Part 3:
The sense of smell should never be overlooked when trying to penetrate the soul of the one you want. Sight and sound are what get you into your dream mate’s mind. But scents, tastes, and touch complete the sensual side of real seduction.
But first, you’ll need to reach your dream mate’ sense of smell.
The basic goal of seduction here is to have your dream mate’s best, positive olfactory experiences in life to be associated with you. You want the best smells in life to be connected to you, so anytime your dream mate smells something, they think of you.
Seducing by way of the sense of smell is a simple and straightforward affair, but it’s frequently overlooked. Don’t neglect this area, as it will help you earn “points” with your dream mate!
Be a true “scent-sation”
Your first job is to make sure that you are a positive scent experience. Don’t assume you smell good—make sure you are!
Observe good hygiene by bathing or showering at least once a day or after every time you sweat a lot. Be meticulous when it comes to personal cleanliness and odor. (In other words, do as your mother used to say and make sure to clean behind your ears, underneath toe- and fingernails, in your nose and navel!) Real seduction deserves nothing less than this.
I’ve met physically attractive men and women who assume they’re gorgeous but have lousy personal hygiene—a definite “turn-off”!
Another thing: if you don’t have this level of scrupulousness when it comes to odor and cleanliness, start raising your standards. If you don’t, your own olfactory nerves won’t do you the favor of telling you that you stink—you’ll be so used to your usual standards that your nose won’t be able to detect how you really smell to other people.
Now, I am not asking you to become neurotically obsessed with how you smell. Instead, aim to be pleasant and pleasing to the nose, without being overpowering.
Therefore, even as you keep scrupulously clean, don’t go overboard with the perfumed products and cologne. Aside from causing probable allergic reactions for yourself and others, having an overpowering fragrance or scent on your body can be an extremely annoying experience for your dream mate. You’ll come across as cheap and desperate, or as an expensive “high-maintenance” personality.
This is also why less is more when it comes to personal scents. You should wear just enough to keep some interest, and that’s it. If you wonder how much, it should never be more than one spray— and always on the skin, not on the clothes. Try to use a scent-free fabric softener, as you don’t want to start developing conflicting scents. By limiting your own personal scent, you can use the power of all other scents more effectively.
The best personal scent is one that is subtle, pleasant, memorable and unique. If you can somehow achieve this by using a little-known perfume or cologne that goes well with your body chemistry and personality, do so. It’s part of what will make your presence unforgettable!
Positive scent memories
Aside from smelling good yourself, you also need to create other positive scent-experiences for your dream mate as well.
To illustrate what I’m talking about, imagine meeting your dream mate at a quaint coffee shop. Whenever you sit down with this person and start drinking your respective favorite coffee beverages, the scent of this particular shop and its drinks will somehow remind you of your dream mate later on.
An even better, more sexually-charged example is a good dinner with good wine. Make sure you and your dream mate take the time to smell the food and wine properly, before taking a sip. You can prompt your dream mate to do this by talking about the subtle notes in the food and wine. (Yes, this takes study and practice.) I’m not asking you to be a snooty foodie or gourmand (if you’re not into that sort of thing). I merely want you and your dream mate to pay close attention to the components of every good scent you encounter, as part of creating a good sensory memory of your times together.
Paying attention to scents—and making your dream mate pay attention to them—helps create positive “smell memories” that your dream mate will inevitably associate with you. In the examples given above, if you plan your activities carefully, your dream mate will think of you every time they smell a particular style of coffee or a that glass of red wine—and the wonderful sensory experience you created just for that occasion.
Flowers are another way to get your dream mate interested. Aside from coming in different colors and beautiful shapes, many of them have wonderful scents. It is a great way of creating a “smell memory” your dream mate will remember.
You can create the same “feeling” that flowers bring if you create a unique experience connected to smell. (You can try giving a small basket of fresh fragrant fruits, for instance. They’re a more delicious and unexpected gift, and can be more personal without being too “forward”.)
Don’t overlook some tools right at your finger tips that are often free. If you live by an ocean, try inviting your dream mate for a walk along the beach. If you live near a mountain, try a hike on some unknown terrain. If you are in a small town, try walking down the road where the finest homes are. If you are in a metropolitan city, try walking up and down a busy street that allows you to “window shop”. Regardless of the location, as long as you take a deep breath followed by a “Wow, what a beautiful day”, it will prompt your dream mate to do the same, you will help create that “smell memory”. Make sure to have extra emphasis on breathing through your nose. Try to remember to do this during any meaningful date you have with your dream mate. You want them to think of you when they smell just about everything, from coffee to fresh air.