The 7 Steps to Manifest Love with Your Specific Person
1. Affirm to the Universe that You Want to Be with Your Specific Person
You may think, ‘Well, hell! The universe should already know exactly what I want.’
But I can assure you that it doesn’t. Because if you’re not already with your SP, then you are surely giving the universe mixed signals.
You need to be crystal clear in your thoughts, emotions, and actions that you desire to date, be in a committed relationship with, or marry your specific person.
The best way to do that is to set a clear intention… and put it in writing.
What to Do…
PLACE YOUR ORDER FOR YOUR SP WITH A CRYSTAL CLEAR INTENTION
Yay, this is the fun part! Ok, time to whip out your journal and fantasize about being in a relationship with your specific person.
Write down exactly how you want them to treat you, what a typical day with them would be like, things you’d talk about, places you’d go.
Will you guys be one of those couples that spend every second together, or will you both be more independent and spend a healthy amount of time apart doing your own thing?
What personality traits do you love about them? What do they love about you? What attracts you to them?
Define the relationship. Be specific without being insanely inflexible. This is a person, not a Ken doll.
And writing everything down is the best way to flush out all the details, get very clear about what exactly it is you want to manifest and impress your desire upon your subconscious mind.
Because if the subconscious isn’t on board with what you want to manifest, it’s going to block you every step of the way.
You get what you focus on. If you’re constantly focusing on what you DON’T WANT instead of what you DO want, that’s exactly what you’re going to attract.
The Law of Attraction doesn’t weed out the negative statements from the positive ones. It only brings you what you focus your attention on.
That’s why it’s important to steer clear of negative statements. So, instead of saying, ‘They NEVER lose their temper,’ ‘They NEVER leave the toilet seat up,’ etc.
Turn it around to be a positive statement like ‘They are ALWAYS in control of their emotions,’ ‘They ALWAYS put the toilet seat down,’ etc.
You get the point. We’re training ourselves to speak in the affirmative and to focus only on the positives.
Be careful about which thoughts and emotions you hone in on and hold on to. Because if you want to manifest love with a specific person using the Law of Attraction, you need to focus only on the things you DO WANT.
That’s another reason why you wrote down your desired intention. It’s a great way to focus your mind on the wants instead of the want nots.
What are the underlying assumptions or false beliefs you have that are holding you back and blocking your manifestation?
What to Do…
MAKE A LIST OF YOUR LIMITING BELIEFS
What beliefs do you have about the opposite sex, relationships, love, etc.? Do you believe all men are players? All women leave you? All relationships end badly?
Grab a pen and write down a list of all your limiting beliefs.
Throughout the day notice what thoughts pop up around the issue of your specific person, relationships, love, etc.
What triggers you? What do you react to?
Do you notice that a particular thought pops up when you see a couple showing affection, fighting, engaged in conversation, etc?
How about when you’re watching a movie?
Take note of whatever thoughts keep popping up…and write them down. (Do you notice a theme here? Write everything down! This will help you track your progress and cements new beliefs into the subconscious.)
Now add all the negative thoughts you experienced during the day to your list of limiting beliefs. Then flip them around and rewrite them in a way that makes them positive statements of empowerment.
These will become affirmations that you should incorporate into your morning routine, which I’ll discuss in step #3.
You may even want to make a recording of these statements and listen to it throughout the day to help retrain your subconscious mind.
Now, it’s time to develop new habits and change your vibrational set point. Unless you’re new to manifestation, you’re probably already familiar with affirmations, scripting, and gratitude journals.
These can be powerful tools to realign yourself each day with your desire and keep you on the right track.
Develop a Daily Manifestation Routine
Start your day off on the best foot possible by establishing a morning manifestation routine with affirmations, scripting, and gratitude.
It’s the best way to raise your energy and your mood first thing when you wake up so that you can attract more of the things you want into your life — like the loving relationship you want with your specific person.
And when you end your day on a positive note with more affirmations, gratitude, and visualizing your desire, you’re cementing not only seeds of your desire but also high- vibe emotions into your subconscious mind that it will continue processing while you’re in deep sleep.
These two times of the day—first thing when you wake up in the morning and right before you drift off to sleep—are ‘magical gateway moments’.
This is when your brain enters the Theta state.
In the Theta state, you can influence your subconscious mind. Which makes it the perfect time to practice affirmations, scripting, visualizations, or planting any seeds of change.
What to Do…
MORNING MANIFESTATION ROUTINE FOR ATTRACTING YOUR SP
As soon as you slap your alarm clock in the morning, here’s what you’re going to do:
1) Greet your morning with gratitude
Grab your journal and write 5 things you’re grateful for in your current life. If you need help with this step or find it difficult to come up with 5 things to be grateful for every day.
2) Journal About Your Dream Life
Writing about your dream life will create immense momentum and shift your mindset to the feelings of your desires.
So, spend 5-10 minutes every day journaling about your dream life with your specific person. Put yourself in the shoes of your future self, being in the most amazing and delicious relationship with your soulmate.
Be sure to write in the present tense and use ‘I am’ statements, not ‘I will’. So, imagine your desire has already manifested. Live in that fantasy and feel the emotion of what it feels like to be happy with your specific person.
And always end your journal entry with gratitude.
Thank you so much, Universe!
3) Write Your Affirmations for the Day Choose areas of your life or personality that you’d like to work on. It’s time to become the type of person you want to date.
And because ‘like attracts like’, you’ll attract the person you’ve always wanted to be with.
Here’s where you’ll use the affirmations you created when writing your limiting beliefs in step #2. For example, ‘I am worthy of love,’ ‘All the people I am attracted to are attracted to me,’ or ‘I only attract stable, happy, loving people that respect me.’
Write your affirmations down and repeat them for a few minutes every morning. But to really rewire these positive statements into your subconscious, make it a habit of repeating them throughout the day too. You can set a timer on your phone if you need a reminder.
Remember that recording of affirmations we talked about in the ‘Limiting Beliefs’ section above? If not I’ll give you a little reminder. Record yourself repeating your affirmations in a soft, soothing voice. Feel free to add relaxing, uplifting music too.
Now pull that bad boy out and listen to it morning, noon and night. At night while you’re sleeping is actually the best time to reprogram the subconscious mind.
4) Make A List of Daily Manifestations
Write down 3-5 things you’d like to manifest each day. Choose things you don’t have much resistance to and be sure to keep the manifestations small (like a free cup of coffee or receiving a compliment).
You’ll keep track of the results at the end of each day.
Not only does this help build faith in the fact that the Law of Attraction works, but is also a great exercise to build your manifestation muscle. When you’re new to manifesting, keeping track of your daily manifestations helps you get better at manifesting the bigger desires.
Practice makes perfect, my friend.
You’ll also begin to notice that your small desires manifest much easier and faster than the big things you try to manifest. That’s because you have less resistance to them and no attachment to the outcome. In many cases, you completely forget about them.
When you’re able to do that with your big desires, you’ll manifest at a much faster pace.
1. Review Your Day
Every evening before bed, mentally review your day.
You may even want to whip out your handy dandy notebook and take a few moments to rewrite the things that went wrong. This helps to cement it into your mind that you want to change those things. Otherwise, you’d just forget them.
Plus, it gives you something to look back on later to see if you’ve made improvements.
2. Record Daily Manifestation Results
Look back at your list of manifestations you made in the morning. Did any of them manifest today? Take a look at the manifestations that you’ve written down for the last few days. Maybe something manifested today that you wrote down on your list yesterday.
Record what manifested for you that day. How long it took, any signs that showed up, synchronicities, your reactions, moods, thoughts, and how it manifested.
This will give you a reference to look back on and prove to yourself that this stuff absolutely works.
3. Gratitude
Write down in your journal all the things that that went well during your day. Take time to congratulate yourself and feel gratitude for those things.
This is not only a great way to raise your vibration, but you’re also training your subconscious mind to create more of those good feeling things into your life.
4. Visualize Your Desire
In the moments right before you drift off to la-la land, you want to visualize the short scene you created of you being in a loving relationship with your special person. You’ll want to do it with as much emotion and details as possible. Use all five senses to set your scene and repeat it until you fall asleep.
Visualization is by far the most important step in the creation process. And there’s a lot that goes into getting it right to ensure you manifest accurately and successfully.
So, to find out exactly what you need to do, keep reading. In step #5, I’ll walk you through the process.
4. Become the Person You Want to Attract
If you want to attract a fun, loving, confident person, you’re going to need to become a fun, loving, confident person.
Remember that list of desired traits you want in your specific person that you made earlier? Those are the traits you need to cultivate if you want to attract that person into your life.
I’m not saying you have to be their twin. That would be creepy. No one wants to date an exact replica of themselves.
But you do need to have similar qualities if you are going to be a match your SP.
Take your mind off your specific person and start focusing on yourself. Make feeling good a priority.
Do things that make you happy. Things that get you pumped about your day. Have lunch with that friend you haven’t seen in a year. Go for a run. Take a bubble bath. Or read that book you’ve always wanted to read.
Taking care of yourself physically and mentally is an amazing way to raise your vibration. So, show yourself
When you open up and expand your heart chakra, you are literally pumping out the energy of love into the universe.
Take a few moments to focus on the things in this world that you love. Family members, friends, your children or pets.
Feel the physical sensation of love. The warmth, the way your heart flutters, the smile that spreads across your face…all the warm fuzzies you get when you are around or think about the things that you love.
You’ll begin to light up.
Now hold on to that feeling for as long as you can. Bathe in it.
Because if you want to attract love, you must vibrate at the frequency of love. So, make it a daily habit to practice getting into the right frequency.
Affirmations, mantras, gratitude, crystals, and meditation are also great tools to help open your heart chakra.
Practice forgiveness. Holding on to anger, past memories, or old wounds may be blocking you from manifesting a loving relationship with your specific person.
Do you need to forgive them for something?
It doesn’t matter who your specific person is (your ex, someone that has you in the ‘friend-zone,’ a complete stranger, or whatever your particular situation may be), release any feelings of anger or resentment you may be harboring.
Even if it’s forgiving them for not professing their love to you yet.
Dig deep. You may even find that you need to forgive other people you’ve dated or someone from your past that may have hurt you a long time ago.
Forgive them and forgive yourself. Because anger, guilt, shame, and resentment are all low vibrational emotions that are weighing you down.
So, release them.
5. Visualize Your Imaginal Act
Neville Goddard’s visualization technique is by far the most accurate way to manifest any desire. And if you want to manifest a loving relationship with a specific person, tapping into the power of your imagination is the best way to seal the deal.
Start by constructing your imaginal act (a short, detailed scene of what it is that you desire). Writing it down can be beneficial as you try to flesh out all the details.
Be sure to include all five senses with lots of detail. Really step into the scene.
Where are you? Who’s there? What are they wearing? What sounds do you hear? What do you smell?
Be sure to write it all down, in full detail, before you start imagining it.
Next, enter into a meditative state either through meditation or while lying in bed right before you fall asleep.
How do you know if you’re in a proper meditative state?
You’ll be crossing over into the Theta brainwave state, which is a very deep relaxation state.
You lose track of all worries, thoughts of the future, attachment to the body, and the outside world. A deep sense of inner peace and emotional stability will wash over you.
ALWAYS VISUALIZE IN FIRST PERSON
Then begin to visualize your mental movie and be sure to imagine your scene in first person. If you visualize the scene in third person (like you’re watching a movie), you’re desired scene may manifest for someone else.
You are the main character in your imaginal act, so participate in it.
Once the scene feels natural, replay the scene in a loop. When you reach the end, start over at the beginning. And repeat the scene until you drift off to sleep.
Do this every night until you feel as though the imaginal act has already happened. It could take days, weeks, or even months.
The key is to evoke the overwhelming emotion of bliss (in a natural way) while imagining your scene.
Visualization is about living your new reality now, like you’re inside that moment you’re imagining. It’s happening now. You already have what you want and are totally blissed out…right now!
So, would you feel ‘blah’ about finally being with your specific person? No, no you would not!
You’d be overcome with a visceral feeling of joy and immense gratitude. Pull from past experiences when you’ve felt like that and conjure up those emotions while you’re visualizing your imaginal scene. Feel into your scene.
It’s not a forced or fake feeling. Although it may feel that way in the beginning. But keep practicing. Keep visualizing until the bliss feels real and genuine.
Now amplify it.
When you feel that overwhelming emotion of intense ecstasy followed by a wave of relaxation and contentment, you’ll know you’ve successfully planted the seed.
Time to step back and turn your desire over to the universe. Because it knows what to do. And it wants you to know that it’s got you, bae!
So, get out the way and let the universe do its thing.
Stop trying to force things to happen on your timetable. Don’t chase after your SP. Because what you chase, you repel.
I mean, we’re talking about vibes here. If you’re emitting a vibe of desperation, your specific person will pick up on that. And they will run as fast as their little feet will take them in the opposite direction.
Because desperation is a homing beacon only for more desperation, not the love you desire to manifest.
That’s not to say you shouldn’t take ‘inspired action’ (which does not come from a place of fear or control).
It’s actually a gentle nudge from the universe guiding you along a trail of breadcrumbs to your desire. So, only act if you feel inspired or are intuitively guided to act.
And do it from a place of confidence and excitement, not desperation or lack.
DON’T KEEP DIGGING UP THE SEED
Once you’ve successfully planted your seed of desire, stop digging it up to check on it. Or it will never grow.
In other words, don’t keep fretting over when it’s going to happen, how it’s going to happen, or imagining ‘the middle’.
If your desired end result is to be in a loving, committed relationship with (or even married to) your SP, stop visualizing a text message from them or running into them over the weekend to manifest a date.
You’re only sabotaging yourself. Because if you start interfering with the middle, you may end up creating a whole slew of obstacles and setbacks that could put a halt on your manifestation altogether.
So, once you’ve planted the seed, let it be.
When you’re obsessed with something and constantly thinking about it, you’re not giving your desire room to breathe or grow.
And when you NEED something or are too attached to the outcome, you’re telling the universe you don’t have it. So, the universe has no choice but to keep NOT giving it to you.
It’s only matching your vibration. The vibration of lack.
If you want to be with your specific person, then you must feel as if you ARE already with them. You must feel abundant and focus on feeling love. Grow that feeling and live in that emotion as much as possible.
Because when you radiate love, everything in this universe that you want will be attracted to you like a moth to a flame.
It’s the fastest way to manifest the man or woman of your dreams.
BE PATIENT BECAUSE EVERYONE IS YOU PUSHED OUT
‘Everyone is you pushed out’ is a concept associated with the teachings of Neville Goddard. On one level, it refers to the fact that every person in your reality is a reflection of what is going on internally within yourself. And each person is acting out the role you’ve assigned them in your imagination.
But on a much deeper level, this concept reveals a hidden truth that every single living being on this planet is connected by the same awareness.
The awareness that flows through me is the same awareness that flows through you and everyone else.
With this in mind, know that once you successfully plant your seed of desire into the field of awareness that connects every person on the planet, it begins pulling all sorts of strings to put the right people in the right place at the right time to bring you closer to your manifestation.
So, the time frame it takes for your SP to materialize into your reality depends on who you’re trying to manifest.
If your specific person is currently in a relationship, lives halfway across the world, or involves any other tricky circumstances the universe has to work out, it may take time for the universe to pull all the necessary strings to put you two together.
In the meantime, you’ll need to be patient. Keep your vibration up, hold on to the feeling of love, and live as though your desire has already been fulfilled.
‘Living in the End’ is not a technique, it’s a state of being.
This is the reason a lot of manifestations fall apart. It’s by far the hardest step for most people and where they trip themselves up.
Neville’s concept of ‘Living in the End’ instructs us to imagine ourselves into any state and dwell in it.
In the case of manifesting a specific person, in your mind, you must believe with every fiber of your being that you’re already in the most amazing relationship with the person you desire to be with.
In other words, fully live as if your wish has already been granted.
What to Do…
HOW TO ACT AS THOUGH YOUR DESIRE IS ALREADY FULFILLED
How would it feel if you were with the person you desire? Mentally rehearse what your life might be like once you’ve attracted your specific person.
Don’t think of your desire. Live from it.
In other words, you must embody your future self and live from a point in time after your desire has manifested. Each day your thoughts and actions need to match those of the person you want to be — the person that’s already with your specific person.