It is extremely important that you pray for and remember your dead relatives and friends in your prayers to God. Although, you might not know it or feel it, they are constantly looking over you and have your best interests at heart. Talk to them in your prayers as if they were in the room with you. Share some happy memories. Make them realise that while they are no longer walking the earth that their memories still live on through you. The most important thing to remember here is that they are closer to God than you are at this very moment. They will be very happy to hear from you and they will hear every part of your prayer as soon as you acknowledge them. If you make a request to God, your dead relatives and friends are going to be on hand to be your personal messengers to relay and deliver the requests directly into Gods ears. They, above all people, want to see you have a happy and successful life. That being said, make sure you are contacting them out of pure love for their memory and never make it seem like you have any other motives. Remember, as with God, if you are not blessed with what you are requesting, do not turn your back on who you are praying to. Do not throw blame at anyone. Keep your faith strong. Keep praying every day in the same manner with the same love and politeness regardless of the outcome that you have received so far. Patience will go a long way for you in the long run. Initially you might face a test where the spirits want to see if you are in this for the long run or if you are going to run away once your requests have been granted. Do the right thing.