While reading a book on the meanings of names, Ruth said, "Mother, it says here that Philip means 'lover of horses,' and James means 'beloved.' I wonder what George means?"
"I hope, my dear," said Mother, "that George means business!"Now that you know how to make any name have meaning, by using a substitute word or thought, you have to know how to associate the name to the face in such a way as to remember both of them. Many memory systems teach the student to make a jinglet with the name; something like, "Mr. Baker is a faker" or "Mr. Gold is old," or "Mr. Radcliffe had a mad tiff," or "Mr. Lillienkamp is a carnival tramp."
This is fine, until you meet a Mr. Nepomosimo or a Mr. Smolensky. Even if you could create a rhyme with those names, what I never could quite grasp is how this would help you to remember the person's face, or rather, how one would bring the other to mind. No, I don't think that this jinglet system is of too great a help. In my opinion, the only way to remember a person's name is to associate that
139 name to the person's face in some ridiculous way. And here's how to go about it:—
Whenever you meet someone new, look at his face and try to find one outstanding feature. This could be anything; small eyes, large eyes, thick lips, thin lips, high forehead, low forehead, lines or creases on the forehead, long nose, broad nose, wide nostrils, narrow nostrils, large ears, small ears, ears that stand away from the head, dimples, clefts, warts, mustache, lines on the face, large chin, receding chin, type of hairline, jutting chin, small mouth, large mouth, teeth—just about anything.
You are to pick the one thing that seems most outstanding to you. It may not be the most outstanding feature; someone else may choose something entirely different. This isn't important; the thing that stands out to you is the thing that will be obvious and outstanding when you meet this person again. The point that is important is that as you're looking for this one outstanding feature, you must pay attention to and be interested in the face as a whole. You're observing and etching this face into your memory.
When you have decided on the outstanding feature, you are ready to associate the name to that particular part of the face. For example, Mr. Sachs has a very high forehead. You might "see" millions of sacks falling from his forehead, or see his forehead as a sack instead of a forehead. You can see, of course, that you're to use the same laws and principles as you've been taught in the early chapters of the book. The most important principle being that you must actually see this picture in your mind's eye. Look at Mr. Sachs' face, and "see" those sacks falling from every part of his forehead. That's all there is to it! If Mr. Robrum had a large nose, I would picture his nose as a bottle of rum and a robber stealing it!
Mr. Horwick might have very bushy eyebrows, so I
would see wicks in them, as in candles, and see a woman trying to take them because they are her wicks. Her wick— Horwick.
The publisher of this book is Mr. Frederick Fell. The moment I met Mr. Fell, I noticed a cleft in his chin. I simply saw things falling from this cleft, and that's all I needed to help me remember that his name was Mr. Fell. Remember that in these examples, I give the substitute thought and the outstanding feature that I personally think is best. The name, "Fell" could have meant "feel," or the material, "felt" to you, and you could have associated that to any other feature on Mr. Fell's face. The substitute word and the outstanding feature chosen is an individual thing; the things you choose are the right ones to use.
At first, some people may feel that it takes too long to find a substitute word for a person's name, and then associate it to his face. They think that it would be embarrassing to have people notice that they are staring at them. Please believe me, it does not take any time at all. After a minimum of practice, you'll find that you've found a substitute word for the name (if it's necessary) and associated it to an outstanding feature on the person's face in less time than it takes to say, "Hello." As in everything else, it's the very first effort that is the most difficult. Sure, it's easier to be lazy and just go on forgetting names, but, try my system and you'll soon agree that it is just as easy to remember them.
The best way to practice remembering names and faces is to just start doing it. However, to give you a bit of confidence, let's try this:—I'm sure that before you started reading this book, most of you felt that you definitely couldn't remember and retain the names of fifteen people if you met them all at once. If you took the little test in Chapter #3, you probably proved it. Well, let me intro
duce you to the pictures of fifteen people right now, just to prove that you can do it, with the help of my systems. Of course, it isn't as easy with pictures, since you see the faces in only one dimension, whereas ordinarily you see people in three dimensions. It may be a little difficult to find outstanding features of a face in a picture, but I'll try to help you with each one.
No. 1 is Mr. Carpenter. This name is no problem because it already has meaning. The next step is to find an outstanding feature on Mr. Carpenter's face. You might decide on his very small mouth. If you look closely, you'll see a sort of scar on his right cheek. Pick one of these (the one that's most obvious to you) and associate Carpenter to that. You might see a carpenter working on the small mouth (get the carpenter's tools into the picture) trying to make it larger; or, have the carpenter working on the scar, trying to repair it. Now, and most important, look at the picture of Mr. Carpenter and actually see this picture, see your association in your mind's eye for at least a split second. You must make yourself "see" this picture or you'll forget the name. Have you done that? If so, go to picture #2.
No. 2 is the Mr. Brimler we spoke about awhile ago. Notice the long dimples in his cheeks. Can you see the heavy character lines from his nose to the corners of his mouth? As in every face, there are many outstanding features that can be used. I would use the dimples, and see them brim full of judges' gavels. Remember, I use a gavel to represent law or "ler." If you want to use policeman, jail or handcuffs, go ahead. You might "see" police brimming all over the dimples. Whichever way you want to do it, is fine; but look at Mr. Brimler and see the picture you've decided on.
No. 3 is Miss Standish. I would select her "bang" hairdo. You could "see" people standing on the bangs and scratching themselves violently because they itch. Stand itch— Standish. Of course, a dish standing, would serve the same purpose, but I like an association into which I can inject some sort of action. Now look at Miss Standish and see the picture you've decided on, in your mind's eye.
No. 4 is Mr. Smolensky. Don't let the name scare you, it's easy to find a substitute thought for it. I would see someone skiing on Mr. Smolensky's very broad nose, and taking pictures (while skiing) with a small camera (lens). Small lens ski—Smolensky. See how simple it is? I have chosen Mr. Smolensky's broad nose; you might think that the receding chin is more obvious. Choose whichever you think is most obvious, and see the picture of the skier taking pictures with a small lens.
No. 5 is Mr. Hecht. I would see his mustache being hacked from his face with an axe. See the association violently if you can. Violence and action make it easier to recall. Hacked—Hecht. Be sure you see the picture.
No. 6 is Mrs. Bjornsen, pronounced, Byorn-son. The way I would remember Mrs. Bjornsen is to see a boy (son) being born in the very wide part in her hair. You might think that either her full cheeks or wide mouth, or dark eyes are more outstanding, if so, use those in your association. But look at Mrs. Bjornsen and actually see the picture for a fraction of a second.
No. 7 is Miss Van Nuys. The first thing that I notice when I look at Miss Van Nuys are her bulging eyes. I would see moving vans driving out of Miss Van Nuys' eyes, and making terribly loud noises. So loud that you have to hold your ears. (Get the action in the association.) Van noise—Van Nuys. Be sure you see the picture!
No. 8 is Mr. Hamper. Notice the very wide mouth. I would see myself throwing all my dirty clothes into his mouth because it's a hamper. Remember to look at Mr. Hamper and see the picture in your mind's eye.
No. 9 is Miss Smith. This is a common name, but don't think you'll remember it if you do not make an association. The names, Smith, Jones and Cohen are forgotten just as often as the longer and less common names, and there's less excuse for doing so. Miss Smith has very full lips, they almost appear to be swollen. I would see a blacksmith using a gigantic smith's hammer on Miss Smith's lips. The blows of the hammer are causing the lips to swell. You might want to utilize Miss Smith's long eyebrows, it doesn't matter. What does matter is that you look at Miss Smith and see that picture or association.
No. 10 is Mr. Kannen. Pick an outstanding feature. You might notice the ear standing out from the head, or the lines in the corner of the eye, or the thin long mouth. You can see a cannon shooting off the outstanding feature, or cannons shooting from the feature. Pick the association you like, and see it in your mind's eye.
No. 11 is Mr. D'Amico. You can't miss the full head of wavy hair. See the hair as a dam, and it is overflowing while you scream, "eek" and "oh." Or, you are running towards the dam, shouting, "me go." Look at Mr. D'Amico, and see the picture.
No. 12 is Miss Forrester. I would see trees (forest) growing out of those heavy, definite lines on her lower cheeks. If you want to be sure of the entire name, see the forest growing wild and tearing her cheeks. Forest tear—Forrester. Be sure you see the picture.
No. 13 is Mr. Pfeffer; the "p" is silent. The first thing that hits my eye is the cleft in Mr. Pfeffer's chin. I would see lots of black pepper pouring out of this cleft. So much, in fact, that it's making me sneeze. "Pepper" would be enough to tell me that this is Mr. Pfeffer. If you want to make sure, hear yourself sneezing like so: "fffft," with an "f" sound. Silly? Yes; but this will come back to you later, and you'll know that the name is Pfeffer, not Pepper. See the picture.
No. 14 is Mr. Silverberg. See a large silver iceberg instead of Mr. Silverberg's jutting chin. Actually see it glittering, so you get the idea of silver in there. If you want to use the laugh lines around the corners of Mr. Silverberg's mouth, that's okay, too. See a silver iceberg on each side. Whichever feature you use, be sure to actually see the picture.
No. 15 is Miss Kornfeld. I would see millions (exaggeration) of ears of corn falling from Miss Kornfeld's wide mouth. Make sure that you look at Miss Kornfeld, and actually see the picture or association in your mind's eye.
I have purposely used a wide assortment of names to prove that it just doesn't make any difference as to the type of name. You might want to go over these faces once, quickly, to make sure you've made a strong enough association. Now, here are the same faces in a different order, without their names. See if you can't fill in the fifteen spaces under the pictures. When you've done so, check yourself and be amazed at the improvement in your memory for names and faces!
If you had any trouble at all recalling any of the names, the reason is that you didn't make your association vivid enough; you didn't actually see the association in your mind's eye. If you did miss any, just look at the face again, strengthen your association and try it again. You'll surely remember them all on your second try. If you feel confident, why not try that test in Chapter #3, and compare your score now, with the score you originally made. Tomorrow, or the day after, look at the fifteen faces pictured in this chapter, and in Chapter #3, and you'll see that you still know the names of all the people!
Keep in mind that if you can remember the names of faces in pictures, you'll find it much easier to do when actually meeting people. Aside from finding an outstanding feature more easily, there are many other things that can be taken into consideration, such as: manner of speech, speech defects, character, type of walk, manner of bearing, and so on.
If you happened to be at an affair, and wanted to showoff by memorizing the names of everyone present, you could do it now, by using the systems you've just learned. You would probably find it helpful to review the names every so often. Each time you look at a person, his name should spring to mind. The name coming to mind in this fashion serves as a review, and serves to etch the name more firmly into your memory. If you were to spot someone you've met, and the name didn't come to mind, ask for the name again, or ask someone else to give it to you. Then strengthen your original association. Try it! You'll amaze yourself and your friends.
For practical purposes—for those of you who meet people, and would like to retain the names; writing the names would help, as far as review is concerned. As I said in the preceding chapters, writing in conjunction with a system of association is fine. This is a good example of that fact. You would, of course, use the systems learned here, upon meeting these people. Then at the end of the day, think of each new person you've met and as the name comes to mind, jot it down. The next day go over this list of names. As you look at each one, a picture of the person's face will come to mind. Just picture the person for a moment, and see your original association of the name to face. That's all. Do the same thing a few days later; then again, a week later, and so on until the faces and names are indelibly etched in your memory.
Of course, all this is theoretical, because if you wanted to remember these people, it is probably because you intend to meet them again. If you do meet them often and recall their names, well, then that serves the purpose of review, and writing the names isn't necessary at all.
The thing to do is to use whatever is best for you or your particular circumstances. Just make up your mind to get over the initial hump of actually putting my systems to work, and they will diligently work for you.