Chapter – 1
Attraction
Have you ever wondered what "attraction" actually is? You might have seen, how some people become attractive to others despite their looks not being what we describe as "attractive".
What is attraction?
Attraction can be described as the force which pulls two people or object towards one and another. Attraction is not only limited to physical appearance. There are many other reason behind it, why we get attracted to some people and not to others? When it comes social situations attraction is the beginning of every relationship.
If attraction is not only limited to physical appearance then what other important factors are that matter.
1-propinquity- simply means the closeness of two people’s presence. The more we closer in physical distance with someone is easy to get attractive towards that person. We are more likely to develop affection for people who is near to us, because we are frequently exposed to that person.
It's natural way of knowing others. The more the exposure the more you know better about that person, and if you find that person offensive than you can dislike that person.
2-Complimentary needs-means people attract to their opposite who complete their needs. One person's strength helps balance the trait of the other. For example a shy girl who has good sense of humour may be attractive to a guy with good sense of humour who is confident.
3-Idle mate-most people have preconceived image for their idle partner that what he / she should be like. It could be based on physical appearance or personality characteristics. It may be based characteristics from their own parent. For example a woman may want a man who should be like her father. Image of their idle mate can also be based on their own pre mind set "I know what want and what I don't want" based from their previous experience in relationship.
But what you can do in order to become more attractive person, so you can attract more people into your life.
Notice the word "more attractive", I didn't said "attractive" person. You may have a doubt that you are attractive or not. But if you think you are not attractive as a person at all then you can do following drill and find out yourself how attractive you are.
You can go in the park or where ever you want to go to look for your partner and notice, that how many girls have noticed you and they are attracted to you, just write down the number as you pass by them. If you get number in total higher than "0 zero" at the end of your walk, than It means you are attractive person, but you are not attractive to all of them.
Once you know that have potential and you already are attractive at some level, than you can start embracing yourself to become more attractive person.
Before you start improving yourself let's take look on what areas that you can change in yourself.
To make it easier I have divided in two sections for you.
Static - you probably know that there are some factors which you cannot change. These are known as static factors. It’s mainly your physical appearance you born with. For example, your height, your skin colour, your voice, your hair etc. But that doesn't mean that you can't try to improve them for example if you’re overweight, then it's not necessary to carry it with you all your life, you can try to lose it. And if you are too skinny, you can try to gain weight if you want to.
Dynamic - you probably understood by the name that things which you can change about your self are dynamic areas of yourself. For example - if you are shy you can learn to be confident, or if you haven't got opportunity to go to school, you can educate yourself about any skills later in life. You can learn to stay motivated and feel good. If you feel good your body will show it, if you feel confident your body will show it.
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