YOU:
I HAVE TO SAY THAT IT'S SO COOL THAT YOU
LOVE TO READ. THAT MUST BE WHY YOU'RE SO
SMART. AND WHEN YOU TOLD ME RECENTLY THAT
YOU BELIEVE IN HEARING THE TRUTH, EVEN WHEN
THE TRUTH MAY BE UNPLEASANT, I WAS SO
IMPRESSED.
YOU MADE A GOOD POINT THAT ALL TRUTHS ARE
NOT OF THE SAME WORTH AND THEY AREN'T
ALWAYS PLEASANT. BUT WHEN SOMETHING
SOUNDS NEGATIVE YET CAN BE STILL BE VITAL TO
LEARN, SUCH AS A WARNING FOR OVERALL
HAPPINESS, THAT GOT ME THINKING.
IT'S SO COOL THAT YOU MAKE ME THINK MORE
DEEPLY THAN I SOMETIMES DO.
OKAY. YOU STILL HAVEN’T ANSWERED MY
QUESTION ABOUT WHY YOU’VE BEEN IN AN
ESPECIALLY GOOD MOOD LATELY. THIS KEEPS MY
CURIOSITY INTACT.
IT DOESN’T SEEM TO BE OVER ANY LOTTERY
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WINNINGS SINCE YOU’RE NOT A GAMBLER. (AND,
OF COURSE, THE FACT THAT YOU’RE NOT DRIVING
A NEW CAR AND YOU HAVEN’T GIVEN ME – YOUR
BESTEST, BESTEST MOST FAVORITE AND
COOLEST GUYFRIEND EVER – A NEW CAR OR
TENNIS LESSONS OR A PAINTING THAT’S
ACTUALLY AN INVESTMENT – THESE ARE ALL
CLUES THAT YOU HAVEN’T RECENTLY COME INTO
A LARGE WINDFALL OF MONEY.)
IT DOESN’T SEEM TO BE OVER ANY STRAIGHT A'S
SINCE I LEARNED YOU GOT A “B+” IN SCIENCE.
(DON’T WORRY. I STILL LOVE YOU JUST AS YOU
ARE.)
YOU HAVEN’T BOUGHT ME A YEAR’S SUPPLY OF
MANGO DELIGHT FRUIT CAKE SO THAT MUST NOT
BE WHY YOU’RE SO GLAD THESE DAYS.
SO I MUST DEDUCE THAT IT’S ABOUT... IT’S
ABOUT... (I CAN HARDLY WRITE THE WORDS)... IT
MUST BE ABOUT A GUY. (OH! DAGGERS!
DAGGERS TO MY HEART! DAGGERS!)
SO IF IT IS AND IF YOU INSIST ON NOT TELLING
ME ABOUT HIM THEN I MUST SHARE WITH YOU MY
ALL-KNOWING, ALL-WISE EXPERTNESS ON THE
SUBJECT OF MEN SO AS TO DO MY FRIENDLY
DUTY TO PROTECT YOU FROM POSSIBLE JERKS
DISGUISED AS GREAT GUYS THAT SMILE A LOT.
LADIES NEED TO KNOW SOME RULES GUYS USE
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TO TRICK GIRLS INTO GETTING INTO A LOT OF
TROUBLE WITH THEM. LEARN THESE LARGELY
UNREVEALED “GUYS ONLY” RULES AND LADIES
SUCH AS YOURSELF MAY PREVENT SOME
SERIOUS HEARTACHE AND PAIN.
LET ME TELL YOU NOW, I AM SO SORRY IF ANY OF
THIS IS HARD TO HEAR BUT YOU SAID YOU KNOW
NOT ALL TRUTHS ARE PLEASANT AND KNOWING
SOME TOUGH FACTS IN ADVANCE ARE WHAT'S
OFTEN NEEDED TO KNOW HOW TO RECOGNIZE
DANGER AND TROUBLE SPECIFICALLY TO PREVENT
OR AVOID IT.
JERK RULE #1: JERKS ENCOURAGE GUYS TO
BRING ALCOHOL TO GET HER DRUNK OR GET A
GIRL TO DRINK A DRINK THE JERK GUY MAKES
FOR HER OR THAT HE CAN TAMPER WITH WHEN
SHE’S NOT LOOKING.
JERK'S GOAL: JERKS WANT TO GET HER DRUNK
ENOUGH SO THAT SHE’S NOT STRONG ENOUGH
OR CLEAR THINKING ENOUGH OR PHYSICALLY
ABLE TO FIGHT HIM OFF WHEN THE JERK STARTS
TO DATE RAPE HER (MEANING THE GUY FORCES
HER TO HAVE SEX WITH HIM BECAUSE SHE’S TOO
DRUNK TO SAY NO OR TO RESIST).
IF HE CAN CAN TAMPER WITH HER DRINK BY
SLIPPING IN A DATE RAPE DRUG WHEN SHE’S NOT
LOOKING (IT’S AN ODORLESS AND TASTELESS
DRUG) THEN SHE’LL PASS OUT AND HE AND AS
MANY OF HIS FRIENDS AS THEY WANT CAN USE
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HER FOR SEX FOR AT LEAST AN HOUR OR MORE
AND SHE’LL BE PASSED OUT THE WHOLE TIME SO
SHE CAN’T SAY NO. THE DRUG CAN EVEN MESS
WITH HER MEMORY SO SHE DOESN’T REMEMBER
ENOUGH DETAILS TO ACCURATELY IDENTIFY THE
GUY(S) THAT RAPED HER.
HE COULD ALSO USE YOUR DRUNKEN STATE TO
TAKE PORNOGRAPHIC PICTURES OF YOU TO SEXT
TO OTHERS OR TO POST UP ON THE INTERNET.
HE COULD EVEN MAKE A VIDEO OF IT AND
BLACKMAIL YOU SAYING THAT IF YOU DON’T
AGREE TO KEEP HAVING SEX WITH HIM FOR THE
NEXT SEVERAL WEEKS OR MONTHS OR IF YOU
DON’T LET HIS FRIENDS HAVE SEX WITH YOU
ALSO (EVEN IF HE THREATENS GANG RAPE) THEN
HE’LL POST THE VIDEO OR PICTURES OF YOU
NUDE OR HAVING SEX WITH HIM ONLINE AND
HE’LL CLAIM YOU’RE A SLUT.
LEGAL GUESSES: THIS IS NON-CONSENSUAL SEX
WHICH IS BASICALLY RAPE AND I'M GUESSING IT’S
MOST LIKELY ILLEGAL. I HEARD SOMEWHERE IT IS
FINALLY POSSIBLE TO PROSECUTE A GUY FOR SEX
WITH A GIRL THAT WAS INTOXICATED PRECISELY
BECAUSE SHE COULDN'T CONSENT (AGREE OR
THINK CLEARLY ENOUGH TO AGREE TO SEX WITH
THE GUY) WHILE SHE WAS UNDER THE INFLUENCE.
FINALLY ATTORNEYS AND JUDGES ARE USING
MORE COMMON SENSE TO GET BETTER JUSTICE
FOR VICTIMS OF RAPE.
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DIRTY CRIMINAL DEFENSE LAWYERS (ATTORNEYS
THAT DEFEND GUYS THAT ARE ACCUSED OF OR
ARE GUILTY OF RAPE) WILL STILL TRY TO POINT
OUT THAT SHE (THE VICTIM) DRINKS ALCOHOL SO
SHE MUST HAVE BEEN TOO DRUNK TO RECALL
WHAT REALLY HAPPENED OR TOO DRUNK TO BE
ABLE TO ACCURATELY IDENTIFY THE GUY THAT
ACTUALLY DID IT.
OR THEY’LL SAY BECAUSE SHE DRINKS ALCOHOL
SHE PROBABLY HAS SEX WITH LOTS OF GUYS
AND IN THIS CASE SHE SIMPLY CHANGED HER
MIND AFTERWARDS AND CLAIMED IT WAS RAPE
WHEN INITIALLY IT WAS CONSENSUAL.
OR SHE’S AN ANGRY FEMALE THAT JUST WANTS
REVENGE BECAUSE HE IS DATING SOME OTHER
GIRL SO IT MUST NOT HAVE BEEN RAPE BECAUSE
SHE DRINKS ALCOHOL OR DOES DRUGS SO NO
ONE SHOULD BELIEVE HER WHEN SHE’S REALLY
JUST JEALOUS THAT HE IS DATING SOMEONE
ELSE.
TOO OFTEN CASES WHERE THE FEMALE WAS
INTOXICATED ARE CASES THAT ARE DIFFICULT TO
PROSECUTE (MEANING THAT TOO OFTEN GUYS
DON'T GET IN TROUBLE FOR IT.)
HEALTH ISSUES: IN ADDITION TO THIS GUY GIVING
YOU ONE OR MORE S.T.I.S HE CAN GET YOU
PREGNANT AND ABANDON YOU AFTERWARDS. IF
HE’S TOO “BIG” (ESPECIALLY IF HE... FOR LACK
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OF A LESS GRAPHIC CHOICE OF WORDS...
“ABUSES” YOUR RECTUM) OR IF HE AGREES TO
LET HIS FRIENDS RAPE YOU ALSO THEN YOU CAN
SUFFER A LOT OF PHYSICAL DAMAGE WHERE YOU
WOULD NEED SPECIAL MEDICAL CARE TO HELP
YOU HEAL AND YOU’LL LIKELY BE IN A LOT OF PAIN
FOR POSSIBLY DAYS AT A TIME AFTER. OVERALL,
RAPE IS A TERRIBLE, TERRIBLE, SELFISH CRIME.
WITH JUST A FEW OF THE RISKS MENTIONED
ABOVE THAT ARE POSSIBLE TO SUFFER, ANY
FEMALE THAT IS THINKING CLEARLY WILL NEVER
THINK IT'S WORTH IT TO TRY SEX BEFORE
MARRIAGE – ESPECIALLY DRUNKEN OR
INTOXICATED SEX – NOT EVEN ONCE.
IF SHE'S SMART, RATIONAL, OR THINKING
REASONABLY SHE'LL SAY NO AND BE SO MUCH
HAPPIER FOR IT AS SHE WISELY AVOIDS SO MANY
DIFFERENT RISKS OF DANGERS, SORROWS AND
SUFFERING LIKE THE ONES WRITTEN ABOVE.
LESSONS TO BE LEARNED: YOU’LL LOSE IN MORE
WAYS THAN ONE IF YOU AGREE TO SPEND TIME
ALONE WITH A GUY THAT YOU CHOOSE TO DRINK
BEER WITH OR SOME OTHER ALCOHOLIC
BEVERAGE WITH. YOU’LL ALSO LOSE IN MANY
WAYS IF YOU DO DRUGS WITH A GUY.
OVERALL, IF YOU ARE INTOXICATED IN ANY WAY
AT ANYTIME BECAUSE YOU CHOOSE TO TRY
ALCOHOL OR DRUGS THEN AT ANYTIME IN THE
FUTURE ANY LAWYER CAN ASK YOU IF YOU’VE
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EVER DRANK ALCOHOL OR DONE DRUGS AND IF
THEY CAN PROVE THAT YOU HAVE THEN THEY CAN
DESTROY YOUR CREDIBILITY WHICH MEANS THEY
CAN GIVE THE JUDGE AND JURY ENOUGH
JUSTIFICATION TO MAKE PEOPLE BELIEVE YOUR
WORD IS NOT RELIABLE BECAUSE WHEN YOU
CAN’T THINK CLEARLY THEN YOU CAN’T IDENTIFY A
PERSON ACCURATELY OR THE TRUTH ABOUT A
SITUATION OR EVENT ACCURATELY BECAUSE YOU
CHOSE OF YOUR OWN FREE WILL TO HAVE YOUR
MENTAL CAPACITIES IMPAIRED SO THEREFORE
YOU ARE NOT A TRUSTWORTHY PERSON FOR ANY
TESTIMONY OR AS A WITNESS IN COURT.
AND BEFORE I END THIS NOTE OF WARNING
THERE ARE TWO MORE QUICK LESSONS: 1) WHEN
YOU ARE DRUNK OR ON DRUGS, IF HE LEAVES
YOU ALONE SOME PLACE FOR ANY AMOUNT OF
TIME FOR ANY REASON THEN YOU WILL BE
VULNERABLE TO A TOTAL STRANGER KIDNAPPING
YOU AND USING YOU AS A PERMANENT SEX
SLAVE FOR YEARS AND YEARS OR EVEN
MURDERING YOU.
SO IF A GUY EVER WANTS TO GET YOU DRUNK OR
HIGH, NO MATTER HOW YOUNG OR OLD YOU MAY
BE, HE IS NOT LOOKING OUT FOR YOUR SAFETY
OR HAPPINESS. AND BESIDES, JUST HOW SAFE
ARE YOU ANYWAY WITH A DRUNK DATE IF A
SOBER CRIMINAL COMES ALONG AND BEATS UP
YOUR WEAK (DRUNK) DATE TO KIDNAP YOU
ANYWAY?
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2) IF A JERK DOESN’T TRY TO GET YOU
INTOXICATED THEN HE’LL TRY AND SHOW YOU
SOME PORN TO CONVINCE YOU THAT NORMAL
OR COOL WOMEN HAVE SEX WITH GUYS WITHOUT
BEING MARRIED TO HIM FIRST.
BUT MOST PORN IS A LIE BECAUSE EVERY GIRL
AND NEARLY ALL WOMEN THAT ARE USED IN PORN
MAGAZINES AND VIDEOS ARE OFTEN FORCED
INTO IT EITHER BY BEING KIDNAPPED FIRST OR
INTOXICATION THAT RESULTS IN KIDNAPPING THAT
RESULTS IN THESE WOMEN BEING USED AS SEX
SLAVES (SOMETIMES CALLED “PROSTITUTES”)
FOR YEARS AND YEARS AND THEIR FAMILY
MEMBERS OFTEN HAVE TROUBLE FINDING THESE
MISSING FEMALES. IT’S TRULY HORRIBLE.
AND THOSE FEW WOMEN THAT CHOOSE TO SIGN
CONTRACTS TO BE PAID AND USED FOR SEX
VIDEOS OFTEN GET TRICKED INTO SIGNING VAGUE
AGREEMENTS WHERE THE MOVIE PRODUCER CAN
CHANGE THE RULES WHENEVER HE WANTS SO IF
HE TELLS HER TO SHOW UP TO FILM A SEX SCENE
WITH ONE GUY HE CAN CHANGE HIS MIND AND
HAVE HER SHOW UP UNPREPARED TO BE
BRUTALLY ABUSED AND GANG RAPED INSTEAD AS
A MEANS OF MALE ENTERTAINMENT FOR A
DIFFERENT MOVIE OR VIDEO INSTEAD. NEARLY ALL
RAPE SCENES IN MOVIES – EVEN R-RATED
MOVIES – ARE NOT FAKE.
AND DON’T EXPECT ANYONE TO ASK HER HOW
SHE FEELS ABOUT IT AFTERWARDS BECAUSE,
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AFTER ALL, SHE SIGNED UP FOR IT. (PEOPLE IN
THE SEX TRADE ARE BASICALLY SOCIOPATHIC.
THEY DON’T CARE ABOUT ANYONE’S WELFARE OR
SATISFACTION. THEY ONLY CARE ABOUT THEIR
OWN SELFISH WANTS AND FINANCIAL GREED TO
PROFIT OFF OF HER PAIN AND SUFFERING.)
JERK RULE #2: JERKS WILL TELL A GIRL ANYTHING
AND EVERYTHING SHE WANTS TO HEAR IN ORDER
TO CONVINCE HER TO HAVE SEX WITH HIM – THE
KIND OF SEX THAT THE GUY WANTS WHEN HE
WANTS IT. JERKS DON'T REALLY CARE ABOUT
WHAT SHE WANTS. JERKS THINK GIRLS WILL
BELIEVE ANYTHING – ESPECIALLY IF A HE TELLS
HER, “I LOVE YOU.”
ONCE SHE’S GIVEN HIM THE SEX HE WANTS,
WHEN HE GETS TIRED OF HER HE JUST DUMPS
HER AND DOES THE SAME THING ALL OVER AGAIN
TO GET A DIFFERENT GIRL TO HAVE SEX WITH HIM
UNTIL HE GETS TIRED OF HER TOO.
MOST GUYS WANT SEX WITH A VARIETY OF
DIFFERENT WOMEN. LOTS OF US BELIEVE THE LIE
THAT SEX WITH JUST ONE WOMAN IS BORING.
(THE LIE BASICALLY IS THERE TO CONVINCE GUYS
THAT MARRIAGE IS BORING. BUT I BELIEVE THAT'S
GOT TO BE A LIE SINCE THE HAPPIEST GUYS I
KNOW HAVE BEEN MARRIED TO THE SAME
WOMAN FOR DECADES AND DECADES.)
JERK'S GOAL: SINCE GODLESS GUYS (THOSE
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THAT ACTUALLY HATE RIGHTEOUSNESS EVEN
THOUGH THEY MAY VERBALLY DENY SUCH) LOVE
THE IDEA OF HAVING PRE-MARITAL SEX –
ESPECIALLY REALLY PERVERTED OR
“EXPERIMENTAL” SEX – WITH A WHOLE BUNCH OF
DIFFERENT GIRLS INSTEAD OF THE SAME GIRL,
THIS TRICK IS COMMON WITH MOST GUYS. THE
IDEA IS THAT HE WILL SMOOTH TALK A GIRL TO
MAKE HER BELIEVE SHE’LL ENJOY SEX WITH HIM.
BUT THE FACT THAT MOST GUYS EITHER DON’T
TALK ABOUT THE TRUTH OF WHAT A WOMAN
REALLY ENJOYS IN SEX (OR ARE JUST TOO
SELFISH TO THINK ABOUT WHAT SHE ACTUALLY
LIKES AS OPPOSED TO THE LIES THE PORN
INDUSTRY SPREADS ABOUT WHAT A WOMAN
LIKES) IS THE FACT THAT MOST OFTEN, GUYS
DON’T CARE ABOUT A YOUNG WOMAN’S
COMFORT OR PLEASURE NEARLY AS MUCH AS
THEY THINK OF THEIR OWN.
SO MOST YOUNG LADIES HAVE THE SAME
COMPLAINT AFTER SEX WITH A GUY: THAT IT
REALLY HURT HER PHYSICALLY (SOME GIRLS
ACTUALLY CRY BUT HE WON’T STOP – EVEN IF
SHE IS BLEEDING) OR THAT IT WASN’T AS
EXCITING OR FUN AS SHE THOUGHT IT WOULD BE.
THIS IS BECAUSE GUYS JUST WANT TO SATISFY
THEMSELVES FIRST AND FOREMOST AND THEY
DON’T WANT TO BELIEVE THE FACT THAT FEMALES
ARE SATISFIED SEXUALLY IN WAYS THAT ARE
MUCH MORE DIFFERENT THAN GUYS REALIZE. OR,
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TO BE FRANK, PUTTING SOMETHING IN ANY
FEMALE’S ORIFICES JUST ISN’T AS PLEASANT FOR
FEMALES AS GUYS WANT TO BELIEVE.
PLUS MEN OFTEN WANT TO TRY A BUNCH OF
DIFFERENT SEXUAL POSITIONS THAT DON’T
INVOLVE HAVING THE WOMAN LYING ON HER
BACK ON A COMFORTABLE BED (THE MOST
PHYSICALLY COMFORTABLE AND SATISFYING
POSITION FOR MOST WOMEN) WHICH ALSO
PROVES THAT MOST OF THE SEX MEN WANT IS
FOCUSED ON SATISFYING MEN SINCE MEN CAN
ENJOY SEX IN FAR MANY MORE DIFFERENT
POSITIONS THAN A WOMAN CAN.
MEN ALSO THINK SEX IS MUTUALLY FULFILLING
WHEN IT’S FAST AND ONLY LASTS A FEW MINUTES
EVEN THOUGH WOMEN OFTEN ENJOY IT MUCH
MORE WHEN IT'S SLOW AND LASTS FOR MUCH
LONGER THAN MEN PLAN ON (SINCE WOMEN CAN
ENJOY IT FOR LITERALLY OVER AN HOUR OR
LONGER WHEN A MAN IS FOCUSED JUST ON HER
INSTEAD OF ON HIMSELF). WOMEN MAY SPEAK
THE TRUTH ABOUT THESE MATTERS BUT GUYS
FEEL INSULTED WHEN WHAT WOMEN SAY
ACTUALLY TURNS OUT TO BE TRUE.
MOST OF THE LIES ABOUT SEX THAT US GUYS
BELIEVE ARE LIES STARTED BY THE PORN
INDUSTRY AND PERPETUATED BY SELFISH GUYS
THAT MAKE UP FAKE STORIES ABOUT THEIR OWN
SEXUAL EXPERIENCE WITH A WOMAN OR WHAT
THEY HEARD ABOUT FROM SOMEONE ELSE.
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AND, SADLY, SOME FEMALES THAT WERE
SEXUALLY ABUSED AS CHILDREN OFTEN
PERPETUATE SEXUAL MYTHS MORE AS A MEANS
TO SATISFY THE GUY(S) THEY DATE OR ARE
MARRIED TO THAT ABUSE THEM AS ADULTS
(ALTHOUGH THESE WOMEN HAVE BEEN TAUGHT
TO BELIEVE THAT IT’S NOT ABUSE EVEN THOUGH
IT REALLY IS).
AND WHERE DO US GUYS GET THESE TERRIBLE
AND SELFISH IDEAS FROM THAT ULTIMATELY HURT
GIRLS AND WOMEN? MOVIES, MUSIC, PORN,
TELEVISION, THE INTERNET, SOCIAL NETWORKING,
MAGAZINES, PLENTY OF ADULTS THAT SET A BAD
EXAMPLE, TERRIBLE DADS OR TOO MANY BAD
OLDER BROTHERS OR GUYS FROM SCHOOL OR
FRIENDS FROM SCHOOL (IF NOT THEIR DADS) OR
MOST OFTEN A COMBINATION OF IT ALL.
LEGAL GUESSES: ALTHOUGH IT’S ETHICALLY
WRONG FOR A GUY TO LIE TO A WOMAN TO GET
HER TO BELIEVE HE REALLY LOVES HER SO SHE’LL
HAVE SEX WITH HIM, I'M PRETTY SURE IT'S NOT
ILLEGAL TO LIE TO SOMEONE ABOUT WHETHER OR
NOT YOU REALLY LOVE THEM.
HEALTH ISSUES: THE SAME HEALTH CONCERNS
FROM JERK RULE #1 APPLY HERE SO THE NEXT
COUPLE OF SENTENCES ARE REMINDERS
BECAUSE IT’S IMPORTANT. IN ADDITION TO THIS
GUY GIVING YOU ONE OR MORE S.T.I.S HE CAN
GET YOU PREGNANT AND ABANDON YOU
AFTERWARDS.
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IF HE’S TOO “BIG” (ESPECIALLY IF HE... FOR LACK
OF A LESS GRAPHIC CHOICE OF WORDS...
“ABUSES” YOUR RECTUM) OR IF HE TRICKS YOU
INTO MEETING HIM ALONE SOMEPLACE HE CAN
RAPE YOU EVEN IF YOU AREN’T DRUNK OR IN A
WORSE CASE SCENARIO HE MAY HAVE A FRIEND
THAT RAPES YOU WITH HIM.
BUT EVEN IF IT’S “CONSENSUAL” SEX, MOST
YOUNG WOMEN ARE “SMALL” WHICH MEANS YOU
CAN SUFFER A LOT OF PHYSICAL DAMAGE WHERE
YOU WOULD NEED SPECIAL MEDICAL CARE TO
HELP YOU HEAL AND YOU’LL LIKELY BE IN A LOT
OF PAIN FOR POSSIBLY MANY DAYS
AFTERWARDS.
BASICALLY EVERYTHING ABOUT MARRIAGE TO A
GOOD WOMAN IS TO HELP TEACH A MAN TO
HAVE CONSIDERATION FOR OTHERS; TO TEACH
US GUYS TO BE SYMPATHETIC TO THE FEELINGS,
SUFFERINGS, NEEDS AND CONCERNS OF OTHERS.
THESE LESSONS ARE OFTEN NOT TAUGHT BY MEN
TO OTHER MEN. IT TAKES A GOOD WOMAN TO DO
IT AND TO DO IT EFFECTIVELY SO THAT WE
ACTUALLY CARE AND BECOME MORE SELFLESS IN
SERVICE TO OTHERS.
IF US GUYS CAN'T LEARN TO RESTRAIN
OURSELVES WELL SEXUALLY BEFORE MARRIAGE
THEN WE'LL BE TERRIBLE AT RESTRAINING
OURSELVES DURING MARRIAGE WHEN OUR WIFE
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ISN'T IN THE MOOD OR DOESN'T HAVE TIME OR
GOOD HEALTH FOR SEX.
CHRIST HIMSELF TAUGHT THAT THE GREATEST
AMONG US WILL BE A SERVANT. THE PRINCIPLE
BEING THAT SELFLESS SERVICE IS MORE GOD-
LIKE THAN MASTERS THAT DEMAND TO BE
SERVED.
OVERALL, SEX AT A YOUNG AGE – ESPECIALLY
BEFORE MARRIAGE – MOST OFTEN COMES WITH A
HIGH EMOTIONAL COST (DAMAGES), SOCIAL
COSTS, PHYSICAL COSTS AND CERTAINLY
SPIRITUAL COSTS THAT CAN LEAVE YOU
DEVASTATED WHEN IT’S NOT A PLEASANT
EXPERIENCE. (AND HEARTACHE FROM LIES AND
BROKEN PROMISES IS NEVER A PLEASANT
EXPERIENCE.)
WAITING UNTIL YOU'RE MARRIED TO HAVE SEX IS
THE BEST WAY TO ENJOY IT AND AVOID A TON OF
PAIN AND HEARTACHE. BECAUSE MOST OF US
GUYS ARE GENERALLY SELFISH (NOT GOOD) AND
MOST WOMEN ARE SELFLESS (VERY GOOD), THE
STRONGEST INFLUENCE ON A MAN IS HIS WIFE
AND IT'S THE GOOD INFLUENCE OF WOMEN THAT
TEACHES US MEN HOW TO BE BETTER AT DOING
GOOD SUCH AS BEING MORE SELFLESS LIKE YOU.
WHEN WE FOCUS MORE ON SATISFYING A
WOMAN THE RIGHT WAY IN RELATIONSHIPS AND
MARRIAGE (EMOTIONALLY, SPIRITUALLY,
PHYSICALLY, SEXUALLY ETC) THEN SHE'LL BE
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HAPPIER BECAUSE WE MEN ARE BECOMING LESS
SELF-ABSORBED AND MOST MEN I KNOW PREFER
TO HAVE A TRULY HAPPY WIFE.
LESSONS TO BE LEARNED: YOU CAN NEVER
TRUST WHAT ANY PERSON SAYS UNLESS THEIR
BEHAVIOR MATCHES WHAT THEY SAY. IF A GUY
SAYS THAT HE LOVES YOU THEN IF HE REALLY
DOES LOVE YOU THEN HE WILL WAIT TO HAVE SEX
WITH YOU UNTIL AFTER HE MARRIES YOU
(“WAITING” IS A CLEAR EXAMPLE OF BEHAVIOR –
GOOD BEHAVIOR).
NOT TOUCHING A GIRL INAPPROPRIATELY IS
ANOTHER EXAMPLE OF RESPECTFUL OR GOOD
BEHAVIOR. OTHERWISE, A GUY WILL SAY
ANYTHING TO PUSH YOU INTO HAVING SEX EARLY
IN A RELATIONSHIP.
OR REALIZE HE'S PUSHING YOU BOTH INTO
TROUBLE IF HE WON’T SAY MUCH BUT HIS HANDS
JUST START WANDERING TO TOUCH YOU
SEXUALLY ON PLACES ON YOUR BODY THAT HE
SHOULD NOT OR START REMOVING YOUR
CLOTHES SO HE CAN SEE YOUR NAKEDNESS
(INAPPROPRIATELY WANDERING HANDS IS A CLEAR
EXAMPLE OF BEHAVIOR – SEXUAL BEHAVIOR OR,
IN MY OPINION, BAD BEHAVIOR WHEN IT'S WITH
ANYONE OTHER THAN ONE'S LAWFULLY WEDDED
SPOUSE).
AND THE ONES THAT JUST WANT TO PUSH YOU
FOR SEX ARE THE SAME ONES THAT WILL WANT
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TO BE ALONE WITH YOU LATE AT NIGHT AND
ALMOST DEFINITELY PAST WHATEVER YOUR
CURFEW IS. THOSE ARE THE GUYS THAT ARE
JERKS. THEY OFTEN HIDE THEIR JERK WAYS
BEHIND SMILES AND LOTS OF PROMISES THEY
DON’T PLAN ON KEEPING.
THE GUYS THAT ARE THE MOST TRUSTWORTHY
ARE THE WELL BEHAVED ONES.
HOW DO YOU RECOGNIZE THE WELL BEHAVED
ONES? THEY ARE THE GOOD GUYS THAT DON’T
JOKE ABOUT SEX ALL OF THE TIME, THEY DON’T
SHOW YOU PORN OR TALK ABOUT SEX OR TALK
ABOUT PORN OR ASK YOU TOO OFTEN ABOUT
SEXUAL QUESTIONS. THEY KNOW THAT PORN
KILLS LOVE.
WELL BEHAVED OR “GOOD GUYS” DON’T INSULT
WOMEN OR GIRLS AND THEY DON’T CRACK
SEXUAL JOKES THAT PORTRAY WOMEN OR GIRLS
IN A SLUTTY OR PORNOGRAPHIC WAY. THEY
DEFINITELY DO NOT HIT WOMEN OR USE THEIR
GREATER MALE PHYSICAL STRENGTH AGAINST
WOMEN. THEY APPLAUD AND PROTECT THE
MORAL STRENGTHS OF GOOD WOMEN.
GOOD GUYS DON’T HAVE A TEMPER AND THEY
DON’T GET ANGRY EASILY. TRUSTWORTHY OR
GOOD GUYS DON’T INTRODUCE YOU TO SEXUAL
MUSIC AND THEY DON’T TRY TO GET YOU
INTOXICATED. MOST GOOD GUYS DON’T USE A
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LOT OF FOUL LANGUAGE – IF ANY AT ALL.
GOOD GUYS ACTUALLY TALK MORE ABOUT GOOD
THINGS, NON-SEXUAL THINGS AND YET THEY
KNOW SEX IS GOOD WHEN YOU’RE MARRIED AND
ONLY LEADS TO HEARTACHE AND PAIN WHEN SEX
IS EXPERIENCED BEFORE MARRIAGE OR WITH
SOMEONE OTHER THAN YOUR LAWFULLY WEDDED
SPOUSE.
GOOD GUYS THINK HIGHLY OF WOMEN AND
SPEAK HIGHLY OF WOMEN AND ARE NOT
OFFENDED BY THE FACT THAT MOST FEMALES SET
A BETTER EXAMPLE IN MORAL AND SPIRITUAL
ISSUES THAN GUYS DO.
GOOD GUYS ALSO LOVE THEIR MOTHERS AND NO
MATTER HOW MANY TIMES YOU ASK HIM OVER
THE COURSE OF YOUR FRIENDSHIP OR DATING
ABOUT WHAT HE THINKS OF HIS MOM, HE’LL
ALWAYS SAY GOOD THINGS ABOUT HER.
GOOD GUYS TAKE THINGS SLOW WHEN DATING
AND ARE NOT ALWAYS TRYING TO GET YOU
ALONE. GOOD GUYS ULTIMATELY CARE MORE
ABOUT HOW THINGS MAY AFFECT YOU MORE
THAN WHAT THE GUY MIGHT GET FROM
SOMEONE.
GOOD GUYS CARE MORE ABOUT YOUR
HAPPINESS AND WELL-BEING AS THEIR GIRLFRIEND
OR WIFE THAN THEIR OWN. GOOD GUYS PUT
YOUR NEEDS AND COMFORT BEFORE THEIR OWN.
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GOOD GUYS CARE VERY MUCH ABOUT HOW
THEIR DECISION AND OTHER PEOPLE’S CHOICES
AFFECT YOU AND YOUR LIFE.
GOOD GUYS ARE MUCH MORE CONSIDERATE OF
OTHER PEOPLE THAN JERKS ARE. JERKS ARE
OFTEN SELFISH. GOOD GUYS ARE NOT SO
SELFISH. GOOD GUYS LIKE TO DO WHAT THEIR
GIRLFRIEND LIKES TO DO.
JERKS DON’T VALUE TENDERNESS BUT INSTEAD
THEY MOCK IT. GOOD GUYS VALUE TENDERNESS
FOR THE CIVILITY IT PROVIDES FAMILIES AND
SOCIETY TOWARDS GREATER PEACE AND
HAPPINESS.
JERKS OFTEN HATE GOD BUT GOOD GUYS –
ESPECIALLY THE REALLY GOOD ONES – GO TO
CHURCH EVERY SUNDAY. CHURCH IS THE BEST
PLACE, SECOND ONLY TO THE HOME, WHERE WE
LEARN TO CARE MORE FOR OTHERS THAN WE DO
FOR OURSELVES.
GOD TEACHES US TO LOVE AND SERVE ONE
ANOTHER AND MOMS OFTEN TEACH THE SAME
LESSONS TO THEIR CHILDREN (ESPECIALLY IN THE
WAY US BOYS NEED MOST: BY LOTS AND LOTS
AND LOTS OF REPEAT LESSONS).
JERKS DON’T WANT TO