Our families are great assets. Primarily procreation stems from the family units. Every person has a family bow to shoot them as arrows into the world. A family is thus a base for the push of great minds. A failed family affects the offspring and there is a strong relationship between how a child does and the family from which he comes from.
No one comes into the world without a family. Everyone has an origin in a father or mother and is thus influenced by family genetic makeup.
I have a cousin who had never seen the father, my uncle since he was born until he was around twenty. When he was born, my uncle rejected him claiming he was not his child. It became too clear when he was grown after he took over all the qualities of my uncle. He wasn’t with my uncle to learn my uncle’s traits but they were transmitted through his genetic makeup because he had a father even though he never knew him. What I mean is that we are a composite of our genetic makeup.
Now, about the family crutches. Because we come from families, we tend to depend on them in some way for the push into life. It is saddening though that after the push has being made, most persons still are unable to find independence. They always run to their families for another push. Some persons who are mature to be independent from their families still hang on to their families and this can become an unnecessary crutch.
Sometimes families tend to make decisions for their offsprings. It isn’t bad when it’s a guiding decision but it is often wrong when it’s the endpoint decision, decisions that do not match the purpose for which God had sent their offsprings into the world. Children from renowned families often find themselves easy prey to this crutch. Parents decide who their children should marry, what school to attend, what course to study at school etc. It has had boomeranging effects.
Families don’t have to be crutches to those inside it. A family should be a place where one finds confidence about himself and not a place where fears and doubts are instigated.
I have observed that families that are crutches
You don’t want to hang around a family that does not instigate or propel your movement to somewhere higher than you are now. You know the best you want to be and you want to hang around a family that will stay with you and support you through the hassles to becoming that best.
You want a family that will
If you have a family that is a crutch, it could be very painful especially because of the difficulty of breaking out from the family. It’s never going to be easy however you can take the following actions
Everyone needs a family but we don’t need crutch families. What you need is a family that can enable you run on two legs.