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marriage contracted in innocence, and the issue of

persons who

subsequently marry each other, are legitimate by

Canon law, but

not by the common law of England (Geary, _Marriage

and Family

Relations_, p. 3; Pollock and Maitland, loc. cit.).

The Canonists

regarded the disabilities attaching to bastardy as a

punishment

inflicted on the offending parents, and considered,

therefore,

that no burden should fall on the children when

there had been a

ceremony in good faith on the part of one at least

of the

parents. In this respect the English law is less

reasonable and

humane. It was at the Council of Merton, in 1236,

that the barons

of England rejected the proposal to make the laws of

England

harmonize with the Canon law, that is, with the

ecclesiastical

law of Christendom generally, in allowing children

born before

wedlock to be legitimated by subsequent marriage.

Grosseteste

poured forth his eloquence and his arguments in

favor of the

change, but in vain, and the law of England has ever

since stood

alone in this respect (Freeman, "Merton Priory,"

_English Towns

and Districts_). The proposal was rejected in the

famous formula,

"Nolumus leges AngliƦ mutare," a formula which merely stood for

an unreasonable and inhumane obstinacy.

In the United States, while by common law subsequent

marriage

fails to legitimate children born before marriage,

in many of the

States the subsequent marriage of the parents

effects by statute

the legitimacy of the child, sometimes (as in Maine)

automatically, more usually (as in Massachusetts)

through special

acknowledgment by the father.

The appearance of Luther and the Reformation involved

the decay of the

Canon law system so far as Europe as a whole was

concerned. It was for

many reasons impossible for the Protestant reformers to retain formally

either the Catholic conception of matrimony or the

precariously elaborate

legal structure which the Church had built up on that

conception. It can

scarcely be said, indeed, that the Protestant attitude towards the

Catholic idea of matrimony was altogether a clear,

logical, or consistent

attitude. It was a revolt, an emotional impulse, rather than a matter of

reasoned principle. In its inevitable necessity, under the circumstances

of the rise of Protestantism, lies its justification,

and, on the whole,

its wholesome soundness. It took the form, which may

seem strange in a

religious movement, of proclaiming that marriage is not a religious but a

secular matter. Marriage is, said Luther, "a worldly thing," and Calvin

put it on the same level as house-building, farming, or shoe-making. But

while this secularization of marriage represents the

general and final

drift of Protestantism, the leaders of Protestantism

were themselves not

altogether confident and clear-sighted in the matter.

Even Luther was a

little confused on this point; sometimes he seems to

call marriage "a

sacrament," sometimes "a temporal business," to be left to the state.[332]

It was the latter view which tended to prevail. But at first there was a

period of confusion, if not of chaos, in the minds of

the Reformers; not

only were they not always convinced in their own minds; they were at

variance with each other, especially on the very

practical question of

divorce. Luther on the whole belonged to the more rigid party, including

Calvin and Beza, which would grant divorce only for

adultery and malicious

desertion; some, including many of the early English

Protestants, were in

favor of allowing the husband to divorce for adultery

but not the wife.

Another party, including Zwingli, were influenced by

Erasmus in a more

liberal direction, and--moving towards the standpoint of Roman Imperial

legislation--admitted various causes of divorce. Some, like Bucer,

anticipating Milton, would even allow divorce when the husband was unable

to love his wife. At the beginning some of the Reformers adopted the

principle of self-divorce, as it prevailed among the

Jews and was accepted

by some early Church Councils. In this way Luther held that the cause for

the divorce itself effected the divorce without any

judicial decree,

though a magisterial permission was needed for

remarriage. This question

of remarriage, and the treatment of the adulterer, were also matters of

dispute. The remarriage of the innocent party was

generally accepted; in

England it began in the middle of the sixteenth century, was pronounced

valid by the Archbishop of Canterbury, and confirmed by Parliament. Many

Reformers were opposed, however, to the remarriage of

the adulterous

party. Beust, Beza, and Melancthon would have him hanged and so settle the

question of remarriage; Luther and Calvin would like to kill him, but

since the civil rulers were slack in adopting that

measure they allowed

him to remarry, if possible in some other part of the

country.[333]

The final outcome was that Protestantism framed a

conception of marriage

mainly on the legal and economic factor--a factor not

ignored but strictly

subordinated by the Canonists--and regarded it as

essentially a contract.

In so doing they were on the negative side effecting a real progress, for

they broke the power of an antiquated and artificial

system, but on the

positive side they were merely returning to a conception which prevails in

barbarous societies, and is most pronounced when

marriage is most

assimilable to purchase. The steps taken by

Protestantism involved a

considerable change in the nature of marriage, but not necessarily any

great changes in its form. Marriage was no longer a

sacrament, but it was

still a public and not a private function and was still, however

inconsistently, solemnized in Church. And as

Protestantism had no rival

code to set up, both in Germany and England it fell back on the general

principles of Canon law, modifying them to suit its own special attitude

and needs.[334] It was the later Puritanic movement,

first in the

Netherlands (1580), then in England (1653), and

afterwards in New England,

which introduced a serious and coherent conception of

Protestant marriage,

and began to establish it on a civil base.

The English Reformers under Edward VI and his

enlightened

advisers, including Archbishop Cranmer, took liberal

views of

marriage, and were prepared to carry through many

admirable

reforms. The early death of that King exerted a

profound

influence on the legal history of English marriage.

The Catholic

reaction under Queen Mary killed off the more

radical Reformers,

while the subsequent accession of Queen Elizabeth,

whose attitude

towards marriage was grudging, illiberal, and old-

fashioned,

approximating to that of her father, Henry VIII (as

witnessed,

for instance, in her decided opposition to the

marriage of the

clergy), permanently affected English marriage law.

It became

less liberal than that of other Protestant

countries, and closer

to that of Catholic countries.

The reform of marriage attempted by the Puritans

began in England

in 1644, when an Act was passed asserting "marriage to be no

sacrament, nor peculiar to the Church of God, but

common to

mankind and of public interest to every

Commonwealth." The Act

added, notwithstanding, that it was expedient

marriage should be

solemnized by "a lawful minister of the Word." The more radical

Act of 1653 swept away this provision, and made

marriage purely

secular. The banns were to be published (by

registrars specially

appointed) in the Church, or (if the parties

desired) the

market-place. The marriage was to be performed by a

Justice of

the Peace; the age of consent to marriage for a man

was made

sixteen, for a woman fourteen (Scobell's _Acts and

Ordinances_,

pp. 86, 236). The Restoration abolished this

sensible Act, and

reintroduced Canon-law traditions, but the Puritan

conception of

marriage was carried over to America, where it took

root and

flourished.

It was out of Puritanism, moreover, as represented by

Milton, that the

first genuinely modern though as yet still imperfect

conception of the

marriage relationship was destined to emerge. The early Reformers in this

matter acted mainly from an obscure instinct of natural revolt in an

environment of plebeian materialism. The Puritans were moved by their

feeling for simplicity and civil order as the conditions for religious

freedom. Milton, in his _Doctrine and Discipline of

Divorce_, published in

1643, when he was thirty-five years of age, proclaimed the supremacy of

the substance of marriage over the form of it, and the spiritual autonomy

of the individual in the regulation of that form. He had grasped the

meaning of that conception of personal responsibility

which is the

foundation of sexual relationships as they are beginning to appear to men

to-day. If Milton had left behind him only his writings on marriage and

divorce they would have sufficed to stamp him with the seal of genius.

Christendom had to wait a century and a half before

another man of genius

of the first rank, Wilhelm von Humboldt, spoke out with equal authority

and clearness in favor of free marriage and free

divorce.

It is to the honor of Milton, and one of his chief

claims on our

gratitude, that he is the first great protagonist in

Christendom

of the doctrine that marriage is a private matter,

and that,

therefore, it should be freely dissoluble by mutual

consent, or

even at the desire of one of the parties. We owe to

him, says

Howard, "the boldest defence of the liberty of

divorce which had

yet appeared. If taken in the abstract, and applied

to both sexes

alike, it is perhaps the strongest defence which can

be made

through an appeal to mere authority;" though his

arguments, being

based on reason and experience, are often ill

sustained by his

authority; he is really speaking the language of the

modern

social reformer, and Milton's writings on this

subject are now

sometimes ranked in importance above all his other

work (Masson,

_Life of Milton_, vol. iii; Howard, op. cit., vol.

ii, p. 86,

vol. iii, p. 251; C.B. Wheeler, "Milton's Doctrine and Discipline

of Divorce," _Nineteenth Century_, Jan., 1907).

Marriage, said Milton, "is not a mere carnal

coition, but a human

society; where that cannot be had there can be no

true marriage"

(_Doctrine of Divorce_, Bk. i, Ch. XIII); it is "a covenant, the

very being whereof consists not in a forced

cohabitation, and

counterfeit performance of duties, but in unfeigned

love and

peace" (Ib., Ch. VI). Any marriage that is less than this is "an

idol, nothing in the world." The weak point in

Milton's

presentation of the matter is that he never

explicitly accords to

the wife the same power of initiative in marriage

and divorce as

to the husband. There is, however, nothing in his

argument to

prevent its equal application to the wife, an

application which,

while never asserting he never denies; and it has

been pointed

out that he assumes that women are the equals of men

and demands

from them intellectual and spiritual companionship;

however ready

Milton may have been to grant complete equality of

divorce to the

wife, it would have been impossible for a

seventeenth century

Puritan to have obtained any hearing for such a

doctrine; his

arguments would have been received with, if that

were possible,

even more neglect than they actually met. (Milton's

scornful

sonnet concerning the reception of his book is well

known.)

Milton insists that in the conventional Christian

marriage

exclusive importance is attached to carnal

connection. So long as

that connection is possible, no matter what

antipathy may exist

between the couple, no matter how mistaken they may

have been

"through any error, concealment, or misadventure,"

no matter if

it is impossible for them to "live in any union or contentment

all their days," yet the marriage still holds good, the two must

"fadge together" (op. cit., Bk. i). It is the Canon law, he says,

which is at fault, "doubtless by the policy of the devil," for

the Canon law leads to licentiousness (op. cit.). It

is, he

argues, the absence of reasonable liberty which

causes license,

and it is the men who desire to retain the

privileges of license

who oppose the introduction of reasonable liberty.

The just ground for divorce is "indisposition,

unfitness, or

contrariety of mind, arising from a cause in nature

unchangeable,

hindering, and ever likely to hinder, the main

benefits of

conjugal society, which are solace and peace."

Without the "deep

and serious verity" of mutual love, wedlock is

"nothing but the

empty husks of a mere outside matrimony," a mere

hypocrisy, and

must be dissolved (op. cit.).

Milton goes beyond the usual Puritan standpoint, and

not only

rejects courts and magistrates, but approves of

self-divorce; for

divorce cannot rightly belong to any civil or

earthly power,

since "ofttimes the causes of seeking divorce reside so deeply in

the radical and innocent affections of nature, as is

not within

the diocese of law to tamper with." He adds that, for the

prevention of injustice, special points may be

referred to the

magistrate, who should not, however, in any case, be

able to

forbid divorce (op. cit., Bk. ii, Ch. XXI). Speaking

from a

standpoint which we have not even yet attained, he

protests

against the absurdity of "authorizing a judicial

court to toss

about and divulge the unaccountable and secret

reason of

disaffection between man and wife."

In modern times Hinton was accustomed to compare the

marriage law

to the law of the Sabbath as broken by Jesus. We

find exactly the

same comparison in Milton. The Sabbath, he believes,

was made for

God. "Yet when the good of man comes into the

scales, we have

that voice of infinite goodness and benignity, that

'Sabbath was

made for man and not man for Sabbath.' What thing

ever was made

more for man alone, and less for God, than

marriage?" (_op.

cit._, Bk. i, Ch. XI). "If man be lord of the

Sabbath, can he be

less than lord of marriage?"

Milton, in this matter as in others, stood outside the currents of his

age. His conception of marriage made no more impression on contemporary

life than his _Paradise Lost_. Even his own Puritan

party who had passed

the Act of 1653 had strangely failed to transfer divorce and nullity cases

to the temporal courts, which would at least have been a step on the right

road. The Puritan influence was transferred to America and constituted the

leaven which still works in producing the liberal though too minutely

detailed divorce laws of many States. The American

secular marriage

procedure followed that set up by the English

Commonwealth, and the dictum

of the great Quaker, George Fox, "We marry none, but are witnesses of

it,"[335] (which was really the sound kernel in the Canon law) is regarded

as the spirit of the marriage law of the conservative

but liberal State of

Pennsylvania, where, as recently as 1885, a statute was passed expressly

authorizing a man and woman to solemnize their own

marriage.[336]

In England itself the reforms in marriage law effected by the Puritans

were at the Restoration largely submerged. For two and a half centuries

longer the English spiritual courts administered what

was substantially

the old Canon law. Divorce had, indeed, become more

difficult than before

the Reformation, and the married woman's lot was in

consequence harder.

From the sixteenth century to the second half of the

nineteenth, English

marriage law was peculiarly harsh and rigid, much less liberal than that

of any other Protestant country. Divorce was unknown to the ordinary

English law, and a special act of Parliament, at

enormous expense, was

necessary to procure it in individual cases.[337] There was even an

attitude of self-righteousness in the maintenance of

this system. It was

regarded as moral. There was complete failure to realize that nothing is

more immoral than the existence of unreal sexual unions, not only from

the point of view of theoretical but also of practical morality, for no

community could tolerate a majority of such unions.[338]

In 1857 an act

for reforming the system was at last passed with great difficulty. It was

a somewhat incoherent and make-shift measure, and was

avowedly put forward

only as a step towards further reform; but it still

substantially governs

English procedure, and in the eyes of many has set a

permanent standard of

morality. The spirit of blind conservatism,--_Nolumus

leges AngliƦ

mutare_,--which in this sphere had reasserted itself

after the vital

movement of Reform and Puritanism, still persists. In

questions of

marriage and divorce English legislation and English

public feeling are

behind alike both the Latin land of France and the

Puritanically moulded

land of the United States.

The author of an able and temperate essay on _The

Question of

English Divorce_, summing up the characteristics of

the English

divorce law, concludes that it is: (1) unequal, (2)

immoral, (3)

contradictory, (4) illogical, (5) uncertain, and (6)

unsuited to

present requirements. It was only grudgingly

introduced in a

bill, presented to Parliament in 1857, which was

stubbornly

resisted during a whole session, not only on

religious grounds by

the opponents of divorce, but also by the friends of

divorce, who

desired a more liberal measure. It dealt with the

sexes

unequally, granting the husband but not the wife

divorce for

adultery alone. In introducing the bill the

Attorney-General

apologized for this defect, stating that the measure

was not

intended to be final, but merely as a step towards

further

legislation. That was more than half a century ago,

but the

further step has not yet been taken. Incomplete and

unsatisfactory as the measure was, it seems to have

been regarded

by many as revolutionary and dangerous in the

highest degree. The

author of an article on "Modern Divorce" in the _Universal

Review_ for July, 1859, while approving in principle

of the

establishment of a special Divorce Court, yet

declared that the

new court was "tending to destroy marriage as a

social

institution and to sap female chastity," and that

"everyone now

is a husband and wife at will." "No one," he adds,

"can now

justly quibble at a deficiency of matrimonial

vomitories."

Yet, according to this law, it is not even possible

for a wife to

obtain a divorce for her husband's adultery, unless

he is also

cruel or deserts her. At first "cruelty" meant physical cruelty

and of a serious kind. But in course of time the

meaning of the

word was extended to pain inflicted on the mind, and

now coldness

and neglect may almost of themselves constitute

cruelty, though

the English court has sometimes had the greatest

hesitation in

accepting the most atrocious forms of refined

cruelty, because it

involved no "physical" element. "The time may very reasonably be

looked forward to, however," a legal writer has

stated

(Montmorency, "The Changing Status of a Married

Woman," _Law

Quarterly Review_, April, 1897), "when almost any act of

misconduct will, in itself, be considered to convey

such mental

agony to the innocent party as to constitute the

cruelty

requisite under the Act of 1857." (The question of cruelty is

fully discussed in J.R. Bishop's _Commentaries on

Marriage,

Divorce and Separation_, 1891, vol. i, Ch. XLIX; cf.

Howard, op.

cit., vol. ii, p. 111).

There can be little doubt, however, that cruelty

alone is a

reasonable cause for divorce. In many American

States, where the

facilities for divorce are much greater than in

England, cruelty

is recognized as itself sufficient cause, whether

the wife or the

husband is the complainant. The acts of cruelty

alleged have

sometimes been seemingly very trivial. Thus divorces