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Starting with me
Change has to begin someplace, and for the individual, change begins with that person. It is easy to waste time searching for answers to questions that are not important or looking for solutions to problems that do not exist. Therefore, it is good practice, to begin with the issues that are causing the most difficulty and then tidying up the remaining issues over time. To become obsessed with change would only add to your current difficulties and should be avoided. Neither is it a good idea to target yourself for change, as that may only create a tunnel vision of yourself, which greatly limits opportunities that are necessary for change.
The way in which we view ourselves is dependent on our circumstances, and should be approached with as much honesty as possible. Being too honest is counterproductive, as it often leads a person to destroy any effort or progress they are making.
Even though the issues in your life may be created by external factors such as family, friends, work etc. - the place to begin, is with you. It takes courage to make a decision to look at your life and to find a solution that is best suited to your circumstances. Very often people look for an easy solution or come to the conclusion that they have no other choice but to accept their position in life.