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part of my eating

plan.”

“I ruined my

Focusing on

“I wish I had not eaten

eating plan by

negative

so much pasta. But it

having so much

is only one meal. I

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pasta tonight.”

stuck to my eating

plan really well the

rest of the week.”

“I have had some

problems sticking

with an exercise plan

“I can never stick

in the past, but that

with an exercise

Overgeneralizing

does not mean I can

plan.”

not do it in the future.

I have made other

changes in my life.”

“I am going to try to

set a realistic goal.

Maybe it is a smaller

goal than before, but I

still am working

toward a healthy

“If I can not lose 8

weight. After all, even

pounds (lb) this

losing ½-1 lb/week is

month, then I am

All or nothing

moving in the right

going to give up

direction, and I still

this eating plan.”

have to create a 250-

to 500-calorie deficit

every single day; so, I

am doing something

right, even if I just lose

a small amount.”

Remind your clients that what they think can affect their actions, mood,

and feelings. Thought-stopping will help change how they think, so that

they feel better. Changing thinking will take some time. They will need to

practice thought-stopping every day. After a while, they will have the

ability to stop those unwanted thoughts right away. Stress that they can

do it!

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References

Flagg M. Positive thinking: stopping unwanted thoughts. Available at:

http://www.pamf.org/health/healthinfo/?A=C&type=info&hwid=uf9938

§ion=uf9939. Accessed October 3, 2009.

Miller WR, Rollnick S. Motivational Interviewing: Preparing People for

Change. New York, NY: The Guilford Press; 2002.

Contributed by Shawna Gornick-Ilagan, MS, RD, CWPC

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4.27 STAGES OF THE CHANGE CONTINUUM

Facilitating Behavior Change

Motivation is a key factor in successful behavior change This chapter

presents techniques that will be useful in assessing motivation and

helping others increase their intrinsic motivation to change their

behavior.

READINESS TO CHANGE

Behavior change is rarely a discrete, single event. During the past

decade, behavior change has come to be understood as a process of

identifiable stages through which people pass (Zimmerman et al., 2000).

The Stages of Change model describes five stages of readiness:

precontemplation, contemplation, prepar-ation, action, and maintenance

- and provides a framework for understanding behavior change

(DiClemente and Prochaska, 1998).

For most people behavior change occurs gradually over time, with the

person progressing from being uninterested, unaware, or unwilling to

make a change (precontemplation), to considering a change

(contemplation), to deciding and preparing to make a change

(preparation). This is followed by definitive action, and attempts to

maintain the new behavior over time (maintenance). People can

progress in both directions in the stages of change. Most people will

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"recycle" through the stages of change several times before the change

becomes fully established (Zimmerman et al., 2000).

The Stages of Change model is useful for identifying appropriate

interventions to foster positive behavior change (Table 6); by identifying

where a person is in the change process, interventions can be tailored to

the person's "readiness" to change (Zimmerman et al., 2000). Anything

that moves a person along the continuum towards making a positive

change should be viewed as a success. Once the person reaches the

contemplation stage, additional strategies can be employed to help the

person move along the stages of change.

It is important to evaluate a person's readiness to change for any

proposed intervention (Zimmerman et al., 2000). Interventions that are

not staged to the readiness of the individual will be less likely to succeed.

Also, interventions that try to move a person too quickly through the

stages of change are more likely to create resistance that will impede

behavior change.

For example, if trying to get a person to quit smoking, it is essential to

know where the person is in his or her readiness to stop. A person who

is not even thinking about quitting smoking (precontemplation) is

generally not ready to receive information about specific smoking

cessation aids. In this case, focusing the intervention on smoking

cessation aids sends the message that the health care provider is not

really listening. This may not only damage rapport but can also make the

person even more resistant to quitting smoking. A more stage-specific

intervention with this person would be to try to get the person to think

about quitting (contemplation). Once the person reaches the

contemplation stages, additional strategies can be employed to continue

to move the person through the stages of behavioral change.

Anything that moves a person along the continuum toward making a

positive change should be viewed as a success. Employing stage-specific

interventions will decrease provider frustration by lessening the

unrealistic expectation that change will occur with a single intervention.

CHARACTERISTICS AND STRATEGIES OF THE STAGES

STAGE

CHARACTERISTICS

STRATEGIES

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The person is not even considering

changing. They may be "in denial" about Educate on risks

Precontemplation their health problem, or not consider it versus benefits and

(unaware)

serious. They may have tried

positive outcomes

unsuccessfully to change so many times related to change

that they have given up.

Identify barriers and

Contemplation

The person is ambivalent about changing. misconceptions

(Aware,

During this stage, the person weighs

Address concerns

concerned,

benefits versus costs or barriers (e.g.,

Identify support

knowledgeable)

time, expense, bother, fear).

systems

Develop realistic

Preparation

goals and timeline

The person is prepared to experiment

for change

(Motivated to

with small changes.

change)

Provide positive

reinforcement

Action

The person takes definitive action to

Provide positive

(Trying new

change behavior.

reinforcement

behaviour)

Maintenance and

Relapse

Provide

Prevention

The person strives to maintain the new encouragement and

behavior over the long term.

(Sustaining new

support

behaviour)

Source: Zimmerman et al., 2000; Tabor and Lopez, 2004

A question that can be put to individuals to help evaluate their readiness

to change can be as simple as: "Are you willing to take a medication to

treat your condition?" Readiness to change can also be evaluated using a

more quantitative scale: "How ready are you on a scale from 1 to 10 to

initiate this therapy (medication, diet, exercises) to treat your

condition?"

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Two major factors that have been found to affect a person's readiness to

change are "importance" and "self efficacy". Importance is determined by

what value a person places on making the change. Self efficacy is a

person's belief or confidence in their ability to succeed at making the

change. Depending on the health scenario, people may exhibit different

levels of importance and self efficacy (Rollnick et al., 1999).

A person who is overweight may be convinced of the importance of

losing weight but have a low level of confidence based on previous

failure to lose weight or keep weight off. A person who is newly

diagnosed with hypertension may be confident that they can take a pill

to lower blood pressure but are not convinced of the importance of this

action. A deficiency in either importance or self efficacy can lead to a

person's unwillingness to commit to change.

The Readiness-to-Change Ruler is used to assess a person's willingness

or readiness to change, determine where they are on the continuum

between "not prepared to change" and "already changing", and promote

identification and discussion of perceived barriers to change.

The Readiness-to-Change Ruler can be used as a quick assessment of a

person's present motivational state relative to changing a specific

behavior, and can serve as the basis for motivation-based interventions

to elicit behavior change, such as motivational interviewing.

Source: Copyright � 2006 American Society on Aging and American

Society of Consultant Pharmacists Foundation; all rights reserved.

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Audiences along a Behavior Change Continuum: Possible

Communication Strategies

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4.28 CONGRUENCE

Be authentic (genuine), open and honest to a coachee. Help him in a

pleasant and straightforward way to address his problems. You are no

good to a coachee if you don't help him discover what the real problem is

and how he might solve it. Discovering the truth can be painful to the

coachee, but the way you assist him can make all the difference. Adjust

your approach to the type of coachee. Avoid creating a sense of being

exposed or having to get all defensive because you are too direct or too

assertive. The goal is to help the coachee, not to be assertive. Act like a

friend.

Nobody listens to me. I feel like I don't exist. At home, at the office,

whatever I say, it doesn't register. They think they know it all. Why don't

they listen? I have forty years of experience.

You're telling me people don't listen to you. During our discussions

you have taken the initiative and a tight control. It's been hard for

me to break into the conversation or to turn it into a dialogue. I can

imagine that some people dislike that and therefore ignore you. Do

you think it might be possible that this creates the impression

people aren't listening to you?

Well, uh... I don't know.

I have noticed you cross your arms a lot and that you are often

looking at the floor.

Mister Johnson....

No, just listen to me for once. Maybe it's me, but every time I try to

say something you interrupt me. How is that in other situations, for

instance when someone wants to explain something to you?

In the next example the coachee is an overaged hippie looking for work:

Okay, you didn't get the job. That can happen to the best of us. I know

this is not a job interview but when I look at you... the way you're

dressed, your unconventional hairdo, the odour around you - I wonder

what a potential employer thinks of it and if that's what he is looking for?

Has he gone crazy to say all that, the effing wanker!

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I can take a lot and frankly, you can say what you like in here, but

with that kind of language it is quite possible your teacher doesn't

think too highly of you.

A blond visits the doctor and asks...

What strikes me is that every time we get to the heart of the matter,

you start telling a joke. The jokes make me laugh, but what I would

really like to do is to help you find out what the problem really is and

to help you solve it.

Source:

The Art of Counselling / De Kunst van het Counselen

© Copyright Owner:

Academy for Counselling and Coaching - The

Netherlands - Paul van Schaik

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4.29 AUTHENTICITY

Every man builds his world in his own image. He has the power to

choose, but no power to escape the necessity of choice.

Ayn Rand, philosopher

The concept of authenticity has received a significant amount of

attention recently as people search for meaning and happiness,

particularly in their work lives. How one chooses to try to live more

authentically depends on their own perspective on authenticity. Like

many other popular concepts, different people have different views

about authenticity and many people feel very strongly about their own

views. Some people might assert that an individual is being authentic if

they are being completely honest and participating in the here-and-now,

eg, an honest conversation with a friend, completely focused on cleaning

out the garage, etc. There are others who assert that authenticity

involves many other features, including, eg, always being centered with

themselves and others, living in a completely integrated fashion with

their own values and principles, always feeling complete meaning or

sense of purpose in their lives, etc.

The concepts of "authenticity" and "meaning" can seem almost the same.

However, the major philosophical movement called existentialism has

studied authenticity for centuries and helps us understand more abut

what authenticity is, along with its relationship to the concept of

meaning. Existentialists assert that if an individual is not living

authentically in their lives, then they lose meaning and can fall into

chronic anxiety, boredom and despair. People might pursue "quick fixes"

to avoid the responsibility of living authentically, eg, quick fixes such as

anesthetizing themselves with alcohol or drugs, living in fantasies, etc.

Others might even assert that it's inauthentic to pursue any approach

(programs, books, etc.) that promises to help people transcend (escape?)

the responsibilities -- and sometimes drudgery -- of day-to-day living.

Regardless of others' perspectives on authenticity, it's important for

people in management to live and work as authentically as possible -- a

goal that is usually often difficult to achieve, particularly in large

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organizations. As mentioned above, how one chooses to live a more

authentic life depends on their perspective. A person might choose to

appreciate more their own current approach to life, or meditate on a

regular basis, or journal (write down) their thoughts, or engage in

regular retreats, or sign up for a more complete program, etc.

Major Benefits of Authenticity

Peter Block, in his book Flawless Consulting, asserts that authenticity is

one of the critical aspects of successful consulting (along with

successfully carrying out the phases of consulting). There are several

reasons for the importance of authenticity.

1. Encourages coachees to be open, honest and direct in the here-and-

now.

The collaborative consultant wants the coachee to be as open and honest

as possible. The consultant can encourage open and honest behavior in

others by modeling that behavior themselves. This helps the consultant

to fully understand the coachee and provide useful feedback that the

coachee will hear, as well.

Authenticity from your coachee also provides extremely valuable

feedback to you. Frequently, you do not have sufficient opportunity to

continually learn about yourself, particularly in settings with your

coachees. Coachees who choose to be authentic around you are offering

you a precious gift that can be used by you to cultivate a collaborative

consulting relationship with them and others.

2. Builds coachee’s trust and confidence in your relationship.

You can build a strong relationship with your coachee by showing them

that you trust them enough to be able to handle the truth. In turn, they

will do the same thing for you. Trust and confidence are critical

ingredients for a successful working relationship between you and your

coachee.

3. Deals with issues before the issues fester.

When people express themselves honestly in the here-and-now, they are

much more likely to report issues as soon as they notice them. This

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ensures that issues are addressed when they occur, rather than festering

until they show themselves as major forms of resistance to change

during the project.

4. Considers important “data” about the coachee’s situation.

Information that you gather from your other senses is important data

about your coachee’s situation. The more open and honest that you can

be about your own perceptions, the more likely that the data from your

senses will be accurate. Many times that data can be used to more

accurately understand your coachee’s situation.

5. Ensures organizational change efforts remain relevant, realistic and

flexible.

Plans rarely are implemented as planned. Authentic behavior from your

coachees helps all parties involved to accurately perceive and talk about

any changes in the project so, as a result, plans can be updated with

those changes and thereby remain up-to-date. Perhaps Terry, in his

book, Authentic Leadership, puts it best: “authenticity self-corrects.”

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Key Guidelines to Authentic Behavior

Block and various schools of psychology, for example, Carl Rogers’ self-

directed therapy, describe the following core characteristics of authentic

behavior. Considering their descriptions, authentic behavior is more

attainable than many believe and it might help you to work easier rather

than work harder in your projects for change.

1. Honest -- Speak the truth.

2. Direct -- Speak in terms that are clear, concise and focused.

3. About here-and-now -- Speak about what is going on right now.

4. From you -- Report your own experience of the here-and-now.

5. Non-judgmental of others -- Speak about what you are experiencing

around others, not of your judgments of others.

Unless you are authentic in a supportive manner, coachees might feel

like you are being aggressive. Aggressive behavior is perceived as

demanding, forceful, arrogant and even hostile. That can cause

discomfort, alienation, confusion and distrust between you and your

coachees. Experienced consultants have learned to employ authentic

communication in a manner that is completely honest, yet remains

supportive and respectful.

Note that authentic behavior does not always mean the consultant’s

speaking the truth about anything and everything all the time.

Sometimes the consultant senses that the coachee is not yet ready to

hear about the consultant’s speculations, for example, about causes of

issues or the coachee’s role in those issues. Sometimes these

speculations would simply overwhelm and confuse the coachee.

In every case, it is up to the consultant’s judgment as to how much they

“think out loud.” However, usually there is more of a downside to not

being authentic than the downside of sharing your thoughts and

impressions with your coachees.

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4.30 PARADIGMS

Businessdictionary.com defines paradigm as: Intellectual perception or

view, accepted by an individual or a society as a clear example, model, or

pattern of how things work in the world.

Their definition of paradigm shift is: A fundamental change in an

individual's or a society's view of how things work in the world. For

example, the shift from earth to sun as the center of solar system,

'humors' to microbes as causes of disease, heart to brain as the seat

of thinking and feeling.

Read more:

http://www.businessdictionary.com/definition/paradigm.html#ixzz1kh

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Webster Dictionary describes a paradigm as "an example or pattern:

small, self-contained, simplified examples that we use to illustrate

procedures, processes, and theoretical points."

The most quoted definition of paradigm is Thomas Kuhn's (1962, 1970),

i.e. paradigm as the underlying assumptions and intellectual structure

upon which research and development in a field of inquiry is based. The

other definitions in the research literature include:

1. Patton (1990): A paradigm is a world view, a general

perspective, a way of breaking down the complexity of the real

world.

2. Paradigm is an interpretative framework, which is guided by "a

set of beliefs and feelings about the world and how it should be

understood and studied." (Guba, 1990). Denzin and Lincoln

(2001) listed three categories of those beliefs:

Ontology: what kind of being is the human being. Ontology

deals with the question of what is real.

Epistemology: what is the relationship between the inquirer

and the known: "epistemology is the branch of philosophy

that studies the nature of knowledge and the process by

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which knowledge is acquired and validated" (Gall, Borg, &

Gall, 1996)

Methodology: how do we know the world, or gain

knowledge of it?

When challenging the assumptions underlying positivism, Lincoln and

Guba (2000) also identified two more categories that will distinguish

different paradigms, i.e. beliefs in causality and oxiology.

The assumptions of causality asserts the position of the nature and

possibility of causal relationship; oxiology deals with the issues about

value. Specific assumptions about research include the role of value in

research, how to avoid value from influencing research, and how best to

use research products (Baptiste, 2000).

Dill and Romiszowski (1997) stated the functions of paradigms as

follows:

Define how the world works, how knowledge is extracted from

this world, and how one is to think, write, and talk about this

knowledge