Chapter Eight: How To Make A Woman Feel Like She’s Met The Man Of Her Dreams
The next step after you've got her attention is to introduce yourself and get her name. I hope you are smart enough to do that without my advice.
Then you've got to create the illusion of rapport. For those of you who don't know what rapport means, the dictionary defines it as: "Accord, affinity, relations marked by harmony."
The techniques you use to create rapport will vary according to the type of pick-up you are using. Of course, we've already gone over the proper way to use your tone of voice.
Here is a very sneaky and powerful way to create rapport with a woman.
You should use them when you're actually on a date as well as when you first meet a woman. They take some practice to master, but work quite well.
MIRRORING
There once was a very powerful and successful hypnotist by the name of Milton Erickson. When you are through with this book you may well want to build a shrine to Erickson, because this man is going to help get you laid more than having a million dollars cash and a body like Scharwtznegger.
Erickson could hypnotize anyone, even the most resistant patient or client. One of the ways he did this was by mirroring the breathing of the person he was hypnotizing.
Now, I'm going to pause for a minute so you can go through your "Bullshit" reaction. But mirroring someone's breathing is a very powerful way to make them unconsciously feel in tune with you.
Erickson would watch the rate of his client's breathing and then begin to match it with his own breathing, or with the pace of his speaking. Or he'd tap his chest with his hand in time to the persons breathing, and then begin to gradually slow the tapping.
The person's breathing would slow in time to the tapping!
Mirroring works because your unconscious picks up and is aware of things your conscious mind has no knowledge of.
To convince yourself that this is so, try this experiment:
Get a friend of yours and have them close their eyes. Ask them to keep their eyes closed, and guess what you are doing.
Stand in front of them, and begin speaking. As you do so, sway your head from side to side.
Ask them what you are doing.
Of course, they will be able to tell you you are moving your head back and forth. Now, ask them how they knew they'll tell you they could hear the difference in how you sounded.
Now, try it again, but this time ask them to keep their eyes open. Ask if they can hear the difference now, and of course they can't? Actually, they CAN hear the difference, because they still have the same pair of ears - they just aren't CONSCIOUSLY aware of it. But unconsciously, you bet they are!
In the same way, if you mirror a chick's breathing, or her tone of voice, or rate of speaking, or even a particular gesture she uses, on a conscious level she won't notice.
If she does notice on a conscious level, then you are being too obvious and she's either going to think you are a weirdo or are making fun of her, and neither of these will score you points.
But if you do it subtly, then all she will know is that for some odd reason she sure seems to feel right down comfortable with you, old buddy, as if she's loved you for years!
How to gain her phone number ?
A witty man could simple say: "Asking for it".
And he is completely right.
The easiest way to gain this information is by asking for it.
The probability to a woman to come to you and to give you her number is big only if you are a model.
How you ask for her number?
Personally,I use simple and very efficient methods.
For example,I pull my phone out from my pocket and I ask her what number she has.If you had an interesting conversation before with her,she will give it to you.
Or I tell her: "Note my number and give me a call so I can have your number on my phone.I like to know who call me.
This things should be done naturally.It hasn't to be a special moment.Smile and ask.