Flirting should be fun, not torture. However, everyday, millions of us let opportunities go by due to a fear of flirting. A fear of flirting is quite common even among the most confident of people. There are those that can run multinational corporations, get up in front of thousands of people and talk, but when it comes to flirting with a possible love interest, that confidence goes completely out the window.
The fear of flirting comes from the fear of crashing and burning. If one attempts to flirt and bombs badly, this is a total self confidence killer. It doesn’t matter what type of high powered person you are, getting the shove from a possible love interest shatters your self image. To get past this, try ignoring that little voice in your head. Think of all your successes and go for it.
The fear of flirting can also stem from lack of experience. Some people don’t know how to flirt or flirt very badly. Again, this can lead to potentially crashing and killing your self confidence. To get over this, try practicing on a friend. They will likely tell you if you’re likely to succeed or make a complete fool out of yourself.
The fear of flirting can also come from, not knowing the appropriate time or occasion. Many are reluctant to approach women in bars or night clubs because of their connotations. Flirting at work can also present problems. There really isn’t a right or wrong place to flirt. Just be aware of where you are and make sure your technique is good.
Finally, some fear flirting because of what it could bring. They fear approaching a person, successfully chatting and then finding out that they are horrible. What to do in those occasions sends people into a panic. If you do start to flirt with someone and you realize that this isn’t the person for you, be polite. Excuse yourself and go. Don’t be rude or try to sneak out of the place covertly.
Flirting is nothing to be afraid of and is mastered through doing. Get used to the idea that we all crash and burn at some point in our lives so flirting isn’t going to be any different. If you live in fear of the flirting consequences then you’re likely never to meet anyone.