Romantic things you can do.
There are all kinds of things you can do to bring romance back into your marriage. Many of them are really simple, but they can pack a wallop when you put them into practice. Consider some of these suggestions:
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Take a wine tasting class together.
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Go to a reading by a writer you both admire. These take place at libraries, book stores and universities all the time.
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Spend an afternoon together in a ceramics workshop.
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Sign up for a cooking lesson with a chef.
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Start your own book club for two. Agree to read the same book and then discuss it.
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Take a dance class together. Ballroom dancing and Latin dance are famously romantic.
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Learn a new sport together. Consider taking tennis or golf lessons together.
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Hop on a roller coaster together. Feel free to cling to one another - and scream!
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Make a list together of all the places you'd like to visit. Then start planning to find the time for these getaways. Most of all go there!
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Paint a room in an unusual color. Maybe you are both tired of looking at the same walls and wish to brighten them up with something more inviting. Better yet, make it your bedroom, and then spend A LOT of time in their enjoying that new color!
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Send love notes to your mate. Post them everywhere – on the bathroom mirror, on the dashboard of their car, inside a briefcase, or even inside their coffee cup! In these notes, tell them how gorgeous, handsome, beautiful, sexy you think they are. Tell them how much you love them. Be creative be specific – even be naughty!
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Surprise your sweetie with tickets to an event you think she/he'd really enjoy.
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Hide them where she/he'll find them.
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Take her/him out on a date where she/he gets to choose whatever she/he wants to do, even if it's something you wouldn't ordinarily want to do (remember to be gracious).
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Take turns planning weekly dates, where you take turns deciding what to do. A date could be a picnic in a park, a drive in the country, a trip to an art gallery, or a movie.
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Turn your home into a fine restaurant for one evening. Surprise your lover with a menu, music, candles, a delicious meal, and table service (that's you). If you're frequently too busy to find time together, make spending time together a priority. Show your partner that s/he is your priority.
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Take a day off from all responsibilities, including the telephone, and just do what you both really want to do. Be completely spontaneous, and if you can't agree, take turns doing what you both want.
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Devote yourself to your partner's wishes for a fixed amount of time. She/he gets to decide whatever she/he wants you to do (assuming you agree to it). She/he may want to be held, have you read poetry, receive a massage, be understood about something, have you clean the kitchen, or be taken out for coffee. Taking turns with this can be a lot of fun.
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Be playful with each other. Feed each other with your fingers, stay in bed all day, take a walk in the rain, and sing old tunes you both know, or have a pillow fight. It doesn't matter what you do, just that you have fun again.
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Find a time to look deeply and lovingly into your lover's eyes; words are not necessary. Look at her/his face and see her/his beauty and uniqueness. Tell her/him what you see and feel. Take the risk to feel the depth of your emotions and to share that with your lover.
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At night before you fall asleep, tell her/him something that you love about her/him. Remember, you're the one who knows what your lover really enjoys.
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Surprise her/him with something special-don't wait for a birthday or anniversary.
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Complement each other lovingly in public and in privacy, show affection for each other.
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Show them how much your really care by being responsive, caring and loving whole heartedly. Do the little things that say I love you and care for you.
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Respect each other whole heartedly, partners who treat each other with kind and respect know that it is essential for having a deep connections and loving relationship.
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Be a good partner regularly get them something you know they will like and enjoy.
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Don't let negative or annoying comments bother you. Discuss the negativity when you are both calm.
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Take responsibility for your own growth, appearance and health.
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Communicating without fear is absolutely essential to building the deepest kind of friendship and intimate partner.
The idea is that whatever you do; make it special – and JUST DO IT! Don't be afraid to let your imagination go wild, or to appear silly. Your partner will enjoy the love and thought you've put into it, and over time you may find your relationship feeling vibrant once more.
Inevitably, conflicts will arise. There’s no reason why you can’t fight – it’s a part of marriage, but you should take a few suggestions on how to make sure your fights don’t impede your romantic feelings.
