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A Journey with Miss I.
Where do you bank? What kind of shoes do you wear? Do you enjoy fall better than summer? What kind of stuff do you like in your omelet? A pizza? What sort of television and books interest you? Just about everything you do means you make a decision. These are choices you make each day and most people have some reason to choose one thing over another. Choices are the stepping stones on our journey through life. While you are single, you need to be ready to make good choices about how to spend your time. Unless you have just won the lottery, happiness is no cosmic accident. Happy singles I met made a choice to find out what makes them happy.
The great apes, our nearest neighbor in a biological sense, have strict rules for the types of intimacy that govern the leadership roles of the clans or groups. This suggests how important and primitive intimacy is too survival. There seems to be is much more information available about how different animals group than for humans.
Reality television shows, movies and commercials are all bad examples of how real human social grouping instincts work. These dramas create fiction, not facts. These old dramas can trick human into the idea that everyone has a unique romantic fate. It's a nice fantasy, but understanding instincts for intimacy make us happier than any fantasy and it makes us better mates and also makes the world a better place. This is not a fantasy, but a very worthy dream.
The great apes have no math skills, they don't read books about dating, they don't build cities, but their moment-tomoment social intimacy boundaries are instinctive and keep life in the clan going forward, safe and successful. They have no fantasies really the way we know them. They are not confused about what they need to do to be happy, but humans, in general, are very confused.
Choosing to make non-physical intimacy a priority in your life is a very important part of overall happiness in Singleship.
Shocking as it seems, as you date, you should try to keep the your religious traditions or at very least wait three months before sexual contact (under your clothing) in my view. This is a very simple idea and a powerful thought that happy single people possess.
The old three-month rule is not a perfect solution, because there is not one. It was just the average amount of time most people said it takes to make a lasting connection with another person that actually promoted a real feeling of family and makes happy couples trust one another. Holding hands and kissing and all that kid stuff was is fine for most during this time.
Making sure Miss Intimacy is in the seat next to you on your trip through life will make the journey much more enjoyable and predictable.
Write about how you will tell someone about the three-month rule. Tell them why intimacy without physical sex (intercourse and other sexual acts) is important to you during the first three months. This is an important thing I learned from happy people. It is a hallmark of Singleship and a good rule for those who want a date to build a strong relationships and prevent bad dating cycles and suffering that most unhappy singles spoke about. OK. OK. Enough about sex for now.
Write a bit about some “sexy” advertisement or commercial you saw today.
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