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more explicit about this step and include Reinforcement as one of

their phases. I've also read this final step of freezing referred to

as the lock-in effect. Establishing stability only happens when the

new changes are locked-in.

Thinking about change as a journey might make you think that a

journey has a beginning , middle, and an end. While this is useful

when thinking about the process of change the reality is that this

journey doesn't have an end. Lots of rest stops maybe! Some

opportunities for settling down for a while. But no end. So be

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careful about thinking that a change process has a definite end,

as the Lewin change management model might seem to suggest.

In what ways do you think this model might be useful for you?

I've found the Kurt Lewin model useful to frame a process of

change for people that is quite easy to understand. Of course

each stage can be expanded to aid better understanding of the

process. Applying the concepts of Unfreezing, and especially the

Force Field Analysis, at a personal level can give us insight and

help us better understand how we deal with change.

Force Field Analysis - Kurt Lewin

Kurt Lewin's Force Field Analysis is a powerful strategic tool

used to understand what's needed for change in both corporate

and personal environments. Best of all - it's easy to use and has

complete credibility as a professional tool.

We'll use a little basic science to introduce the concept, after

which you'll find enough information to allow you to unleash

your knowledge of force fields on colleagues!

The concept

Let's start with a simple science experiment (this really is

relevant, so stay with me for a moment please).

You'll need to sit down for this one. You're sitting? Good. Now,

what's keeping you in the chair?

Well, there are two answers really. One is gravity which is

pushing you down into the chair. A driving force, if you like.

The other is the chair itself, which provides an opposing force,

pushing up against gravity, and stopping you falling to the

ground.

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So it would seem that while you are sitting you're in an

equilibrium of sorts.

Two forces keep you there. Gravity pushes down, keeping you in

the chair, and the chair resists this, stopping you from falling to

the ground.

Two equal forces, a driving force and a resisting or restraining

force, working to keep the equilibrium or status quo.

Agreed? Okay, now let's play. Let's say we want to move away

from this equilibrium and get you to fall to the floor. What could

we do?

Well, on the one hand we could increase the amount of gravity.

The chair will give way eventually and you will fall.

On the other hand, we could leave gravity alone and decide to

weaken the chair to get the same result.

If you've followed me this far then you've just completed a force

field analysis and understood the basic concepts of the force field

analysis. It also helps to explain why our science experiment is

relevant.

You see, Kurt Lewin applied exactly this thinking to his theory of

change within social situations - to people.

May the Force be with you, or against you.

Kurt Lewin wrote that "An issue is held in balance by the

interaction of two opposing sets of forces - those seeking to

promote change (driving forces) and those attempting to

maintain the status quo (restraining forces)". This is much the

same as the experiment we just did and is summarised in the

diagram below.

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So before change the force field is in equilibrium between forces

favourable to change and those resisting it. Lewin spoke about

the existence of a quasi-stationary social equilibrium.

For change to happen the status quo, or equilibrium must be

upset – either by adding conditions favourable to the change or

by reducing resisting forces.

What Kurt Lewin proposes is that whenever driving forces are

stronger than restraining forces, the status quo or equilibrium

will change.

Now that's useful. Especially if we apply this to understanding

how people move through change and why they resist change.

There will always be driving forces that make change attractive

to people, and restraining forces that work to keep things as they

are.

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Successful change is achieved by either strengthening the driving

forces or weakening the restraining forces.

The force field analysis integrates with Lewin’s three stage

theory of change as you work towards unfreezing the existing

equilibrium, moving towards the desired change, and then

freezing the change at the new level so that a new equilibrum

exists that resists further change.

Using the Force Field Analysis

Lewin's force field analysis is used to distinguish which factors

within a situation or organisation drive a person towards or

away from a desired state, and which oppose the driving forces.

These can be analysed in order to inform decisions that will

make change more acceptable.

'Forces' are more than attitudes to change. Kurt Lewin was

aware that there is a lot of emotion underlying people's attitude

to change.

To understand what makes people resist or accept change we

need to understand the values and experiences of that person or

group.

Developing self awareness and emotional intelligence can help to

understand these forces that work within us and others. It’s the

behaviour of others that will alert you to the presence of driving

and restraining forces at work.

The following steps are a guide to using the force field analysis.

You might find it useful to follow the process using the Force

Field Analysis Application Tool available .

1. Define the change you want to see. Write down the goal or

vision of a future desired state. Or you might prefer to

understand the present status quo or equilibrium.

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2. Brainstorm or Mind Map the Driving Forces - those that are

favourable to change. Record these on a force field diagram.

3. Brainstorm or Mind Map the Restraining Forces - those that

are unfavourable to, or oppose change. Record these on the

force field diagram.

4. Evaluate the Driving and Restraining forces. You can do this

by rating each force, from 1 (weak) to 5 (strong), and total

each side. Or you can leave the numbers out completely and

focus holistically on the impact each has.

5. Review the forces. Decide which of the forces have some

flexibility for change or which can be influenced.

6. Strategise! Create a strategy to strengthen the driving forces

or weaken the restraining forces, or both.

If you've rated each force how can you raise the scores of the

Driving Forces or lower the scores of the Restraining Forces, or

both?

7. Prioritise action steps. What action steps can you take that

will achieve the greatest impact? Identify the resources you

will need and decide how to implement the action steps.

Hint: Sometimes it's easier to reduce the impact of restraining

forces than it is to strengthen driving forces.

Criticism of the force field analysis usually focuses on the

subjectivity of attributing scores to the driving or restraining

forces.

Some writers suggest the model applies within limited settings

and that there are situations outside of these settings in which

Lewin’s theory may be less applicable.

At the end of the day the force field analysis is a tool that may or

may not be useful in your situation. You can decide this or allow

others to make a decision.

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The force field analysis is backed by the Lewin change

management model and has, over time, developed credibility as

a professional change management tool

Sources:

http://www.alancohen.com/coachtraining/life-coach-training-

lesson-18/

"Unleashing Potential – The Promise of Coaching"

Yvonne Freitas McGookin & Matt Aspin

http://www.change-management-coach.com/resistance-to-

change.html

http://www.change-management-coach.com/kurt_lewin.html

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4.3 EFFECTIVE GOAL SETTING

A study revealed that amongst people with the same

background, the top three percent outperform the next twenty-

seven percent by a factor of ten. One of very few differences

between these two groups was their attitude to goal setting.

The top three percent have clear, written goals. For the twenty-

seven percent group to join the top group would only take a shift

in some attitudes and a realization that the art of goal setting

would make them more successful to an amazing degree.

In order to be effective, goal setting should be :

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consistent with the coachee’s stage of change’ (e.g. a ‘pre-

contemplator’ may resist a goal of total abstinence, but

mayembrace reducing the risk of infection)

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negotiated. Negotiation is not bestowed on a coachee . It is a

strategy to influence behaviour. Negotiated goals are more

likely to generate patient commitment and adherence.

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realistic

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specific and achievable. A broad goal may be broken down

into several component parts

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short-term; so that progress can be monitored and success

quickly realised

- solution-focused and defined in positive terms. Changing

behaviour will be more successful if couched in positive

terms of acquisition, rather than reduction; presence, not

absence (e.g. increasing the number of days without smoking

as opposed to decreasing the number of smoking days)

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FIVE EASY STEPS TO SMART GOAL SETTING

In order to have a good chance of being accomplished, a goal has

to be specific.

The point is, you need to know HOW TO SET SMART GOALS if

you want to make SMART decisions in your life.

Developing the skill of smart goal setting has the potential to

make a significant difference in your life - it provides a solid

platform for:

Starting personal and business projects

Making strategic decisions

Creating excellent action plans which incorporate your

short and long term development goals

If you don't know how to set SMART GOALS, then you may well

not be realizing your full potential.

Any SMART person will tell you the

same thing: “if you don't know where

it is you want to go, you are going to

wind up somewhere else!”

This would be so sorry, because you

don't want to invest your precious

time into any adventures without

knowing exactly what it is you want

to achieve, both in the short and long term.

A lot of people go into a venture, having some vague idea about

what they want to achieve and where they want to be in 6

months, 1 year, 5 and 10 years down the track. Well, I'm here to

tell you that unless those ideas can be translated into specific

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and measurable SMART GOALS, they are wasting their time -

they just ain't gonna get there………sorry!

WRITE YOUR GOALS DOWN - Think about your DREAMS and

aspirations - where do you see yourself down the track, what are

you doing, who are you doing it with, who do you want to help,

do you own the house of your dreams, the car of your dreams,

are you traveling the world, etc, - You get the picture………!

The problem is that the words GOALS and DREAMS all too often

become synonymous and that is where confusion sets in!

Of course, there is nothing wrong with having a vision for your

business and your life,. In fact it is absolutely a key ingredient for

success.

However, if you think a goal looks like this: "I would like to be

financially free, able to give up my JOB, stay at home and

look after my kids, take them on world trips and live in a

million dollar house"

Then think again!!!

That's a dream alright,

the kind you have in your pillow at night!

But it's NOT a Goal!

Sure, it could be your vision and it could become your reality, but

in order to achieve this wildly inspiring picture you need to

immerse yourself in some "real" goal setting activity, not just

dreams!

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So let's cut to the chase!

What is SMART goal setting?

S M A R T is a mnemonic used in management.

S M A R T is a way to evaluate that the objectives for a particular

project are relevant and appropriate for that project.

S M A R T Objectives are an integral part of Management By

Objectives (MBO). Management by objectives has been used

extensively by managers as a planning tool. It is a process by

which managers and employees work together and agree on

specific and defined objectives for a particular project. This

process ensures that both managers and employees agree on and

are committed to the project outcomes.

The origin of the term S M A R T objectives is unknown, however,

Peter Drucker in his 1954 book "The Practice of Management"

outlined a system that was very similar to S M A R T objectives as

part of his discussion on Management by Objectives (MBO).

The process of writing S M A R T objectives or smart goal setting

has become a business management tool used extensively for

project management and also for performance appraisal

purposes.

Learning how to write and use SMART goal setting is a skill you

definitely want to master

if you want to be successful in YOUR life and in YOUR business!

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Success does not just happen to the

lucky, nor is working hard sufficient. It

is all about developing skills for success

and those skills are many and varied.

If you really want to make your life

hum, you'll develop the skill of SMART

goal setting and include this process as

an integral part of your action plan.

Smart goal setting adds clarity, focus and purpose to every action

plan.

Without objectives, planning is often non existent or at best done

at the same time that you are about to take action! This is

problematic and not good practice. Plans can often change as a

result of either a lack of time to consider all options or because

there was no predetermined outcome in the first place. In other

words, you are flying by the seat of your pants instead of having

a well thought through plan of attack.

So what do you do if you've got NO IDEA how to set goals for

your life and you need some goal setting tips - some simple

techniques to get started?

Well, I've got GREAT NEWS for you!

It is really not that complex if you follow………

The 5 Easy Steps to SMART goal setting!

Before we get started on those 5 Easy Steps, I want to make sure

you are 100% clear on the following:

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Firstly, what is an objective or goal?

An objective or goal is a specific statement describing a RESULT.

Secondly, why set goals?

Setting and clarifying goals is an essential part of the path to

success.

Thirdly - what do objectives or goals provide for YOU?

Direction for activities

A clear process for defining expected results

The criteria against which actual accomplishments can

be measured

Targets to motivate performance improvements

A common sense of purpose, which enhances teamwork

SMART goal setting is one of the most positive and rewarding

habits you can develop in your personal life, as it is in any

business. It is a process by which you can evaluate the current

situation and develop strategies to move forward. Moving

forward is what gives you the growth and success that most

people aspire too.

If it is your desire to be successful in your life, then you most

certainly don't want to accept the "status quo". The only way to

make sure you are not sitting in exactly the same place you are

sitting in today, in 6 months, 1 year or 10 years time is to

implement smart goal setting as one of your primary practices.

SMART Goal Setting assists YOU to PLAN AHEAD

and develop a STRATEGIC APPROACH

to creating SUCCESS inYOUR life!

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Here is how you do it:

OK, so that's the goal setting theory - how would you apply this S

M A R T model to your life?

If a goal or objective is going to be an effective success building

tool it needs to be S M A R T. In other words you need to write

your goals so that they measure up against the S M A R T criteria

from the 5 Easy Steps chart above.

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Let's take a look at a real life example.

How about this:

** "I want to save enough in order to be able to buy a new car by

the end of next year.” **

Is this a SMART Goal - does it measure up?

Let's break up this goal and see if it's SMART using the goal

setting form below.

Can we can tick all the boxes right?

It doesn’t really look like this could be an excellent example of

smart goal setting, does it?

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Let's look at this more closely by evaluating this objective in

terms of each of the 5 Easy Steps:

STEP ONE - SPECIFIC - is this objective specific?

Do we know WHAT we are looking at here? NO, we do not - our

objective is too vague: we do not know how much we will have

to save, nor what car we want to buy.

Vague objectives are not inspiring. We have to be able to

visualize our goal: see ourselves enjoying the success when the

goal will be met.

STEP TWO - MEASURABLE - Do we know HOW MUCH or HOW

MANY?

You may have a perfectly clear idea about the price of the car you

want to buy and the amount of money you will have to save, but

you omitted to write the numbers down. In three months from

now, how will you know that you are on the good track? How

will you know when an extra effort is required?

STEP THREE - ACTION ORIENTATED - Does it describe a result?

Again, the words "save" and “buy a car” are too vague I'm afraid.

What do they really represent? How would you measure this?

How could you know that you are actually saving enough? Can

you find a better way to describe the result you are looking for?

STEP FOUR - REALISTIC - Is this goal realistic and relevant to the

business owner?

Again, it doesn’t show from the description of your goal. How

much are you earning? How much can you save? How will you

spread your saving effort? How will you anticipate possible

changes in earnings, expenses, price of the car, unexpected costs,

…? In a smart goal you will have taken these elements into

account,

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The key to remember here is this: smart goal setting is about

setting goals that are challenging but realistically achievable - no

point setting a goal for the sake of it and knowing there isn't a

hope that you'll ever achieve it - that would be pretty

demoralizing, not to mention slightly stupid!

STEP FIVE - TIME-BASED - BY WHEN should this be done?

In this case do we have a deadline by which this goal should be

achieved in order that we might measure the outcome? The

short answer is YES, we do.

So, in this example, out of the 5 steps, only one has been

correctly defined. How helpful would it be to you if your goals

are this vague? - Is this SMART goal setting? ----- Well, NO!

The solution to better planning is to

define challenging, but realistic goals,

then think ahead about what, how and by

when exactly you want to achieve, be very

specific about your data ... and to plan

regular evaluations.

The "5 EASY STEPS TO SMART GOAL SETTING".

Smart Goal Setting is a very important part of your skill

development and overall success in life. Don't ever

underestimate the power of this skill to make your life hum!

LEARN it, PRACTICE it and APPLY it to YOUR life.

You'll be very glad you did!

Source: http://www.network-marketing-mlm-success-

system.com/smart-goal-setting.html

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Goals and Goal-Setting

Goal-setting is the one activity that sets apart self-developers

from those who survive or just get by. Goal-setting enables us to

create the future we want to happen rather than live the future

that others want to happen. In goal-setting, we take charge. Here

are 7 ways to set reachable goals.

1. Start With Your Strengths

Although you can base your goals on anything you want, your

chances of success are greater if, first, you base them on your

strengths and second, on the current opportunities in your field.

To find out your strengths, do some self-research, such as a

personal SWOT: your strengths, weaknesses, opportunities and

threats.

2. Put Your Goals In Writing

Written goals have a way of transforming wishes into wants,

can'ts into cans, dreams into plans and plans into reality. The act

of writing clarifies your goals and provides you with a way to

check your progress. You can even add reasons to give you more

motivation. So don't just think it - ink it!

3. Dream Big

One of the factors