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INTRODUCTION

Most of the previous techniques are well known and mental

imagery is used by therapists. With visioning, we are entering in

an unexplored territory. However, visioning is the masterpiece

of all the personal development courses.

Real life example:

Visioning is quite unknown outside the US and the United

kingdom. When I delivered this course to executive trainees

coming from Africa, my French colleagues were anxious. They

feared that the students would think that I was going mad!

Of course, the students were quite astonished because they have

never heard before about these topics but as a result they were

enthusiastic and asked me to develop the course again and again.

Objectives:

Our objectives are :

-To show you how to define your vision and its "success image".

-To teach you the visioning techniques

-To give you some tips about managing your vision

By the end, you will know how to implement your vision in your

subconscious. As a result, you will find yourself transported in a

success story.

Real life example:

Universities and business schools ignore visioning. They do not

teach how to implement success in your mind.

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On the contrary, these techniques are intensively taught to

sportsmen going to top competitions. Our educational public

system trains better the sportsmen than the biz men!

1-DEFINITION OF VISION

The first and most important step for starting a business is to

create your own vision.

-Definition: Your Vision is what you want to become. Vision

commits your personality. It answers the question: "what do you

want to do with your life ? What is your mission ?"

11-How to discover your vision.

You have a vision. But you do not know it. You have to discover it

in using a self analysis. Look at the following table. It shows that

all our lives comprise activities that aim to satisfy requirements

as in the table below:

Field

Activity

Requirements or aims

Physical Exercise

Be healthy

Mental

Learn

Be educated

Social

Found a family Love and be loved

Make friends

Spiritual Do good

Fulfil a spiritual mission

Using this model, try to complete the table. For example, it can be

presumed that you are going to put in the mental field: learn

management and be educated in business.

You will find yourself faced with a table that is yet too general.

You have to go to the specifics. To do this, answer the following

question: If I had unlimited money and time, what would I really

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like to become? (requirements or aims column). You will show in

your table below your preference and just that.

To help you, we will imagine the John ’s answers

This table, after a long self analysis shows the real aims of John.

From these aims it is easy to deduce a vision. John is now able to

describe his vision in one single sentence: I want to run a leisure

biz to work in open air, have fun and make my friends happy.

That is a true vision. You will notice that we have not spoken

about accumulating money. Money is not an activity in itself. It is

a resource. We have not spoken about the investment needed to

start a business. You need, for example, four off-road vehicles, a

motor launch, diving equipment, etc. They are also resources.

Resources here are not important.

Now, you have to do the exercise for yourself. You must obtain

one single sentence for defining your vision!

12- How to Create your success image

Using your vision, you should now create your success image.

The goal of the success image is to provide with a tool that you

will constantly use for implementing your vision in your

subconscious.

-Definition: The success image is once again a mental image, like

the image resource. Instead of describing a past event that you

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had experienced, the success image describes a future event that

you would like to experience.

Look at the drawing 1 which illustrates this definition.

Important warning:

Don't confuse image resource, success image and remote

viewing.

An image resource describes a past event that you had really

experienced. For example, I had really experienced a pleasant

promenade on the Thames river some decades ago!

A success image is a product of your imagination. It describes an

event that you would be happy to experience in the future. For

example, suppose that you are a little clerk. Your success image

shows you acting as CEO of a big corporate. Of course, that is

neither your past situation nor unfortunately your present. It's a

fictitious image linked to your vision and your future.

Remote viewing is the ability to describe present event which

are impossible to perceive with our sensory system. For

example, remote viewing had been used by the CIA: People were

trained to get a mental image of some secret bases in Siberia. It

was the "Star gate program". It is supposed to have been

cancelled by 1995 because of its poor results.

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According to our John 's example of a vision, here is an example

of a possible success image for John:

I am contemplating a magnificent landscape. I have led a team of

customers and friends to the top of Mount Whitney. Glaciers are

glittering. The snow is wonderful. I am exhausted but happy. I

hear my team applaud me. I surf on an ocean of happiness and

success.

As you see, the film should be neither too long nor too complex

since you will have to repeatedly watch it.

You should now create your own success image: identify it and

draw it. Once you have built your image, keep it in the smallest

detail and don’t change it any more. Our targeted ads could help

you because they provide with images of happiness.

2-VISIONING TECHNIQUES

You have now to implement in your subconscious this success

image. That is the core job and once again it needs a bit of

training.

21-The main process

For implementing your success image in the subconscious, you

have to follow a precise process. First you have to relax as we

have shown above. When you have gotten a full relaxation, you

have to follow three sequences

-FIRST SEQUENCE

The eyes are still closed. See your interior mental space as a

black screen. Concentrate on this black screen taking at least five

regular and slow breaths. Specify the outline of this area so that

it resembles a blank television screen.

- SECOND SEQUENCE

Imagine your screen turned on. To make this passage easier,

make a habit of pressing together you thumb and index finger (

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anchoring), as though you were pressing your TV’s remote

control. This reflex association should make changing from one

screen to the other easier.

-THIRD SEQUENCE

Imagine the mental image of your success. For example, imagine

the board of directors. You see your staff entering and leaving.

Then imagine yourself coming in and sitting down in your

President’s chair. Everyone is looking at you and is waiting for

your message.

The following drawing 2 visualizes all this process:

It is important to properly visualize each detail: the boardroom’s

lighting, its shape, the color of the furniture, the important

people who are waiting for you and so on. This image must be

mobile as on a television screen. Also imagine what you feel.

You will not manage such precision the first time or the second.

The important thing is to keep the scenario chosen and carry out

the exercise as often as possible.

In concrete terms, we recommend that you carry out this

exercise every evening before going to bed. The more precision

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you gain at each exercise, the more this image will seem alive

and the more it will happen in reality!

22-Supplementary techniques

The techniques described here will help you to deal with the

difficulties of daily life. Just like with visioning, it is important to

rigorously follow the procedure and practice as much as

possible.

-The specific vision:

You can use the same technique for special events: For example,

you have a presentation to make tomorrow before a dozen

people. Proceed in the same way as in the two previous stages.

For the third stage, imagine the meeting room and those present.

You see yourself entering the room and starting to speak. The

people listen to you with interest. Your presentation is a great

success.

Using this training, you will manage easily to vision specific

events and you will notice that, in most cases, events will happen

just like you imagined them. This observation should encourage

you to persevere in your general vision since it shows you the

effectiveness of the method in your daily life.

The specific vision must always be coherent with the global

vision. For example, if your vision includes a boardroom in a

luxurious building, a specific vision of a sports race would have

no coherence and would be completely ineffective. For global

and specific visions to mutually strengthen each other, they must

be part of the same world or scenario.

-Take vitamins:

You take vitamins in the morning for your body, but you have to

take vitamins also for your subconscious. For example, read the

five quotes and create mental images associated with these five

quotes and in coherence with your overall vision:

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Closing your eyes, say them in watching the images associated

with them each morning on getting up.

I feel sure of myself

Everything I do is easy

I am going to progress further today towards the

aim that I have fixed myself

I had complete control over my future

Everyone helps me and likes me

There are your daily vitamins!

3-MANAGING THE VISIONING

31-Keep a log

Some of you certainly kept a diary when you were young. You

should renew with this habit by keeping a log for your vision.

Obviously, don’t include any negative experiences! Writing them

down would just implement them in your subconscious in

contradiction with your objective. On the other hand, describe in

detail all your activities and thoughts from day to day concerning

your vision.

Carefully note all the facts that seem strange, even if they are

insignificant. For example, you meet a childhood friend you

haven’t seen for ten years by chance. Note this fact and think

about it. It is surely a signal that is part of the realization of your

vision.

Also note the sentences that you have heard during

conversations that have attracted your attention without you

knowing why. Your conscious doesn't know why but don’t forget

that your subconscious is working and that it knows. Analyze

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these sentences as though they were enigmas. You can find a

hidden message for your vision.

Carefully note the dreams that you remember on waking up.

Keep your log on your bedside table with a pen to be able to

write them down straight away. Indeed, a few minutes after

waking up, you will have completely forgotten them.

Regularly re-read your log at least once per week. You will be

surprised to notice that strange fact get a meaning and that your

action is developing quickly like a force that nothing will stop.

Thanks to your training, your subconscious like an army of

invisible hands is working for your own success, day after day!

32-Keep your way

You must absolutely maintain your genuine vision and its goals.

Never downgrade it!

Along your course, the original reality is a magnet that holds you

back. The vision is a magnet that pulls you forward and You are

between them.

DRAWING 3

Let us suppose that, as in the diagram above, you are at an equal

distance between the two. When you come across a difficulty,

you will be tempted to lower your ambitions and downgrade

your vision. Acting like this makes you think you are getting

closer to the modified vision. You had 10 meters to run, you

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think that by limiting your ambitions there will only be 7 meters

left.

This reasoning is false. Rather than getting closer to a vision that

is easier to attain, you will on the contrary move away from it, as

shown by the diagram below:

DRAWING 4

Continue with this way and your present reality will be again

identified with the original one.

You must maintain your course at all costs. When a difficulty

crops up, deal with it in a positive way.

To illustrate this fact that may seem obscure, we will take the

example of a sailor. A weak breeze slowly pushes his boat

towards his destination harbor: Athens. Suddenly, an adverse

wind blows up. An unskilled sailor can choose to go towards the

closest harbor.

In fact, an experienced sailor knows that he can use this wind as

a lever. He adapts his sail. He beats windward and he knows he

will reach Athens quicker than if he were pushed by a weak

breeze.

Lesson summary

The first and most important step for starting a business is to

create your own vision.

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Your vision is what you want to become. Vision commits your

personality. It answers the question: "what do you want to do

with your life ? What is your mission ?"

Using your vision, you should create your success image. The

success image is once again a mental image, like the image

resource. Instead of describing a past event that you had

experienced, the success image describes a future event that you

would like to experience.

The goal of the success image is to provide with a tool that you

will constantly use for implementing your vision in your

subconscious. You have now to implement in your subconscious

this success image. That is the core job and once again it needs a

bit of training.

You must absolutely maintain your genuine vision and its goals.

When a difficulty crops up, deal with it in a positive way. Never

downgrade your vision!

Positive beliefs push reality towards the vision. The vision also

pulls along reality. In the end, the reality must identify with the

vision.

DO IT YOURSELF

1-You have to discover your vision and to write it in one single

sentence.

2-Then you have to create your success image. Count about 15

hours for these two crucial tasks.

3-Once you have created your success image, you can begin the

exercises for implementing it in your subconscious. During seven

days, make the exercise 6 times a day. The next week, make it

four times a day. Then, during the two following weeks, make it

at least 2 times a day. It means that you have to perform 25

hours of intensive visioning within a month. Don't cheat!

Remember that visioning is your key to success.

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For the future, try to make one exercise every night before

sleeping. When you are in trouble, make several exercises every

days! Vision, vision, always vision!

4-Open a log and write down your observations.

Globally, these tasks represent 40 hours.

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