Now it is true that this product is aimed at getting your ex back, but some of you reading may feel that she is leaving you before it is "official".
So I thought I would start off by covering some tips to stop your relationship failing if things are getting rocky.
Most problems in a relationship arise from a lack of communication, this is quite simple to understand; one of you feels that there is something in the relationship that you are not happy with, you fail to openly discuss this with your partner and because of this the problem just grows until it erupts into an argument.
You have to learn that an argument will often not resolve a problem, even if in your anger you tell them what is annoying you they will generally not take it in because of the rush of emotion. This goes to say that you should discuss things in a calm reasonable manner. This will lead to progress in your relationship and save all the arguments and fights.
You also need to understand that your life can often get in the way of your relationship. This is a hard thing to avoid but you will often find that your time is absorbed by various problems in your life. Whether this relates to family, work, children, there are many things that can interrupt your life. A lot of you may find that you attempt to invest all of your time into these problems so they can be solved quickly, but this often is not the case.
You will find that life is often not as simple as you may like and find all this time investment just leads to more time invested in, whilst this happens your partner will get alienated and start to become frustrated.
You will often assume that your partner knows you are just trying to do this as quickly as possible so you can spend some time with them, but this is often not the case. It doesn't matter how strong someone is, if they always feel as if they are at the bottom of your priorities they will often leave. Negative emotions can often start to grow and snowball building tension in your relationship because of this.
There are several steps you can take to minimise the chance of this happening. You should make sure you put some time aside for your partner, take her out for the day or to dinner in the evening, stay in an get a take away and watch your favorite dvd, find someone to look after the kids and go do something together. There are many things you can do, maybe just make a list together of what you would like to do and each week for your time together you can choose one thing off the list to do for each other.
Most importantly you need to reassure each other that you are committed to your partnership together and that you love each other.
You can even make a list of things that you enjoy about the relationship and also the problems that you see with it. Try to be soft with the problems so you do not start an argument, but make sure they know that these are bothering you and need to be addressed.
On a similar note to the lists you can try to write each other letters or send texts just letting them know how you feel. There are several approaches to take with this;
-You could write a poem, or even just search the Internet for one, you would be surprised at how many sites there are that just specialise in poems so just find one that sums up your feelings for your partner. This is something out of the ordinary and will make them feel wanted and smile.
-You could always just spend the time to make a unique poem towards your partner, this will show them that you care enough to take the time to make them something special.
-You could just write together some things that you always tell your partner. These will give your partner a small reminder of your love, passion and commitment to hem. The great thing about letters and texts are that they can be taken with them to read if they ever feel like remembering.
-You can go for the opposite and write things that you never say but always want to. Put your feelings on paper and let your partner know everything on you mind that you love about them. You will let your lover see a new side of you and let them know how much they mean to you.
-You could simply put some of her favorite song lyrics into a letter. These can often mean a lot to a person and if the song means a lot to them.
If you manage to get together to spend time away from everyday life you should soon rediscover that spark that bought you together. This little steps can help you to rekindle your relationship and learn to start appreciating each other more.
Another common problem that causes the spark to go is disagreements in the bedroom. There are many things to consider when this problem arises, for a start if the problem is solely based on performance then maybe you should reconsider if you want to be with a person that will leave you just because of this? More often then not it is linked to one of you feeling that the other does not love them as much anymore of that one does not find the other physically attractive any more.
You can help these problems by telling each other everyday how attractive you find them, let them know that you find them sexy and try new things in the bedroom.
A lot of the time couples start to sleep together less as the relationship progresses, this often happens but you should always make sure that when life give you the opportunity to make love that you take it! Try new things and always make sure you talk about what you liked about it after, it can be a great time to just hug each other and feel close. If you talk about what you liked and perhaps did not then you can work on those things for the next time.
Okay so now we will start to look at what we should do if your girlfriend has left you. The first thing we should clear up is what you should not do.
First you may have a lot of built up anger towards them and may consider some sort of "jealousy plot", this is 100% not the way to do.
You may be thinking that if your ex sees you with someone else, somewhere that your ex is likely to be like your favorite club or restaurant, or even your home, will make her so jealous she comes running back. Some times you may consider hooking up with one of her friends so she is bound to find out. You may think that she will realise that she really wants you back.
But consider this, what if she has not decided to meet anyone else and you end up getting back together because of her being jealous. What if you slept with someone else and she is actually hurt by this? Generally the jealously will rely on her being hurt so much that she would rather have you back then go through that again, so what if an argument arises? You will soon find your little jealously plot comes back to bite you in the back side.
On the other hand what about the other person that you used to get back at your girlfriend? And don't be disillusioned, because you will have used them.
What if they actually thought it was going somewhere? What about their feelings that you may have crushed?
What if instead of coming running back your ex thinks that you have moved on? What if they decide they will do the same? You would then understand the pain they feel because you may then see them with someone else, who they would genuinely be interested in.
Or worse, what if they just see through your little game and push you further away? What if the whole game escalates into the two of you just doing even more outrageous things to make each other jealous? That would certainly not get her back.
There are a great many things that you can do to keep your ex or get her back, but these games are almost never the way to go about it, in fact if you want to kill off any hopes of getting together you can normally make a safe bet on this.
Some other things that you should avoid doing when you are looking to get your ex back are;
Don't beg her to love you, this will generally give them a sense of power and will often lead their anger at you to turn into them using you. The last thing you want to become is just the person they go to for a fling or for some money. You will find if you take this approach they will never understand truly how much you want the relationship to work or how sorry you really are. You can also take the opposite approach and try to make your ex feel guilty about the break up. But do you think this will lead to a happy future relationship? What if as soon as your guilt trip wears off they realise that they actually still don't want to be with you? They may also always have doubts that you are happy with the relationship and this can lead to problems.
Don't become obsessive, this is another great way to kill any passion and turn the relationship you have into a fear and hate one. Don't keep ringing her as you did when you were together, don't keep turning up at her parents house and acting as if everything is normal, don't follow her around.
Another problem similar to becoming needy is to start showering your ex in expensive gifts. They will either see that you are just trying to buy them, or they will start to take advantage of you, take all they want and then leave.
When you have have split up with your lover and want to win her back you need to think about the few months leading up to the break up. What went wrong? Can you narrow it down to one trigger or identify the main factors?
You should ask your ex to meet up with you, talk to her about these reasons and tell them how you feel. Don't expect they can read your mind, if there is something you want heard then you better say it whilst you have the chance.
You need to understand that your relationship will not have fallen apart in the space day so do not think that you can just work out all the problems by yourself in that time. You need to give your partner some time to think about things but do not leave it too long.
The most important thing is to swallow your pride, balls up and make the first move. Make sure you tell her how you feel and let your true feelings out.
You need to keep in mind that it isn't easy to win your ex back, they may have already started to move on when you decide to try and rekindle your love. You should think about several things when you try and get your
As I mentioned before, you need to be patient. You cannot just think that because you make some progress that everything is fine again and that you can act as if everything is back to normal. When you make progress make sure you take a step back and let your partner breath. After all it may have been your overbearing personality that caused the problem in the first place, so the last thing you want to do is let them know that you are going to return to the same suffocating actions as before. There are lots of steps in getting a relationship going again so you need to take the time to let each of these steps run their course.
You need to be strong if you are trying to win your ex back. She will not want you if you seem desperate so make sure you seem happy, but don't let her think you are moving on and she will start to miss what you had together.
If you act desperate you will push your lover away and this may be a fatal mistake.
It is important that you are prepared to be flexible in fixing your relationship. If you are really serious about getting her back then you need to become more sympathetic and become a listener. If the time to do this does not suit you then you will need to change your schedule, this is important if you really want to get her back. The last thing you want to do is not allow her the chance to build bridges and tell her you cannot because you are going out with your mates. Stay strong, but also be flexible in every possible way so that the bridges of communication can be rebuilt in your relationship.
Being yourself is vital if your primary goal is to win ex back. You and your ex used to be attracted to one another, which means there is still attraction there. It might take being yourself to rekindle things.
Sometimes relationships can become boring and monotonous and all that it takes is for you to realize what changed is to realize what made you compatible in the first place. Learn how to be yourself, to accentuate your qualities and to remind him or her of why they loved you in the first place.
You can use a meaningful letter or text. These can be structured in the same way as we mentioned before, especially the letters that remind your ex of all the good times you had together. Try to put some of these moments into a poem, when you first met, when you first made love, when you both laughed so hard you couldn't stop, there are many things you can mention to remind your ex that you think of them and miss all the times you shared.
Give them a romantic of thoughtful gift. Do not go for anything expensive because as we mentioned before this will have a negative effect on your efforts and generally not lead anywhere. You could try making something personal, this can be a great alternative to a poem if you are not good putting pen to paper. These gifts show that you pay attention to what your lover tell you, what they like and dislike.
You are going to need to work hard to get your ex back. It takes time to show them that you still care and will do anything to get what you had back. You need to be thoughtful and patient. Try to put all of these tips to use and will will greatly improve your chances of getting your ex back.
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-Go about your day with a light heart
-Get your appetite back
-Sleep restfully again
-Get back to planning for the future instead of living in the past
-Stop being green with envy every time you spot a happy couple
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