors and robbers, and ye

will be

grievously tortured for their injuries. For children

are the

cause of many pains; either the King falls upon them

or a demon

lays hold of them, or paralysis befalls them. And if

they be

healthy they come to ill, either by adultery, or

theft, or

fornication, or covetousness, or vain-glory. But if

ye will be

persuaded by me, and keep yourselves purely unto

God, ye shall

have living children to whom not one of these

blemishes and hurts

cometh nigh; and ye shall be without care and

without grief and

without sorrow, and ye shall hope for the time when

ye shall see

the true wedding-feast." The young couple were

persuaded, and

refrained from lust, and our Lord vanished. And in

the morning,

when it was dawn, the King had the table furnished

early and

brought in before the bridegroom and bride. And he

found them

sitting the one opposite the other, and the face of

the bride was

uncovered and the bridegroom was very cheerful. The

mother of the

bride saith to her: "Why art thou sitting thus, and art not

ashamed, but art as if, lo, thou wert married a long

time, and

for many a day?" And her father, too, said; "Is it thy great love

for thy husband that prevents thee from even veiling

thyself?"

And the bride answered and said: "Truly, my father, I am in great

love, and am praying to my Lord that I may continue

in this love

which I have experienced this night. I am not

veiled, because the

veil of corruption is taken from me, and I am not

ashamed,

because the deed of shame has been removed far from

me, and I am

cheerful and gay, and despise this deed of

corruption and the

joys of this wedding-feast, because I am invited to

the true

wedding-feast. I have not had intercourse with a

husband, the end

whereof is bitter repentance, because I am betrothed

to the true

Husband." The bridegroom answered also in the same spirit, very

naturally to the dismay of the King, who sent for

the sorcerer

whom he had asked to bless his unlucky daughter. But

Judas Thomas

had already left the city and at his inn the King's

stewards

found only the flute-player, sitting and weeping

because he had

not taken her with him. She was glad, however, when

she heard

what had happened, and hastened to the young couple,

and lived

with them ever afterwards. The King also was finally

reconciled,

and all ended chastely, but happily.

In these same _Judas Thomas's Acts_, which are not

later than the

fourth century, we find (eighth act) the story of

Mygdonia and

Karish. Mygdonia, the wife of Karish, is converted

by Thomas and

flees from her husband, naked save for the curtain

of the chamber

door which she has wrapped around her, to her old

nurse. With the

nurse she goes to Thomas, who pours holy oil over

her head,

bidding the nurse to anoint her all over with it;

then a cloth is

put round her loins and he baptizes her; then she is

clothed and

he gives her the sacrament. The young rapture of

chastity grows

lyrical at times, and Judas Thomas breaks out:

"Purity is the

athlete who is not overcome. Purity is the truth

that blencheth

not. Purity is worthy before God of being to Him a

familiar

handmaiden. Purity is the messenger of concord which

bringeth the

tidings of peace."

Another romance of chastity is furnished by the

episode of

Drusiana in _The History of the Apostles_

traditionally

attributed to Abdias, Bishop of Babylon (Bk. v, Ch.

IV, _et

seq._). Drusiana is the wife of Andronicus, and is

so pious that

she will not have intercourse with him. The youth

Callimachus

falls madly in love with her, and his amorous

attempts involve

many exciting adventures, but the chastity of

Drusiana is finally

triumphant.

A characteristic example of the literature we are

here concerned

with is St. Ambrose's story of "The Virgin in the Brothel"

(narrated in his _De Virginibus_, Migne's edition of

Ambrose's

Works, vols. iii-iv, p. 211). A certain virgin, St.

Ambrose tells

us, who lately lived at Antioch, was condemned

either to

sacrifice to the gods or to go to the brothel. She

chose the

latter alternative. But the first man who came in to

her was a

Christian soldier who called her "sister," and bade her have no

fear. He proposed that they should exchange clothes.

This was

done and she escaped, while the soldier was led away

to death. At

the place of execution, however, she ran up and

exclaimed that it

was not death she feared but shame. He, however,

maintained that

he had been condemned to death in her place. Finally

the crown of

martyrdom for which they contended was adjudged to

both.

We constantly observe in the early documents of this

romantic

literature of chastity that chastity is insisted on

by no means

chiefly because of its rewards after death, nor even

because the

virgin who devotes herself to it secures in Christ

an ever-young

lover whose golden-haired beauty is sometimes

emphasized. Its

chief charm is represented as lying in its own joy

and freedom

and the security it involves from all the troubles,

inconveniences and bondages of matrimony. This early

Christian

movement of romantic chastity was clearly, in large

measure, a

revolt of women against men and marriage. This is

well brought

out in the instructive story, supposed to be of

third century

origin, of the eunuchs Achilleus and Nereus, as

narrated in the

_Acta Sanctorum_, May 12th. Achilleus and Nereus

were Christian

eunuchs of the bedchamber to Domitia, a virgin of

noble birth,

related to the Emperor Domitian and betrothed to

Aurelian, son

of a Consul. One day, as their mistress was putting

on her jewels

and her purple garments embroidered with gold, they

began in turn

to talk to her about all the joys and advantages of

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