Do You Remember Your Newlywed Feeling? Do You Long for It Again? by Gerard Willis - HTML preview

A full body massage can make the difference!

There are very few things you can do for your spouse than giving them a massage. Who doesn’t love the touch of the one you love? It’s even better when it helps relieve your stress and bring you closer!

Massage doesn’t have to be sexual either. It can be an expression of love that will last for a very long time. You owe it to yourself and your partner to learn what a good massage is all about.

Here are some tips to help you prepare for a massage.

•  Lock the door and unplug the phone.
•  Be sure you have the time to spend with your partner. A massage is not the type of experience you want to rush.
•  Turn down the light. The lighting should be soft and indirect. Candlelight is perfect. Even natural sunlight shining through a window in the afternoon is terrific.
•  You might want it quiet. Although I think we all know women like Barry White and other soft sensual music, you might prefer a quiet room. This will help you feel and hear what your partner enjoys.
•  You will want the room to be warm. Almost 80 degrees will allow a naked partner to be comfortable.
•  Make sure your hands are warm. You can accomplish this by rubbing them together thoroughly or by taking a bath together.
•  Cleanliness. Although it isn't essential to be clean before a massage, your partner will certainly be more relaxed if they are clean.

This massage will involve every area of the body include such places as behind the ears and between the toes. Be sure your partner will be comfortable by taking a bath. You might also make sure that your fingernails are clean and trimmed neatly - not necessarily short, just neat.

•  Aroma. A nice scented candle will provide the warmth, light, and scent that will set the mood. Women might prefer a lighter, more floral scent (rose or jasmine might be appropriate). Men might prefer a more rugged, woodsy scent like cedar or sandalwood
•  You will want to give a massage on a flat, firm surface. A firm mattress is acceptable; using pillows on the floor is good too. A massage table is best, but not everyone has one of these.
•  The massage receiver should prepare like they are preparing for bed. They might want to remove their contacts, their makeup, and have their teeth brushed. They are about to experience something special and might want to sleep or make love (or both) afterward.

It is best to keep in constant contact with your partner. As you move to different areas of the body do so in a continuous manner. Keeping contact helps the massage flow smoothly and increases intimacy, use pressure that feels good to your partner. Listen to their responses and let them tell you how much pressure is just right.

Take your time, relax and enjoy this intimate time together.

Keep your movements rhythmic, even, and symmetric. By following smooth patterns your partner will be able to understand what is happening and will relax more deeply.

Use an Oil or Massage Cream. Either allows your hands to glide smoothly over your partner. The effect of warm oil being smoothly spread over your body is absolutely delicious. As you move to new areas of the body, start by spreading warm oil with your hands. This makes an astounding prelude to massage.

You can start a massage on any portion of the body. You will want to be somewhat continuous and symmetric. Here are two suggestions:

First, start with the feet; work up the back of the legs, the back, neck, arms, chest, abdomen, and then front of the legs. Ending with the abdomen and the front of the legs allows you to direct blood flow to the genitals. This is a great order to use if you want to make love.

You can also start with the chest, abdomen, front of the legs, feet, back of the legs, buttocks, and then back. This order ends with the back and leaves your partner fully relaxed and quite possibly sleepy. This is a terrific massage if your partner needs to relax and rest.

So many people love having their backs rubbed. This can be so relaxing, but only if it’s done correctly. When performing a back massage, here are some great tips to consider:

•  You might feel most comfortable kneeling astride your partner.
•  Your partner might find that quite a bit of nervous tension disappears after a back massage.
•  You might find that up to a third of the time spent on a massage will be spent on the back. I doubt any of us will complain.
•  The back muscles are usually massaged in three groups. A successful back rub will cover all three groups: the long muscles that run parallel to the spine, the flat muscle groups that cover the top of the back and lower neck, and the wide band of muscles that stretches from the spine to the side of the back.
•  Begin the back rub with a simple circulation (sweeping motion) that touches all three areas in a simple, continuous stroke. You needn't press hard during this stroke.
•  Then make your hands flat and place your fingers facing the spine. Slide your hands up the spine, press with medium pressure. When you reach the neck turn your hands so that your fingers massage along the top of the shoulders and then down the outer sides of the back
•  When you come back down the outer sides of the back, turn your hands back to the original position. Repeat this circulation movement about ten times.

Then you can move on to pressing the back. Pressing the back is the most dramatic massage stroke available. In order to get the technique right, you need to understand one principle fact about massage.

Massage is the manipulation of muscle tissue. When pressing on the back, you will have two ridges of muscle that run just outboard of the spine. These ridges are where you should concentrate your attention.

When pressing up the back start at the very, very base of the spine (even as low as the upper buttock). Apply pressure with the heel of each hand. Lean forward as you press. Slide your hands along the ridges of muscle from the very base of the spine until you reach the shoulder blades.

In contrast to the circulation stroke, don't bring your hands back along the far outside of the back. Bring them back just outboard of where you just massaged.

You will know when you are doing this stroke properly. Your partner will moan with delight.

At least ten strokes are appropriate here. Your partner will probably ask for more. Entertain them with different variations (small circles as you glide up the spine, use your thumbs in place of the heel of your hand, scratch their back as you return to the base of the spine, and use your imagination).

Using your thumbs you can concentrate on the muscle tissue just outboard of the spine. You can glide up these muscles best if you use a liberal amount of massage oil. Small circular strokes in this area feel absolutely divine.