This has likely happened to all of us. Were sitting on our own or with a friend when suddenly we are approached by a stranger. This person obviously has an interest. They introduce themselves but from that point the whole experience takes a nose dive. Within about 10 minutes you just want to get up and run but you don’t want to appear rude. This person isn’t vile or evil but definitely not your choice of dates. In this article we will look briefly at what you can do when flirting goes horribly wrong.
The first thing you need to do is decide if you would like this person under ordinary circumstances. If they are friendly but just horrible at flirting, you could take over the conversation. It could be that this person is just not good at flirting due to lack of experience. It would be a shame to loose a good opportunity due to this.
If the person isn’t someone you’d be interested in no matter how good they were at flirting, then you must remember to be polite. Even if this person is giving you the worst and most outdated pick up lines in history remember, they have feelings too. Tossing an insult back at them could hurt their feelings and shatter their confidence. Ask yourself, how would I feel if that were done to me?
Sometimes bad flirts don’t go away the first time. If they are bad at flirting, they may be just as bad at taking subtle hints. In this case you may have no choice but to be assertive. Just plainly tell them that you’re not interested. It doesn’t require you to be rude or mean just straight and direct.
If you are unfortunate enough to have an obnoxious flirt that won’t leave you in peace you can start to chirp back. People like this need to be taken down a peg or two because sometimes their behavior borders on being obnoxious. You could ask them if they have read the Professional guide to Flirting. If they haven’t tell them they need a copy and to go and practice on someone else.
We have all likely been the victim of bad flirts. Sometimes it is due to people being inexperienced and sometimes being obnoxious. One doesn’t usually have to be rude to get rid of a bad flirt. By being direct most of the time they will leave.