As stated in the introduction of this book, we live with a desire to be as independent as we can be. This desire is a lifelong one. Why? This is because, from the day we discovered how to cry, we long to always have our way around every situation. Even at the point of death, we go towards it with that independence alone and gone. This propelling force in us was instigated by God the creator whose independence he instilled in man. Man thus taking the nature of God lives life having behind his mind the forever godly nature of independence.
Man always has that quest for independence because he has come to observe the dependent nature of society and the persistent strife for independency. He finds it difficult to adapt to what is called a dependent world. The world constantly pushes everyone to depend on each other. The driver depends on the mechanic, parents depend on teachers, and lawyers depend on doctors. No one seems independent enough to cater for all his needs. The human nature thus continues to be at variance with what the world supplies and thus continues to fight very hard to reach independence. The fight begins at birth and ends at the time when our eyes close against this side of the world.
I remember as a little boy, I always had the desire to become a man. The reason was because I needed to be free from the claws of my parents’ guidance. It was alright a good wish but I observe that when I grew I found myself increasingly dependent, first on my parents who supplied my every need and then I depended on my teachers at school for knowledge. I depended on my friends’ warmth and the cycle continued. There was no way I was going to break free by myself.
But I observe that those I depended on changed as I grew. My teachers changed and my friends changed and I depended less on my parents but still I wasn’t free. I was very dependent. Breaking free from my dependency has continued to plague me as I strive to make a way around them. Those things and people I depend upon are the crutches that have stopped my discovering who I really am. Freedom is a tenacious guest that is always there no matter how free we think we are.
No one is totally free. Those we often think have no problems have even bigger problems. I was in the church of a certain pastor and listened attentively to his teachings. He said, everyone needs everyone and no one is totally independent. As much as little people depend on very powerful persons, even presidents also have very small people they must depend upon. It seems, our society is plagued with the dependency plague that the only time we discover true freedom is at death when we totally give up and even then, we depend on others to bury us just that we are unaware what happens to us. The nemesis that man is faced with is a critical one that has configured our minds towards thinking that we should remain dependent because that’s how the world and our brains are wired.
If you are thinking of freedom, you are one of the billions who hope to achieve one form of freedom or the other. A good advise is, don’t be afraid. While it is a natural law to be dependent, you can and have the ability to break that law. No law is beyond the capacity of the human mind to break. Yes there is a lifelong bond, and there is a lifelong desire to be free, there is also a lifelong capacity to break away and tell those crutches they are unnecessary.