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realise that I must take action or miss opportunities.

Will I be able to arrange a suitable work-shadow? If nobody suitable in

the Careers Network, may have to contact companies directly for help.

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4.24 THE POWER OF GOOD HABITS

There are many documented reasons why people fail to achieve their full

potential.

As noted earlier, the top three percent of the population are disciplined

goal setters. What is interesting is that the next 27% only need to put in

a small effort to move into the top group.

The secret behind the effort is the development of habits and strategies,

which support the achievement of clear goals.

Benjamin Franklin discovered this the hard way. He was receiving

constant criticism about his negative communication. He listed all the

elements in his life that he had the courage to say did not support him or

his relationships. He worked on one of these elements each month. He

had set goals to develop new successful habits.

Look at the list on the next page. What habits do you need to change in

order to achieve the success you deserve? These habits and strategies

are the basis of success in life. People who make a conscious effort to

include these in their lives get positive results.

What are you going to do about the habits and strategies you are not yet

able to tick? the Complete Goal Management System suggests that, if

there are some unchecked questions, then they need to be included in

your Overall Strategies. If you have specific strategies that are uniquely

necessary for a specialist role, you will need to add them later. For

example, an athlete may have to attend the gym every day for an hour, a

doctor may have to read a journal article every day.

Keep referring to these questions as a monthly check, and aim to have all

strategies a part of your goals plan. Remember ... it takes courage to

accept the truth. Successful people form habits to do the things that less

successful people don't like to do.

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Look through the following questions about useful habits and overall

strategies and tick those that apply to you right now.

 I have a clear sense of purpose or direction for my life.

 I am able to stay focused and concentrate my efforts onto one definite

aim.

 I am usually able to make decisions and work consistently on them.

 I am willing to take a chance on a positive outcome¾even if it is

risky.

 I am willing to do whatever it takes, rather than look for something

for nothing.

 I control my negative thoughts.

 I practice habits, which contribute, to my good health including a

nutritious moderate diet, regular exercise and meditation or yoga-

type relaxation.

 I tackle tasks immediately rather than putting them off and

procrastinating.

 I persist in the face of difficulty. When the going gets tough, many

people give up.

 I am willing to aim high. Many people put up with average goals and

mediocre performance.

 I seek out and surround myself with people who encourage and

coach me to great success. Too many people listen to those who say,

“you can't”.

 I am willing to learn, read and acquire the knowledge and skills to

become a generalist, able to adapt to and succeed in almost any

environment. Contrary to popular beliefs, people who become too

specialized become white elephants who cannot keep up with the

speed of changes in society.

 I am enthusiastic, committed and motivated.

 I am pro-active ¾I make things happen in my life. Victims wait for

things to happen to them.

 I have clear roles in life and act in balance across work, home, self

and community.

There is a critical incubation period of about 30 days, when you first

apply new ideas. With the passage of time, the action becomes habitual.

A successful coach knows the importance of developing positive habits.

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Consider this:

Who Am I?

You may know me :

I'm your constant companion

I'm your greatest helper; I'm your heaviest burden

I will push you onward or drag you down to failure

I am at your command

Half the tasks you do might as well be turned over to me. I'm able to do

them quickly and I'm able to do them the same every time if that's what

you want.

I'm easily managed, all you've got to do is be firm with me.

Show me exactly how you want it done, after a few lessons I'll do it

automatically.

I am the servant of all great men and women, of course, servant of the

failures as well.

I've made all the great men who have ever been great. And, I've made all

the failures, too.

But I work with all the precision of a marvellous computer, with the

intelligence of a human being.

You may run me for profit or you may run me to ruin, it makes no

difference to me.

Take me. Be firm with me and I'll put the world at your feet.

Be easy with me and I will destroy you.

Who am I?

I am habit!

“Success is a matter of understanding and religiously practicing specific,

simple habits that always lead to success.” *Robert J. Ringer*

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First forget inspiration. Habit is more dependable. Habit will sustain you

whether you’re inspired or not…Habit is persistence in practice.

*Octavia Butler*

“Bad habits are like a comfortable bed, easy to get into, but hard to get

out of.” *Proverb*

“The more severe the pain or illness, the more sever will be the

necessary changes. These may involve breaking bad habits, or acquiring

some new and better ones.” *Peter McWilliams*

“The thought manifests as the word The word manifests as the deed The

deed develops into habit And habit hardens into character. So watch the

thought and its ways with care, And let it spring from love born out of

concern for all beings.” *The Buddha*

“Winning is not a sometime thing it’s an all time thing. You don’t win

once in a while, you don’t do things right once in a while, you do them

right all the time. Winning is habit. Unfortunately, so is losing.” *Vince

Lombardi*

Habit is either the best of servants or the worst of masters. *Nathaniel

Emmons*

Source: Achieve Your GOALS - The Complete Goal Management System -

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4.25 THE ART OF DELEGATION

Educating your clients in mastering the art of delegation, is an invaluable

coaching skill.

Your ability to explain and coach your clients to implement the idea that

they don't have to do everything themselves will have a huge impact on

their business and personal life.

So let's examine the subject in more detail:

What tasks should be considered for delegation?

Powerful Tips for Mastering Delegation

More Important Steps of the Delegation Process

Overwhelm, having too much to do and not enough time, is often one of

the biggest issues coaching clients bring to the table in both personal and

work issues.

But the answer is not just about getting someone else to do things for

you.

The art of delegation is about managing the process elegantly and

smoothly.

Before we get onto the tips, I’d like to share the three big mistakes I find

people make when they start to delegate.

Three Delegation Mistakes

1. Abdication: The first is “delegation by abdication”. That is, just tell a

subordinate, or whoever, to just get on with the job without giving

them proper instructions or a context for what they have to do and

by when. And then carpeting them when they don’t get it right!

2. Too much information! Of course instructions need to be given but

the second mistake, I believe, is giving them too much instruction as

to exactly approach the task. That is insisting they do it your way

rather than the way that is going to work best for them. In this

context, you might find it useful to read how I use the Kolbe™ Index

in helping clients understand how best they and their staff operate.

And there are many other profiling tools that are useful in this

regard.

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3. No Acknowledgement: And finally, a huge mistake is not to

acknowledge the delegatee sufficiently when the project is

completed, or even give praise along the way.

Acknowledgment is so important to people and I find disappointment

and frustration at work is often because many executives and CEO’s

fail to give their staff enough positive encouragement and feedback.

Read more about the motivating power of acknowledgement in my

recent Coach the Coach tip.

So there are my pet delegations mistakes. Now let’s get positive and look

at how to educate your clients on the art of delegation; what they should

aim to delegate, the steps of delegation and some useful delegation tips.

What should be considered for delegation?

 Tasks that consume your time but are not necessarily the best use of

your time

 Things you are not particularly good at, or don’t like doing and

someone else could do better. For instance if you are hopeless at

proof reading, get bored and can’t trust yourself to get it right.

Is this the best use of my time? A good way to hone in on this is to keep a

diary of everything you do throughout the day and keep asking yourself

“Is this the best use of my time?” or “Could somebody else be doing

this?”. This is particularly important if you have challenges with time

management at work.

The aim is to delegate but keep control.

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10 Tips for Mastering the Art of delegation

1. Understanding: Make sure those you are delegating to have a clear

understanding of the task required, the outcome and by when it is to

be completed. Make them feel an important part of the project.

2. Specificity: Be specific about what guidelines must be followed

(company policy etc) and where can the 'delagatee' use their own

initiative and method to reach the outcome.

3. Resources: Give information on where to find resources available to

help them with the task. Advise what is available and what may be

needed.

4. Reporting: Initiate a time-line for them to report back to you on

progress.

5. Big Picture:Make sure the delegatee knows the place the task has in

the overall project and what the positive outcome of their completion

of the task is.

6. Let Go! Once you have delegated and set up a framework for

reporting, let them get on with it and get out of the way.

7. More let go: Where possible, avoid delegating methods (we all have

our own best way of doing things), rather concentrate on results.

8. Be Available: Be available and approachable for help if needed but

avoid being too intrusive so they feel you don't trust them.

9. Encourage them to think for themselves! Have a policy that before

they come to you for help, they have thought up some possible

solution/s themselves. Avoid poo pooing those solutions, however

untenable, rather acknowledge and add your opinion and expertise

to theirs.

10. Be realistic: Where relevant, ask the delegatee how long they think

they need to complete the job. Encourage them to be realistic and not

over-promise.

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And finally, make you delegatees accountable. Part of the art of

delegation and your personal time management at work and at home is

encouraging your staff/team/family to be more responsible and

accountable. Make them feel good about helping you and contributing to

the overall big picture.

Ask them what they think they could help you with?

More Steps of Delegation

 Make a list of all possible activities or projects you might consider

delegating be it an ongoing delegation or a specific project. (Anything

from coffee making to event management for instance)

 Don’t censor yourself; you can always change your mind as you work

through the list (but please don’t decide you really can still do it all

yourself☺).

 Autonomy/authority of the person (do others need to be made aware

of this).

 Organize feedback meetings for long or complex jobs.

Source: Weny Buckingham: http://www.all-about-becoming-a-life-

coach.com/art-of-delegation.html#ixzz1qnFm8uod

Managing The Risk of Delegation

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Delegation can be one of the most crippling

tasks for a new manager. New managers

often cling to their workload as if it were

their first born child, or any child for that

matter. They protect and hide these

proverbial children as if protecting them

from the evils of the world. They fear that it

can never be done as good as they do it.

Therefore their misplaced pride leaves a

disengaged workforce on the sidelines.

Delegation doesn’t have to be painful. In fact any seasoned manager will

praise this strategy as necessary. An avoidance of delegation is a rookie

mistake when managing. This blog post is one of two designed to help

you overcome that hurdle.

The new manager has probably heard it a million times. Delegation is

necessary. Those that do it reap rewards that help them get results and

probably help them end their day at a decent hour. The first step to

convince those struggling with delegation is to sell you the benefits of

this essential strategy.

Delegation is a tool that helps your team to grow. As a manager

one of your roles is undoubtedly to develop your staff.

Delegation helps you achieve that.

Delegation gives you the opportunity to discover a new and

perhaps more effective and efficient way of doing something.

Delegation optimizes the workday. YOU CAN’T DO IT ALL

YOURSELF!

Delegation is a clear demonstration of Trust. It is difficult to

build a relationship with your team without it.

Delegation builds team cohesion and expands everyone’s

understanding of their business.

Delegation saves time.

Hopefully, those reasons resonate for you if you haven’t already

aggressively started a delegation campaign. That’s the WIIFM (What’s In

It For Me). Usually managers, new and old understand they should be

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delegating but there’s an obstacle that they can’t get around. This

manager will make excuses like the following:

No one can do it better than me

I don’t have time to train someone to do it

I’ll just have to do it over myself

My team is already over tasked

I don’t have anyone on my team who can handle this task

If any of those statements have crossed your lips, this post couldn’t come

any sooner. It’s time for you to release your fears. Fear will destroy your

ability as a manager. Your success is dependent on using the strategy of

delegation. In the next post we’ll review a tool to help you start your

delegation strategy.

You realize the benefits and the need for

every manager to use a delegation

strategy. First steps can be scary. Perhaps

an absence of delegation has gotten you to

this point. It’s difficult to adjust and change

when your experience is telling you

otherwise. One of the biggest obstacles to

trying something new is having a plan to

do it. Simply convincing you of the power

of delegation is hardly enough to make the

transition easy from the way you managed

in the past to this foreign style of management that you are not

accustomed. The Delegation Risk tool is designed to help you put your

strategy in perspective and protect those concerns you have that prevent

you from managing through delegation.

The Delegation Risk tool (DRT) is a way for you to assess the level of risk

in a decision to delegate a task. Using the tool will provide you with

perspective and peace of mind. Figure 1 is the Delegation Risk tool. The

tools should be applied separately for each of three categories.

Cognitive

Technical

Interpersonal

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Combination

The Cognitive Category is for those tasks that challenge problem solving

skills. The Technical Category is for those tasks that challenge the ability

to conduct a task. The Interpersonal Category is for those tasks that

challenge the ability to work with other people in a team or group

setting. Finally, the Combination Category is for those tasks that are

complex and involve a combination of 2 or more skills of the other

categories. The delegate (the employee you are delegating to) must have

a competence appropriate for each category to minimize risk.

There are two scales in the DRT. The first scale is the competence level of

each of your employees. This is an individual assessment, not a group

assessment. The second scale is your assessment of the difficulty of the

task. These two measurements intersect to create 4 quadrants that help

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us to define the level or risk and growth potential (for the delegate) a

decision to delegate will have on your goals.

The first scale is the employee’s competence level. Each of your

employees will have a unique position on this scale. It’s clear everyone

has unique talents and developmental needs. We all have both.

Competence is measured from low to high. Low competence is an

employee who has limited to no cognitive, technical or interpersonal

competence. High competence is an employee who has exceptional

cognitive, technical or interpersonal competence. Once you identify the

placement of the employee on this scale, it is time to analyze the task.

The second scale measures the difficulty in completing the task. Like the

first scale, every task is unique as well. When using this tool, you are not

measuring the risk of all your tasks against all your employees. Instead

you are measuring each task uniquely with each employee. The task

difficulty is measured from simple to complex. A simple task is one that

involves very little training and few steps. These tasks are usually linear.

That is the steps are sequential and involve little to no deviance from the

standard. A complex task may involve in depth training and multiple

steps. These tasks may be non-linear. That is there may be a need to

make decisions. Once you identify the placement of the task difficulty,

you can cross reference the two positions to determine the risk

quadrant.

The risk quadrant is not a warning to avoid delegating. It is a warning

that you have to put parameters into your strategy to ensure the

delegate is successful. There are four quadrants that classify the risk and

growth potential of a decision to delegate.

Quadrant 1 – Low Risk / High Growth

Quadrant 2 – High Risk / Low Growth

Quadrant 3 – Low Risk / Low Growth

Quadrant 4 – High Risk / High Growth

Quadrant 1 is for low to moderate competence delegates and the task is

simple. Growth is high because the assignment is manageable for them

yet is unique to their routine. It creates an opportunity for this employee

to grow towards the High Competence end of the scale. Quadrant one

also prepares this employee for more complex tasks in the future. The

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risk is low because these tasks are within the ability range of the

delegate.

Quadrant 2 is for low to moderate competence delegates and the task is

complex. Growth is low because the assignment will likely encourage

failure and discouragement. Delegates will rarely move from the low end

of the competence scale when assigned to this quadrant. The risk is high

because these tasks are outside of the ability range of the delegate.

Quadrant 3 is for high competence delegates and the task is simple.

Growth is low because the assignment is well below their abilities. The

task may even seem trivial and busy work to them. These tasks may de-

motivate your high competence delegates. The risk level is low because

the task falls well within or below their level of ability. There is very little

challenge in the task.

Quadrant 4 is for high competence delegates and the task is simple.

Growth is high because the task is challenging and stimulates the use of

complex skills. The delegate often learns and this typically has a

strengthening effect on their competence. The risk level is high. The task

is complex and if new to the delegate, they may still need guidance.

Complex tasks often come with high risk le