What happens when you settle?
You become a no one because one day you will find the one but you’ll be married so to act on those feelings would be adultury.
What about taking her as a second wife?
You could but for me it’s the same thing because now you’ll have a favorite and how much time will you want to spend with your first wife now?
To achieve the second tier of your pyramid of happiness you need to have the one else you are settling and when you eventually meet the one you will be a no one. Because you cannot act on those feeling towards the one and you are now stuck in a marriage you no longer want to be part of or you commit adultery with you mind and heart and maybe with your body.
Let’s Examine a Man’s Pyramid of Happiness
The First Tier
God – I truly believe that if you have no faith than you have nothing, yes I say that when I married I became complete but that transformation started with me accepting Jesus as my Lord and Savior once more and allowing His hand to guide my life.
The Second Tier
Children – Whether or not they were conceived before or after marriage your children should be the most important thing, after God, in your life. Their needs supersede everything else, your children and their needs should come before your needs, your wife’s needs and your friend’s needs they need to be your first and last priority at all times.
The Third Tier
Wife or Wives – In most cases it’s just the one wife but in my case it’s four after my children my wives and their needs are the most important thing to me and because of this I need to make sure that I meet their needs and they happiness because it all once again goes to my basic purpose for existing to be needed.
The Fourth Tier
In Laws – As I’ve said before when you marry someone you marry them with all their baggage and sometimes you’re In Laws can be hellish but remember that they gave you your wife so you need to consider them in all that you do.
The Fifth Tier
Family – Honor your parents.
The Sixth Tier
You – after you’ve met everyone else’s needs have been met only then should you consider yourself.