Taking Control of You
One thing that you cannot control is how other people treat you. To say that if people don’t respect you then you won’t respect them is a sad and poor commentary of your character. Your respect of others should NEVER be predicated on whether or not someone respects you first because everyone does not grow up with the same morals and values that you do.
We live in a society that glorifies "an eye for an eye," which never brings about a (positive) resolve. My daughter text me while in class one day regarding the presumed mistreatment from a teacher. Now, my daughter can have a temper at times and she finds it difficult to hold her peace when being wronged. She wanted to verbally respond to the teacher and walk out of the class but I explained to her that she has to maintain control of herself and her character, that she simply cannot allow someone to take her out of character because of how they’re treating her. Just as I explained to my daughter, you have to remember that you are in control of you, not the other way around. There’s a saying in the world: Whatever angers you controls you." That holds so much truth. When people know what buttons to push in you to generate a response, they will do it and cause you to lose control of you and your life. When people treat you adversely, you cannot allow your response to be the same as theirs, but rather respond in a manner that commands differently. You must maintain a presence that commands the treatment you deserve: to be treated like royalty.
Whenever you allow other people and outside circumstances to control you and how you respond to a given situation, you lose power and control over yourself. Altogether, you lose, and, depending on the given situation, you could stand to lose greatly. You must learn to teach people how to treat you. It’s all in how you carry yourself, not how they entreat you or talk to you. Think about this for a second: does it really make sense for your life to be controlled by how other people treat you or what they say about you? If that were the case, our lives would continuously be in shambles. When people see that they can’t handle you just any kind of way, it will make them have a different perspective of who you are. They will notice that they can’t treat you the way they treat everyone else in their life. YOU command and control the atmosphere around you.