Section 5 – Pearls of Wisdom
This section dives into some of the “how-to’s” of having constant energy and bliss. So, grab your favorite beverage and let’s get this party started!
First and foremost, be excited about your new energy! Why? Because by getting excited about your new found energy, you will… (can you guess?) attract more of it.
To get excited about having more energy, try this simple exercise – anytime you proactively send out positive energy – via gratitude, a kind word of praise or appreciation, a positive affirmation, praying for someone, etc. – give yourself a small reward. It can be something very insignificant, but reward yourself. Even if you just give yourself a mental pat on the back, do it. Tell yourself that you “done good”, and thank yourself for increasing your own capacity. This act of rewarding yourself will help your subconscious mind search for other ways to give. Every time we give, we receive… as if you did not already know that! And again, every time we receive, we increase our capacity to give even more.
See everyone for who they can be, not necessarily who they are at this moment. See their potential, and see the good in them. Proactively look for it. Maybe you feel that some people are not that “good”, yet there is always something you can find that is good about a person. Focus on that good thing, even it is something insignificant and perhaps a little difficult to find.
When you see someone for who they can be, and you focus on them in a positive light, you literally transfer this positive energy frequency to them. They will subconsciously pick up on that frequency, and resonate it back to you. In other words, when you see people for who they can be, they will feel that way around you and miraculously become more of that person. King Solomon understood this pearl of wisdom exceptionally well, for he wrote down in Proverbs 15:1, “A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.”
It is similar to someone who is yelling at you. If you respond in a cool, calm manner and speak softly, it is almost impossible for them to continue yelling. They will tend to feel foolish. They are responding to the frequency you are emitting. It is the unseen energy force they are subconsciously responding to, and they will most likely begin lowering their voice and “become” the person who you are seeing them as in that moment.
See each person as a spiritual energy force, each with their own unique gifts and qualities. Why? Because that is exactly what they are. Understand that they, just like you, are connected to an Original Source of unlimited potential energy.
Send people your energy and rest assured, you will receive the same energy back in a multitude of ways, even if it is not directly from that person. It will flow right back to you in good measure and in good time. The more you do this, the more energy and bliss you will experience on a constant basis. In fact, do it all the time. Do it every minute of every day for the best results. If you send out positive energy sometimes, you will receive sometimes results. Send it out all the time and you will live with constant energy and bliss. It is not impossible. On the contrary, it is very practical, and totally possible.
“With God all things are made possible” Matthew 19:26
Forgive people who have harmed you in any way. Forgiveness does not necessarily “let them off the hook”. Those people will still need to give back the energy they stole from you in one form or another. Pray that when the negative energy comes back around to them, it comes back in such a way that it teaches them a valuable lesson and they become a better person. What goes around inevitably comes back around, whether in this life or the next. However, when you forgive people, you essentially release blocked energy channels in your own life.
Ask the Universe questions such as, “How can I help You? What can I do for You? What is the best way which I can use my talents while I am in this earthly energy form?” Ask this question every single day in the morning as you are lying there trying to wake up. Ask with an open heart, even if your eyes are not yet open! You must have the attitude of wanting to help the Universe become a better place.
Ask how you can be a conduit of love energy several times throughout the day. Ask that your eyes and your heart remain wide open. Most importantly, act “as if” you are already receiving the guidance and direction you need at this time. Praying is most effective when done with faith. You are sending out vibrational frequencies of expectation, therefore results in one form or another are inevitable. Do not worry about receiving the exact results you want. The Original Source knows precisely the best way to answer your prayers.
YOU must take the first step towards life’s river of energy. A small amount of inertia on your part can crack open bottlenecks and allow energy to flow your way. Even if you just set a goal to set a goal to set a goal, you will begin attracting a higher energy. Studies have shown that about 40 percent of our happiness is influenced by what we do deliberately to make ourselves happy.
Set goals each day to do something that sets energy into motion. Use the suggestions within this book and set yourself some lofty goals to get within the flow.
A fun way to create inertia and begin the process of increasing your potential is to make friendly “appointments” with yourself. Make an actual appointment to have a lighthearted conversation with yourself at least a couple of times throughout the day. The meetings can be just a minute or two, perhaps longer if you have the opportunity. It can be in your car as you park to go to the store. It can be in the bathroom at your place of work. Wherever you can be alone and have minimal distractions is a good place.
During these meetings, give yourself some honest praise and appreciation. Say something along the lines of, “well John (if I were speaking with myself), it’s 4pm and I just wanted to let you know that I really admire and respect the way you handled that situation at work today. You were very calm and rational while others acted feisty and desperate. I think the other people in the meeting were pretty darn impressed! You are doing a fantastic job not only career-wise, but with family and friends as well. Everybody loves you, and they know that you love them. You are one cool dude!”
Be good to yourself. Be your own best friend. LOVE YOURSELF!!!
Self love involves nurturing your inner child. When you practice this on a regular basis and give yourself genuine praise and appreciation, you are helping yourself grow as an individual. Nurture your spirit self as much as you possibly can. This will increase your capacity to love others as well. Your inner child will grow and mature, and will shine brightly in everyday situations. Energy will flow a lot easier through a healthy, happy soul.
Do not try and steal energy from others using harsh language, criticisms or insults. We often do this to the people we are closest with, falsely believing that it does not really matter because those people will always be there, they are used to it, or they do not take you seriously anyway. The truth is that is does matter. Whenever you steal energy from people in any way, you eventually will have that same energy taken from you one way or another.
You see, the nature of the Universe is that of a giant vacuum system. If you steal someone’s energy to make yourself feel better – such as the case when we put others down in order to lift ourselves up – you have just created a hole in that person’s energy field. Well, this hole needs to be filled back up with energy. Therefore, energy will eventually be taken from you in some manner in order to make up that difference.
Everybody at one time or another has heard the expression “what goes around comes around”. This is not some cliché proverb that sounds good but, well, who really knows if it is true or not. It absolutely, positively the most factual and truthful expression you will ever hear. You can downright count on it. So obviously when you give energy, a space is also created that now needs to be filled back up within your own field of energy. The positive energy which you voluntarily gave away must come back to you; it is a scientific fact based on the Universal Law of Energy.
“For if you give, you will get! Your gift will return to you in full and overflowing measure, pressed down, shaken together to make room for more, and running over. Whatever measure you use to give, large or small, will be used to measure what is given back to you." Luke 6:38.
Anxiety
We feel anxious when we have some doubt or fear about a future or current situation. Anxiety is one of the most notorious thieves of energy. It can create major imbalances of energy. Many people turn to pharmaceutical drugs in order to avoid panic attacks and anxiety. Now, I am not saying that prescription medicine is not helpful. It most certainly can be a very effective temporary solution. But it is sad to watch people be continually dependent on temporary, short- term solutions, and never get to the root of their anxiety.
“Do not be anxious about anything,
but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving,
present your requests to God.” Philippians 4:6
Also consider the following words which Jesus spoke to his disciples regarding anxiety:
“Then Jesus said to his disciples: ‘Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat; or about your body, what you will wear. Life is more than food, and the body more than clothes. Consider the ravens: They do not sow or reap, they have no storeroom or barn; yet God feeds them. And how much more valuable you are than birds! Who of you by worrying can add a single hour to his life? Since you cannot do this very little thing, why do you worry about the rest?’ ” Luke 12:22-26
If you are in a comfortable position in life, that is great news for you, congratulations! However, if you are in a difficult situation in which there is much stress and anxiety, here is one of the best pieces of advice you will ever hear: LAUGH AT YOURSELF! Just take a deep breath, throw your hands up in the air, and laugh as much as possible at the situation in which you find yourself. Feel completely detached from the situation and its possible outcome. Remind yourself that you are human, and give yourself a pat on the back for facing the situation head on. Stop trying to control the outcome. Know that difficult challenges have their meaning. There can be many positive outcomes, even in the wake of tragedy.
“Every adversity, every failure, every heartache
carries with it the seed of an equal or greater benefit.” Napoleon Hill
Mental Health
The brain is the organ of learning, loving, and behaving. When the brain works right, you work right and are generally more positive and effective. When the brain is troubled, you will experience a higher level of stress and strain. If you don’t take care of your brain, you can actually lose about 85,000 brain cells per day on average! This is what causes aging. Therefore it is crucially important that you take good care of your brain and incorporate mental stimulation exercises into your daily routine. You can proactively reverse the aging process and increase your mental agility; not to mention, you will be a more alert, more effective conduit of energy!
According to Dr. Daniel G. Amen – physician, psychiatrist, brain imaging specialist – there is a part of your brain called the “brain reserve”. Brain reserve is the cushion of healthy brain tissue we have that deals with the unexpected stresses that come our way. The more reserve we have, the more resilient we are in times of trouble. The less reserve, the more vulnerable we are.
Dr. Amen offers twelve “prescriptions” to optimize our brains for a better life:
1. Love Your Brain
Loving your brain is a first step toward loving yourself. Try to cut back or let go entirely of “bad brain habits” such as the consumption of fast food, diet sodas, smoking, and other bad habits such as lacking sleep and neglecting to exercise. Bad brain habits lead to a toxic, bumpy appearance in your brain, and it will not function as efficiently as it could.
2. Increase the Brain’s Reserve
Living a brain healthy life will increase your brain’s reserve and your ability to deal with the inevitable stresses that come your way. It is never too late to work on increasing your brain’s reserve. However, there are certain things that will decrease your brain reserve. Some examples include:
• Chronic stress
• Brain injuries
• Excessive alcohol or drugs
• Negative thinking
• Poor dietary habits
• Environmental toxins
• Lack of sleep
• Smoking
• Excessive caffeine
3. Protect Your Brain
Your brain is a very soft and delicate muscle. However, it doesn’t take a rocket scientist to know that even a minor brain injury can ruin your life. Drive safely, wear your seatbelt, and do not take risks where you may fall and hit your head.
4. Stop Poisoning Your Brain
Limit your alcohol consumption. Too much alcohol is detrimental to your brain health, not to mention highly toxic. Do not smoke, take illegal drugs (including marijuana), or consume too much caffeine. Also, avoid using cleaning products without good ventilation.
5. Protect Your Memory
According to a study from UCLA, 95% of people with Alzheimer’s disease are not diagnosed until they are in the moderate to severe stages of the disorder, when not much can be done. Exercise can help tremendously with improving cognitive ability.
There are also a number of supplements that have been shown to help memory, including fish oil, gingko biloba, sage and a Chinese moss extract called huperazine.
6. Get Enough Sleep
Lack of sleep can affect your mood, your memory and your ability to concentrate. If you are one of 60 million Americans who suffer from sleeping disorders, there are some effective natural supplements which can help you fall asleep easier, including melatonin, valerian root, kava kava, or 5-HTP.
7. Deal with Pain
Chronic pain affects everything in a negative way, such as sleep, mood, memory and concentration. Pain medications may be a good temporary solution, but they should not be taken for long periods. There is some research which suggests that long term use of prescription pain medications may be detrimental to brain health. Consider some more natural ways to thwart bodily pain. They include fish oil, acupuncture, music therapy, massage therapy, and even hypnosis.
8. Eat Healthy Brain Food
Foods that are high in fiber and do not raise your blood sugar are a good place to start. Consume more whole grains, green leafy vegetables, and healthy fats that contain omega three fatty acids such as tuna, salmon, avocados and walnuts. Since the brain is 85% water, anything that may cause dehydration is bad for the brain, such as alcohol, caffeine, excess salt or not drinking enough fluids.
9. Physical Exercise
We always hear that exercise is good for you. It does indeed have many wonderful benefits, including an increased blood flow to the brain. It also increases chemicals that are important for learning and memory, as well as stimulating the growth of new brain cells. Twenty to thirty minutes 3 or 4 times a week is all you need.
10. Mental Exercise
In one recent study of lab rats, mental exercise was found to generate new cells in the learning and memory centers of the brain. These new cells lasted for about four weeks. If they were not stimulated by new learning, they died off. If you stimulate your brain cells with mental exercises or by learning something new, they connect to other cells and become part of the fabric of your brain.
There are many ways to stimulate the brain, including crossword puzzles, playing video games (yes, it’s true!), learning to play an instrument or learning a new language. In addition, any exercise that combines mental stimulation, coordination, physical exercise and music is phenomenal for the development of new brain cells, such as dancing or playing an instrument.
11. Loving Your Life
There has been some recent discoveries which show that people who focus on the positive have different looking brains than people who tend to think negatively. The brain scans of positive, optimistic people looked healthy, while the scans of those who focused on the negative showed decreased activity in several important areas of their brain, involving emotions and memory.
Focusing on what you hate serves only to stifle creativity, learning, and imagination. Focusing on positive, happy, optimistic thoughts increases your potential and helps you become a better you!
12. Loving Others
When people do things that we do not like, we tend to pay more attention to that and ridicule them for doing those “bad” things. After all, we do not want them to do that bad thing again. However, we rarely give praise and appreciation to someone for doing a good job and “getting it right”. We just expect them to do this or that and not screw up. This creates fear and anxiety in people because they are focusing more on not messing up. However, when we give people praise and appreciation for the good things they do, they are uplifted and inspired to perform even better. Subconsciously they think that if they receive praise and appreciation for the little things they do, how much more appreciation will they receive if they do something even better?
The idea is to notice the little things about people. For example, if you are a boss, notice the way your employee handled a particular situation at work and give her a verbal pat on the back. Don’t be one of those bosses that notices everything both good and bad, yet never says anything. If you need to let someone know about a mistake they made, do your best to “sandwich” it between two compliments. The employee will take it as constructive criticism, and will not walk away from you with his “tail between his legs” feeling like a bad employee. Any time we give genuine praise and appreciation, we send out positive vibrations, which always come back to us at the right time.
The more you find good in another, the more you'll find good in yourself.
No matter who that "other" is.
More about mental health
Try to do something every day that forces you to challenge your mind. It can be a crossword puzzle, a memory game, learning a new language, learning new dance steps, or whatever else engages and exercises your brain. Also, try to make watching television more of a luxury, and when you do watch it, try as often as you can to view programs which might actually teach you something. Even news can be at least somewhat stimulating, although not very much. In fact, if you’re not careful, watching too much news can actually create a lot of unnecessary stress. Reading news on the internet is better than watching it on TV because you are engaging your brain and thinking about what you are reading.
Sometimes, TV shows which make us laugh can be good for the soul. Laughing releases stress and tension, and sends endorphins (our body’s natural healing chemicals) through our entire being. Personally I like the show ‘Jackass’. Can you believe what these guys will go through just to get a laugh?! Ok I know, it’s weird… but I do think it’s hilarious.
So although television can be useful and entertaining now and again, people tend to watch too much of it. Watching too much television has the opposite effect of reading. It does very little to stimulate the mind because it is basically an effortless activity which does not engage the brain nearly as much as reading. TV is probably the world’s greatest brain drain. It is the ultimate pacifier, simultaneously numbing our minds. But pacification feels pretty good, right? Of course it does; we were all raised with various pacifiers as we grew up, and as adults we still love being pacified, just in different ways. It feels great to just sit there and watch TV. Believe me, I know!
Nevertheless, just keep in mind that in order to vibrate at a higher frequency and be all you can be, you need to stimulate the mind as much as possible. When the mind is stimulated, you open yourself up to receiving creative, higher frequency thoughts and ideas. You will be inspired with new and fresh perspectives.
Dealing with Laziness
Here is something that all of us, no matter who we are, can relate to. Everyone has a lazy side to some degree, even the so-called “type-A” personalities. Comfort zones and complacency can certainly hinder you from achieving a lot of things. However, acknowledging your lazy side and actually respecting it can help you deal with it more effectively. It does not have any control over you whatsoever. It never has. You only allow it to have control. When you allow your lazy side to win, you give it strength. Yet even still, it never has had any genuine control over you. It just tempts you with a greater effectiveness, like a really bad habit.
Here are some things you can do to loosen the grip of laziness. First, acknowledge your lazy side. In fact, make friends with it. Actually treat it with sympathy and compassion. Some people I have spoken with even have a name for it. They refer to their lazy side with real names such as “Mr. Lethargy” “Stupor”, “Dazed & Confused”, “Madame Slothberger” or some other funny name. Whatever name you give (if any at all) to your lazy side will be relevant to you and your personal situation.
People often have major resentment with this side of them because it is consistently getting in their way of being the achiever they wish to be. Naming it and treating it like a real being is a form of reverse psychology on yourself. Encouraging it to cooperate with you is far more effective than trying to constantly fight against it. Fighting anybody, even a side to your own personality, serves only to give that side your energy and strength. It is the reason that most diets do not work. Sooner or later, that “other side” to you is going to be quite upset and fight to regain control.
The point is that if you are “good” to your lazy side and treat it right, it will also be good to you. I understand that this may seem a little crazy, but stay with me. One must think outside the box if one expects to achieve outside-the-box results.
So for example, have a real sit-down conversation with your lazy side and speak to it in a friendly manner. Ask it to cooperate with you when that time comes where you have something you really wish to accomplish. Say to it, “ok lazy side (or whatever name you may give it), hear me out… I need your help right now. You see, I have this important task and I would like very much to accomplish it by this Wednesday, at 7pm. I will give you free reign on Sunday for at least 2 and half hours. You can do whatever you feel like doing – watch TV, see a movie, get a massage, chat with friends, eat ice cream with the kids, anything. What do you say… will you help me out?” As strange as this may sound, this approach has an uncanny way of “energizing” your lazy side into cooperating and working with you. On a subconscious level, it will understand that it will have its time over the weekend, so it understands that it needs to help you and loosen its grip over the next few days.
If you make your lazy side your “friend” as opposed to your bitter enemy, it will be more willing to loosen its grip and free up that needed energy for you to accomplish your goals.
Do not fall into the trap that most people fall into, which is to view their lazy side as the enemy. When this is the case, we tend to want to use sheer will power to overcome the laziness. This may work temporarily, but after a while people usually become exhausted, and their lazy side fights even harder to tempt them to crawl back into that old comfort zone where it is warm and cozy. Viewing your lazy side as the enemy and hating it actually gives it energy and power. We think about it too much because after all, we do not want to lose the fight. We must accomplish our tasks, and that is that. However odd it may seem to you, try befriending your lazy side and have periodic conversations with it such as those described above.
Incidentally, this method can also work with any negative habit, or chain. Ask for cooperation with any one of your “bad habit friends”. Let’s say you want to quit smoking. You crave cigarettes every day and want to smoke about once every hour. So, you may want to ask Mr. Puffmeister (the assumed name of your smoking habit) that you will get right back to smoking if he will just help you to not smoke for a couple hours. Ask for an honest commitment, without compromise. Then, follow through on the promise you made to yourself and DO NOT SMOKE for a couple of hours. When the two hours have passed, have a cigarette. Be sure to thank Mr. Puffmeister for working with you. Ask him for the same favor tomorrow, but perhaps for three hours. You get the point.
Whether you are referring to your lazy side or some other side to you, you are essentially having a conversation with your subconscious mind. Your subconscious mind is the part of you which needs constant guidance and direction. It truly needs your encouragement, your support and most of all, your unconditional love. Think of it as your inner child who needs to be shown the way towards absolute health and wellbeing.
If you ever find yourself in some unfortunate situation, try having a conversation with your subconscious mind and say, “listen, do not stress about this temporary situation we are in, just work with me and we will overcome this together, okay?” Your subconscious mind will work with you and literally attract what you need to get through the situation.
Most people do not realize that their subconscious mind can be and should be their best friend. Treat it right and speak to it as though it is your best friend and it will work wonders for you. Energy is transferred via your subconscious mind. This is why you will always hear every self- help guru tell us that the main strategy to change our outer world is to first change our inner world (subconscious minds) through meditation, visualization, and affirmations.
Final Thoughts
I am not going to bore you with a long, complicated, academic, grand finale ending. There will be no motivational, “pump you up” send off. You kno