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Overcoming Fear

Fear in its simplest definition is to be afraid of something, or having a concern or regret for an unwanted situation. It is very closely associated to having a phobia which is also clearly defined as an exaggerated usually inexplicable and illogical fear of a particular object, class of objects, or situation. Confused yet? You shouldn’t be. Fear many times derives from illogical  thoughts.  It  can  stem  from "what  if"  questions  that  make absolutely no sense at all. It can birth from things we see, things we have been told, and many other related places. Although, what you should be able to identify with is what fears you have.

Think about things that make you fearful and why you run from them. Fear in its purest state is designed to cripple, paralyze, and disable you from being in control and moving forward in a positive direction. It is designed to make you think illogically. Fear does not have power that it is not given. When we give in to the circumstances that present themselves that are designed to keep us from moving in a positive forward progression in our lives and to not think logically and rationally about the situation or scenario, fear gains power over us.

Also understand and realize that fear does not even become real until that moment. It does not exist until we acknowledge its presence and assumed power. Fear’s only power is what we give it. So what we must learn is how to take control of our lives where fear has no place. We must make sure that we avoid foolish and unlearned questions about all the "what ifs" in life that could happen. If we spend time dwelling on these simple nuisances, we lose time and life.

We must maintain the power and control we have in our lives that rightfully belongs to us. We cannot dwell on things that have the potential to happen and have not even manifested. In order to conquer these fears, you must begin to take yourself through an exercise that will help you identify and address the fear(s) that exist in your life and eradicate them.

Ask yourself these questions:

1.What am I afraid of?

2.Why am I afraid of it?

3.What are the circumstances that surround my fear of this thing and what parts do I have control over?

4.Am I going to allow this thing (or things) to have control of my life, causing me to live in fear for the rest of my life?

Once you have answered these relevant questions, you will begin to take control of your life and conquer your fears. You will also know how to deal with every other forthcoming situation that poses itself as a threat to make you fearful in your life.