Do not give in to any attempts your ex makes to contact you and to see you. At one point you may feel sympathy for your ex, especially if they are going through a great emotional pain. In this case, you have to remind yourself of the benefits your ex will get from the relationship break-up eventually. The important thing is not to keep on meeting and explaining why the separation is good for both of you, as this can make things even worse.
Use all of these tips to cope with a relationship break-up cold turkey.
How to Treat Common Friends
There are all sorts of aspects related to relationship break-up that eventually turn out to be a cause for concern. One of them is how to treat common friends that you have shared as a couple. You would want to get as much understanding and support from friends as possible, but you are certainly worried about the fact that they may be on the side of your ex. Here is some advice on how to handle matters so that you can deal with the separation better.
Accept the fact that your common friends like both of you and that they will most likely prefer to be neutral in this situation. If you need to share with someone and get support, you may prefer to friends who are only yours. However, this does not mean that you should avoid talking to these people. Quite the opposite, you may want to keep in touch with them and go out with them for a chat or to have fun.
If you feel hostility and blame from common friends after the relationship break-up, you should definitely avoid talking to them. Regrettably, many people fail to understand that no matter who is at fault for the separation- if there is a side to blame at all - both ex partners feel upset and hurt. You should not let such people affect your emotional state in any way. Just avoid them and stop communicating with them at all if you have to. After all, they may be emotionally affected by the relationship break-up too.
You should be careful if these people offer support for you as well. If they are ready to provide emotional support without digging into the past and into the causes for the split, then you can readily accept their help. However, if they try to get details or try to turn you against your ex, you should definitely not listen to them. Friendships are often as complex as relationships, so you would not want to get into some scheme that will eventually lead to you or your ex getting more hurt.
The best way to treat common friends after a relationship break-up is to be friendly without wanting them to take sides.