“That's all very well to say, but I am sitting here night after night, day after day on my own, with no friends or family ties nearby. I feel very lonely and no one would know, or care, if I lived or died. I feel and am alone. I am a victim of fate.”
Know firstly that you have chosen this situation. You might see yourself as a victim of fate, but you have made this choice either consciously or subconsciously. This is what your soul needs at this moment and has chosen. But you can make another choice. You can decide that this is not who you really are and make a different choice. You decide who you want to be as I have no preference. If you want to sit in a darkened room night and day and feel sorry for yourself, that is your choice. Let self-indulgence reign!
You might not be sitting in a darkened room but clinging to a partner or child for company. Anything or anyone is preferable to being alone and there are some good times. I have to work two jobs to have this lay-about with me but I'd rather that, than end up on my own again. There's really nothing there now, but what's preferable? Being separated on my own without much money, or putting up with a person who really doesn't bother me now? I couldn't end up alone at my time of life, after never being on my own my whole life.