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questionable results.

Middle of the road management

A weak balance of focus on both people and the work. Doing enough to

get things done, but not pushing the boundaries of what may be

possible.

Team management

Firing on all cylinders: people are committed to task and leader is

committed to people (as well as task).

Discussion

This is a well-known grid that uses the Task vs. Person preference that

appears in many other studies, such as the Michigan Leadership Studies

and the Ohio State Leadership Studies. Many other task-people models

and variants have appeared since then. They are both clearly important

dimensions, but as other models point out, they are not all there is to

leadership and management.

The Managerial Grid was the original name. It later changed to the

Leadership Grid.

Lewin's leadership styles

Description

Kurt Lewin and colleagues did leadership decision experiments in 1939

and identified three different styles of leadership, in particular around

decision-making.

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Autocratic

In the autocratic style, the leader takes decisions without consulting

with others. The decision is made without any form of consultation. In

Lewin's experiments, he found that this caused the most level of

discontent.

An autocratic style works when there is no need for input on the

decision, where the decision would not change as a result of input, and

where the motivation of people to carry out subsequent actions would

not be affected whether they were or were not involved in the decision-

making.

Democratic

In the democratic style, the leader involves the people in the decision-

making, although the process for the final decision may vary from the

leader having the final say to them facilitating consensus in the group.

Democratic decision-making is usually appreciated by the people,

especially if they have been used to autocratic decisions with which

they disagreed. It can be problematic when there are a wide range of

opinions and there is no clear way of reaching an equitable final

decision.

Laissez-Faire

The laissez-faire style is to minimize the leader's involvement in

decision-making, and hence allowing people to make their own

decisions, although they may still be responsible for the outcome.

Laissez-faire works best when people are capable and motivated in

making their own decisions, and where there is no requirement for a

central coordination, for example in sharing resources across a range of

different people and groups.

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Discussion

In Lewin et al's experiments, he discovered that the most effective style

was Democratic. Excessive autocratic styles led to revolution, whilst

under a Laissez-faire approach, people were not coherent in their work

and did not put in the energy that they did when being actively led.

These experiments were actually done with groups of children, but

were early in the modern era and were consequently highly influential.

Likert's leadership styles

Description

Rensis Likert identified four main styles of leadership, in particular

around decision-making and the degree to which people are involved in

the decision.

Exploitive authoritative

In this style, the leader has a low concern for people and uses such

methods as threats and other fear-based methods to achieve

conformance. Communication is almost entirely downwards and the

psychologically distant concerns of people are ignored.

Benevolent authoritative

When the leader adds concern for people to an authoritative position, a

'benevolent dictatorship' is formed. The leader now uses rewards to

encourage appropriate performance and listens more to concerns lower

down the organization, although what they hear is often rose-tinted,

being limited to what their subordinates think that the boss wants to

hear. Although there may be some delegation of decisions, almost all

major decisions are still made centrally.

Consultative

The upward flow of information here is still cautious and rose-tinted to

some degree, although the leader is making genuine efforts to listen

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carefully to ideas. Nevertheless, major decisions are still largely

centrally made.

Participative

At this level, the leader makes maximum use of participative methods,

engaging people lower down the organization in decision-making.

People across the organization are psychologically closer together and

work well together at all levels.

Discussion

This is a classic 1960s view in that it is still very largely top-down in

nature, with the cautious addition collaborative elements towards the

Utopian final state.

Six Emotional Leadership Styles

Daniel Goleman, Richard Boyatzis and Annie McKee, in Primal

Leadership, describe six styles of leading that have different effects on

the emotions of the target followers.

These are styles, not types. Any leader can use any style, and a good mix

that is customised to the situation is generally the most effective

approach.

The Visionary Leader

The Visionary Leader moves people towards a shared vision, telling

them where to go but not how to get there - thus motivating them to

struggle forwards. They openly share information, hence giving

knowledge power to others.

They can fail when trying to motivate more experienced experts or

peers.

This style is best when a new direction is needed.

Overall, it has a very strong impact on the climate.

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The Coaching Leader

The Coaching Leader connects wants to organizational goals, holding

long conversations that reach beyond the workplace, helping people

find strengths and weaknesses and tying these to career aspirations and

actions. They are good at delegating challenging assignments,

demonstrating faith that demands justification and which leads to high

levels of loyalty.

Done badly, this style looks like micromanaging.

It is best used when individuals need to build long-term capabilities.

It has a highly positive impact on the climate.

The Affiliative Leader

The Affiliative Leader creates people connections and thus harmony

within the organization. It is a very collaborative style which focuses on

emotional needs over work needs.

When done badly, it avoids emotionally distressing situations such as

negative feedback. Done well, it is often used alongside visionary

leadership.

It is best used for healing rifts and getting through stressful situations.

It has a positive impact on climate.

The Democratic Leader

The Democratic Leader acts to value inputs and commitment via

participation, listening to both the bad and the good news.

When done badly, it looks like lots of listening but very little effective

action.

It is best used to gain buy-in or when simple inputs are needed ( when

you are uncertain).

It has a positive impact on climate.

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The Pace-setting Leader

The Pace-setting Leader builds challenge and exciting goals for people,

expecting excellence and often exemplifying it themselves. They identify

poor performers and demand more of them. If necessary, they will roll

up their sleeves and rescue the situation themselves.

They tend to be low on guidance, expecting people to know what to do.

They get short term results but over the long term this style can lead to

exhaustion and decline.

Done badly, it lacks Emotional Intelligence, especially self-management.

A classic problem happens when the 'star techie' gets promoted.

It is best used for results from a motivated and competent team.

It often has a very negative effect on climate (because it is often poorly

done).

The Commanding Leader

The Commanding Leader soothes fears and gives clear directions by his

or her powerful stance, commanding and expecting full compliance

(agreement is not needed). They need emotional self-control for success

and can seem cold and distant.

This approach is best in times of crisis when you need unquestioned

rapid action and with problem employees who do not respond to other

methods.

Negative styles

There are some relatively common styles of management that are

anything but models of good leadership.

Post-hoc Management

Although not an 'official' management theory, what can be called 'Post-

hoc management' is practiced widely on a daily basis around the world

and most people will instantly recognize it. It is very common in small

companies where there are few formal systems and where there is a

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general autocratic style. It also appears in larger organizations where

results take precedence over rules or where politics leads to impression

management being a primary activity.

Principle

The basic principle of post-hoc management is that, as judge and jury,

the manager is always right and never to blame. In this way they can

remain secure in their job.

Vague objectives

The first sign of post-hoc management is a vague start to work, typically

with unclear and general objectives. If the manager is asked for clarity,

they will typically say something like 'you're the expert' or 'this is why

we employ you', with the implication that not knowing what indicates a

lack of competence on your part. This can be endemic in an organization

where it happens all the way up the management tree. The edict

'Managers must manage' is a typical statement by a more senior person

that essentially implies that you are on your own.

Wise in hindsight

Being right means judging others after the fact, where 20-20 hindsight

allows them to conclude what should have been done. It places the

manager as a wise expert who cannot be challenged. In fact the manager

actually uses the respect required by their formal position as a

substitute for the true respect engendered by expertise. Their seniority

thus acts as a protective wall and any challenge to their expertise is

reinterpreted as an attack on their rank, which they can repel with

accusations of insubordination.

One way of recognizing the post-hoc manager is the phrase 'Why didn't

you...' Their suggestions usually sound reasonable but do not take into

account time limitations and the myriad of other things that could have

been done. Most work planning includes decisions not to do a lot of

things that would make sense if you had the time, but get prioritized out

by the greater importance and urgency of other work.

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If you are always right then others are always wrong and the post-hoc

manager often bemoans how they are surrounded by fools. Yet this also

makes the manager feel clever and superior, and they seldom seek to

employ people who are better than them. This sometimes does happen

by accident when a good person slips through the mediocre net, but the

frustrations caused by post-hoc management often means that the best

people quickly understand the problem and move on as soon as

possible.

Critical benefits

The post-hoc manager also benefits from the 'critic effect', whereby

people who criticize are seen as being more intelligent that those who

propose creative solutions. The manager may be creative too, but does

it in a way that protects them from blame. For example they may make

various interesting suggestions as to what should be done, which puts

the other person in the double bind that if they do not follow the

manager's suggestions then, if things go less than perfectly the manager

will blame them for not taking up the idea. If they implement the idea

and it works then the manager can take most of the credit, whilst if it

fails then the manager can blame them for a poor implementation or say

'It was only an idea, effectively suggesting that you are incapable of

developing your own ideas.'

Whilst not an official management theory, Post-hoc management is

sadly an all-too-frequent reality. It reflects the human condition and the

need for control, safety and status that often take priority over values

that require integrity and concern for others.

Micromanagement

There is a style of management with which many are familiar and which

has acquired the name 'micromanagement'. The manager in question

acts as if the subordinate is incapable of doing the job, giving close

instruction and checking everything the person does. They seldom

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praise and often criticize. Whatever their subordinates do, nothing

seems good enough. It is the opposite of leadership.

The micromanagement experience

For the individual, this tends to be incredibly frustrating. They are being

treated as if they are incapable and untrustworthy. We often see

ourselves as others see us and, when treated as unworthy, we will soon

feel unworthy. In this way, people who are micromanaged can become

dependent, unable to make the smallest decision without asking their

manager. Alternatives to this total submission, which many take,

include remaining frustrated or leaving. In any case, it is easy for one's

confidence to be severely knocked.

Why micromanage?

Why do managers micromanage? There can be a number of reasons.

First, they may reasonably not trust the person either because there is

evidence to support this or because the newness of the relationship has

not yet yielded evidence to support trust. There might also be a high-

risk situation which merits extra management attention.

A more likely explanation is an internal need for the manager to manage

closely. They may fear failure personally, transfer that risk to the person

then take ownership of the person's work. The manager may also feel

(or want to feel) superior to the person, effectively confusing authority

with ability. The person thus seems incompetent and the manager looks

for confirmation of this in the smallest details of the person's work. A

minor error is thus taken as evidence of the person's total

incompetence and the manager's obvious superiority. This can be a

reversal of a childhood situation with a critical parent. Just as the

abused become abusers, so also may the criticized become critical.

Micromanagement also plays to strong identity and control needs.

Telling people what to do and not do is a strong controlling action,

whilst the sense of superiority strokes the identity ego.

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When it is appropriate

Sometimes, close management is a realistic option. When a person is

working in a job where they do not have the knowledge or ability to do

the job, and where mistakes are costly and highly undesirable, then they

will need careful supervision and education until they are able to work

by themselves.

Sometimes also a person may become destructive for some inner

reason, such as disliking the company or its managers and they need

careful watching in case they do something harmful.

How to handle micromanagers

So what should you do when faced with a micromanager? The first thing

is to recognize that it is their issue, not yours. However, this disability

means they lack certain abilities and because of your situation, you are

going to have to handle it.

The worst thing you can do is to get into a power struggle, as this is very

likely to result in the micromanager using all the formal power at their

disposal to beat you into submission, including threats of dismissal and

negative references.

The simplest approach is to listen patiently and attentively when they

tell you what to do (they hate being ignored). If you really disagree with

what they are saying, ask politely for their reasons or explain your

concern and ask for their advice. Quietly and carefully ensure you

cannot be blamed for the micromanager's decisions (it can be useful to

keep notes and confirm directives in emails in case of later

disagreement).

You can give them feedback (through a third party, if necessary) about

how they are behaving and how this makes you feel. Some

micromanagers do not intend to act this way and will make genuine

attempts to improve. Many, however, will feel slighted and the result

can be unhelpful. In consequence, think carefully before using this

approach.

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A reversal can be an interesting alternative, effectively, micromanaging

them. Book their time to agree what you will be doing. Agree in detail

what you will be doing. Let them make every decision. Then do exactly

what they said and report back that you have completed each step. Go

back often to check for new each decision. In the end they may tire of

your constant attention and tell you to back off. You can also pre-empt

and prompt this by occasionally asking if your approach to managing

the detail through them is ok and whether they'd prefer you to decide

more things yourself.

Another approach is to use their control and identity needs as levers.

Use these as punishment and reward, carefully removing control and

isolating them, or giving feedback that shows they are in control and are

wonderful. For example when they over-control, avoid them, whilst

when they give you more space, even a little, look at them and smile

(identity stroking). Be very subtle in all this -- if the micromanager feels

micromanaged, they will react strongly.

In this way you will feel more in control yourself even as you give them

a greater sense of control. Living with a micromanager need not be

painful and it can be an interesting challenge

Seagull management

Description

'Seagull management' is a humorous term that is used to describe

a style of management whereby the person 'flies in, poops on you and

then flies away again'.

When they are there, they typically give criticism and direction in equal

quantities, often without any real understanding of what the job entails.

Then before you can object or ask what they really want, they have an

'important meeting' to go to.

The experience of having a seagull manager is not positive. Whilst they

are there, they talk non-stop and actively discourage anyone else from

saying anything. This can include avoiding eye contact and continuing to

talk over you if you start to say anything.

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You may typically feel under-valued and generally abuse. The best thing

that can be said is that they are typically there not very often and you

can largely get on with the job by yourself.

Why it happens

The Seagull Manager like to consider themselves as important. However

they also know that they do not know that much and fear being exposed

by questions or debate. They consequently grab the talking stick and do

not stop until they can excuse themselves and leave.

It is possible that they really are busy, but what they miss is the

importance of person-management. They are likely to be strongly task-

based and consider the 'soft stuff' as fluffy and unnecessary. Their

approach is thus highly transactional, based on the simple premise 'do

as I say and you'll continue to get paid'.

What to do about it

What you need to do about Seagull Managers depends largely on your

job. If you can work independently, then the best approach is often to

listen patiently then ignore them. As long as you are delivering value,

they may not actually be too concerned about how you get there. Unlike

the micromanager, they are not that interested in control over you.

If, however, their approach is damaging to your career and health, then

you need to address the issue. Book a meeting with them (if you can) to

discuss your work. Write down what your objectives are and what you

are doing and give it to them. They may ignore it but this will give you

tacit ammunition if you need it later.

If things are particularly bad, this is a definite case for assertiveness

(which is probably good anyway). Talk to them about what they are

doing and the effect they are having. You may also need to talk with

their manager or HR. Worst case, look for another position with a better

manager who knows how to lead.

A novel approach is to deliberately 'chase' them with complex detail for

which they have 'no time'. As they retreat or woffle at you, offer a

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simpler alternative that is easy for them to accept. You can also always

reframe what they said, casting it into a more sensible light.

Because the most important thing in the Seagull Manager's life is the

Seagull Manager, if you can deliver results, then they may well leave you

to your own devices or give moderate support. Deliver regular short

messages that shows you are making good progress. Also work to make

them look good to the rest of the organization (despite temptations to

the contrary!). If they think you are acting contrary to their interests,

they will just fly by more often and poop on you even more!

If you are a manager

If you are a manager, then seagull management is of course something

to avoid. It is a trap that may seem easy but in practice it will alienate

and demotivate your staff. If there are wiser people above you, then

they also will find out what is happening and your advancement will

halt or regress.

The real lesson here is to sustain a good relationship with your people.

Whilst you need not (and should not) be best mates with them, you

should respect them and communicate regularly and with integrity.

Listen too -- this is a key skill and frequent activity of good leaders.

Mushroom management

Description

In a common metaphor, the 'mushroom manager' plants you knee-deep

(or worse) in the smelly stuff and keeps you in the dark.

In practice, this means you get to do all the work that they do not want.

They do not communicate and generally ignore you, so you do not know

their plans or what else might be going on in the organization.

Why it happens

Mushroom managers are often more concerned about their own career

and image. Anyone who appears as a threat may well be deliberately

held back as their ability may make the mushroom manager look bad.

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Mushroom managers may also have their favorites on whom they lavish

attention and the plum jobs. Others are swept away and given the dross.

Managers may take