By now, you will have an in-depth understanding as to what de-motivates you. Now, albeit in reverse, the process of creating positive associations is the same.
As there are past ‘negatively associated experiences’, there are also positive experiences, which create a ‘positively charged associated core experience’. To do this, you need to be familiar with what it is you ‘love’.
Yes, as bizarre as this may sound. If you identify what it is you ‘love’, then this is a short cut to the transformational process. Though it might feel more familiar and comfortable to use words such as ‘desire’. Yet, what we are really referring to is a core preference often referred to on the surface as a like or love.
So let us now demonstrate tapping your likes, desires, and ultimately what it is you love.
In the case of Tony, once his de-motivating factors had been identified and dissolved; the raw energy of motivation awaits an instruction. If this energy is not harnessed in a relatively short space of time, it could easily gravitate back to the old state of de-motivation. As mentioned earlier, with the absence of de-motivation there is no void, nothing missing, and no gap to fill so to speak. The energy returns to its natural state of balance that is neutrality. However, do you recall the word ‘flux’? Also spoke of earlier, consciousness in flux prevents humans truly standing still, which means that if the energy of motivation is not consciously harnessed, then yes, there is a possibility it could listen once again from the sub-unconscious, and gravitate towards de-motivation. Nevertheless, for Tony, this is not the case.
In previous chats, Tony was asked some simple questions.
Here are those questions:
1 - What do you love about life?
2 - What do you love about your work?
What can be gleaned from these two questions alone can fill a whole module. Though for simplicity, what follows is a brief outline, searching for his main drivers.
Remember the only possible way to motivate, is by way of positive encouragement. Therefore, to fully understand what motivates, and drives Tony, we must ask him directly, what he ‘loves’ about his life. Not what he likes, or desires, and not about his work. As at this point, it is all about Tony.
In asking what it is he loves; the ego is bypassed, as well as all other character or personality traits. This is so because the very essence of the word love conveys unseen subtle electromagnetic vibrations of light. These vibrations are pulsing, and rotating in a positive resonance, whereas fears are the opposite. That is, corresponding resonances that pulse and vibrate in the negative. So irrespective of whether the individual is aggressive, defensive, or even violent, when the word love is genuinely projected surface reality communicates directly with an individuals' core. However, we are not talking of surface love’s, such as ‘I love my car’, or ‘I love my partner’. Neither are we conveying new age, spiritual, or religious unconditional love such as ‘hug a tree’ type of love. What is being talked of here is the electromagnetic vibration, which is one of two core polarities in human beings.
The electromagnetic vibration of love and fear has a sound frequency recordable as hertz. Though slight ambiguity surrounds the actual frequency range, there is confidence that science will settle on quantifiable numbers sometime soon. However, did you spot the shift from the word ‘love’ to a ‘hertz’, to a ‘sound frequency’? This is so because every vibrational frequency in existence is also a sound. The human ear cannot hear it; nevertheless, it is still a sound.
So back to Tony…
As asked what it is he love’s about life. What we are really looking for is what drives him. What is it that gets him up in the morning, and irrespective of his darkest days, what is it that keeps him going? If you do not understand this about yourself, then truly motivating will be an impossible task. Though for Tony and like most individuals, positive self-motivation comes by way of ‘personal advancement’. This is so because at the core of the core is ‘growth’. Yes, did you grasp that? At the core of the core. That is, behind an individuals' core of life and duality is pure growth. With a little self-reflection, this is easily understood.
As a mentor, please take a moment to ask yourself the following;
Beyond health, partners, children, money, happiness, security, and enjoying a great long life, what is at your core? What is the ultimate purpose to your life?
Simplified down, most all in the existence of this world strives with a forward motion. Whether it’s defined as growth, or advancement, everything is striving to move forward. Yes, there are situations and necessary circumstances of backward and reverse actions. Though, ultimately, growth, advancement, development, call it what you will, is the overall feeling of moving forward.
Furthermore, Tony is perhaps no different to yourself, in so much that he views himself as an individual, with highly subjective and very personal views in life. That is, if you are not perceiving yourself as moving forward, and advancing in life. Then please, please bear in mind that there is little, or no, motivation to work. So, to transform the energy of motivation into self-motivation, as an inspirational mentor, the main priority is to identify what it is you love. If, however, you ask what you like, or desire instead of what you love. This will not reach the subtle levels and will dilute the transformational process.
While Tony can like, or even desire something, he may not necessarily love it. In other words, he may like, or even desire his job. Yet at his core, there is unlikely to be any connection to work at all. Whilst this may surprise, even disappoint you. This is a truth spoke earlier that work is not the core of a human’s motivation. Their core is connected to their own personal growth, not their work. It may be expressed through work, yet the core is always individual growth. However, as soon as this is accepted, then progression can be made. Though, to throw another spanner in the works so to speak, please give some thought to the following statistics.
It is said that 75% of all working individuals will take time off with stress, and 75% of all doctors visitations are due to depressive issues. Furthermore, recent studies during 2013 suggest that depression alone costs UK corporate companies $16 billion USD (£12 billion GBP), and USA companies $80 billion USD (£50+ billion GBP). As this has increased two-fold decade upon decade, this alone is a strong indicator that individuals are not motivated by work alone.
Though please do not be dismayed because it is easily rectified. Once core loves are identified, and nurtured, the bi-product is a successful personal and business life. As when you flip focus from the company’s direction, to the focus of an individual’s direction. Then a paradoxical transformation happens.
Often we forget that people drive businesses to succeed, and not the other way around. It is a wise person that fully comprehends without people there is no business. Yet, this is not a crusade for wishy washy unquantifiable solutions, and it is not anti-establishment. On the contrary, one only needs to look at past animal studies, then overlay these to understand that we humans are not too dissimilar.
That is, free-range chickens produce more, and larger eggs than caged hens. Pasture cows produce more milk and meat than penned cattle. Animals in nature reproduce, and live longer than zoo life. While there is no suggestion humans are animals, there are striking similarities that are wise to consider. Hearts beat to the same beat; blood circulates similar veins, and the source that creates, exists in, and maintains all.
As humans, we have learned from, and have a lot more to glean from our animal friends, non-more than the dynamics of motivation. It is not difficult to understand that for animals, basic motivation is the survival of life. That is food, security, procreation, etc. Yet have you ever noticed that when any animal is placed in captivity, and their basic survival needs met - de-motivation sets in?
What does this have to do with humans? Well, what we are talking about here is the core of the core. For animals, their core of the core is an innate program of survival, and when stripped of this driver, their natural functionality declines. With this in mind, is it any wonder that captive animals display aggressive behavior, develop distemper, and experience difficulty in producing offspring?
Likewise, human’s innate core driver is for ‘growth’, and this can only ever be achieved through love. This is so because as highlighted earlier, humans have only two core drivers, love or fear. Though as you will already know, it is not often staff come to work stating they are here solely for the purpose of trying to banish their fears. Yet, this is exactly the case.
In a recent study, it was discovered that a staggering 90% of individuals were indeed operating from a premise of fear. That is, fear of not providing enough for their family, fear of someone else taking their role, fear of being fired, etc. With this in mind, is it any wonder that de-motivation serves as a key factor in the demise, and collapse of whole companies. Yet, when turned around and operated from the polar opposite energy of love, then the exact reverse happens. Individuals flourish, and companies expand. This is so because there is one simple universal dynamic law that to date has been available to only a few. That is the Dynamic Law of Contraction and Expansion. Either something is contracting, or expanding, it is as simple as that. In other words, as energy is always in a state of flux, it is always moving and there is no fixed state of being. In a human sense, this translates into an individual’s life is only ever doing one of two things. That is, growing or shrinking, de-motivating or self-motivating, with their core resonating from love or fear. There is no in between. There is no stop, no end point. There is only gravitating to, or from.
So, when Tony is asked the question of what he loves about life. The question reaches directly into, and connects with his unseen electromagnetic dynamics that sub-unconsciously influence and propel him. As bizarre as this may sound, the question incorporating the word ‘love’ automatically, and subtlety converts itself into a corresponding electromagnetic vibration of which Tony has little choice but to respond.
When it comes to your inner dynamics, this is easily quantifiable. At the right moment, pose this very question to your own mind, carefully observing your knee jerk response. Then, on a separate and totally unconnected day, ask yourself what you ‘love’ about your life. The words ‘like’ and ‘love’ send two very different, and powerful signals. Yet because people are neither acquainted, or comfortable asking what it is they love. More often than not, the general feedback is a series of overlays leading to a distorted take of personal motivators.
Though there may be some natural resistance and discomfort in posing the ‘love’ questioning, please challenge yourself to overcome this. As when it is replaced with the secondary word of ‘desire’, then the effects are lessened. While desire can achieve good results, love can achieve outstanding results.
As an example:
One would not tell their wife, husband, partner, or otherwise that they simply desired them. Initially this may be the case, though long term, desire transmutes into love. As love is an emotional connection, it reaches deep into the heart of any and all individuals, and it is this depth that we are aiming to reach for. Of course we are not looking for ‘love’ so to speak, but we are looking for what really and truly makes you tick - Love is a major motivational driver. Ask what it is you genuinely ‘love’, and you will know what drives and makes you tick.
So go ahead and ask yourself the following question - “What do you love about life?”
For example:
1 - Tony may reply with something petty like he loves his cat. This may be true, yet as there is no associated and attached ‘feeling’, this would not be considered a major core driver. The very fact that he refers to his cat indicates his emotional connections are outside of work, but again, he is not really saying that he loves his cat.
2 - He may say he love’s life. Yet again, as there is no associated and attached ‘feeling’, this is also not a core driver. A love of life is a broad saying, which bears no relation to a core experience. If he really does believe he loves life, and that may well be the case. His overall consciousness is maintaining some form of distance from the actual real core love.
3 - Finally, he may say he loves his family and he most likely does. But again, as there is no associated and attached ‘feeling’, this is not a core driver.
While it might be assumed Tony has declared feelings of love for his family, please allow the following to demonstrate how conscious reality can dupe us into thinking distortedly.
Tony stated that ‘he loved his family’, but he did not mention, or identify what this feeling of love was. Yes, he loves his family, but the specifics about what he loves within his family are his real core drivers. For instance, Uncle Fred may invoke uplifting, inspirational feelings of support. Therefore, Tony’s system has encoded a loving association. In other words, because of these uplifting electromagnetic attractors Tony is sub-unconsciously drawn towards him. Therefore, in the case of Uncle Fred, and Tony’s love. The real core drivers are what inspires him. For Tony to love, there will always be a core ‘feeling’ creating and driving that love.
So, for all three of the above, loves are only ever bi-products of core drivers. Yet, to be a core driver, there must also be an associated ‘feeling’. Yes, irrespective of a businesspersons' surface detachment from inner feelings, at their core. Conscious or not, is an emotional ‘feeling’. For example, take a highly successful businessperson. It has often been stated that success, and money are not core drivers. At their core were emotional charges, which attach to feelings of power, control, or both. Yet, neither power nor control is wrong. Nevertheless, they both produce ‘feelings’, of what success, and money trigger. They can be used as positive associations for self-motivation, yet they are not core drivers.
Please allow a brief explanation…
1 Tony’s cat may symbolize a core love, or fear. Yet, only he will ever know the true reality of, and without physically sitting down, or engaging with interactive mentoring, we make an educated guess. However, for us to really understand, and know what drives Tony, we simply ask an additional question of why he loves his cat. Irrespective of his answers, if the love questioning is continually posed, eventually the core will emerge. Either he is driven by the lack of affection from others in his life, or he has insecurities towards others. Or it may be he is driven by the elegance, independence, beauty, softness, and the responsibility in supporting life. Only in continually posing the question and then “listening” can we arrive at the root, though the root will be one of two drivers - a pain/fear, or a desire/love. At his core will be one major event that he physically experienced as good, or not good. That is he liked, or disliked, and his system has embedded this experience to use as a driver, it is as simple as that.
The complexity in distinguishing whether the core is a love or fear, comes from overlaying future events. Like the photos mentioned earlier, the top does not resemble the bottom. As for Tony, the love he ‘feels’ for his cat is only ever a trigger to maintain distance from a guised fear, or attract him to a core desire and love.
Though please allow the following statistic to permeate your mind. That is, 100% of individuals studied, were all operating from core fears. Surprisingly, not one individual was operating from core desires, or love.
Nonetheless, and moving on…
2 Stating his love for life, is also an inaccurate core driver. Love of life is a broad bi-product to deeper levels such as what he is associating, and attaching ‘loves’ to in his life. Again and irrespective of his answer, by posing the same question, “what does he love about life”, back, and back. Eventually the core will arise.
3 Tony may well indeed have intense love for his family. Yet, this is also a bi-product of love’s core. However, to identify and raise this core, the question is continually posed until the core is reached.
For example, it may go something like this:
1 - “What is it about your family that you love Tony”? What is likely to rise is deeper motivators such as he loves this about John, or that about Jane, and this about his wife and that about Uncle Fred, etc. That is, instead of him relating to love in a broad sense, it begins to individualize out. What is gleaned from this is what he is connecting, and associating to and ultimately it is these other associations that are triggering, and driving him. These are triggering the two core drivers of either love or fear. That is, either Tony’s real life experiences with Uncle Tony have been positive and uplifting, thereby creating a lifelong feeling of love. Or, they have the opposite effect, creating dislike and distance known as fear. Though once identified, Tony’s core drivers of love can be used to self-motivate, and propel his working life.
While this might appear to be complex and exhaustive, the process is really quite straightforward. Either Tony is operating from a core love, or fear. Once identified, these loves can be harnessed, recycled, and used to create endless amounts of self-motivation. That is, free positive and productive energy.
Please note that this is exactly the same process, which created de-motivation. The difference being that the energy of motivation was used in reverse. That is, original experiences were founded upon fears. Much of which have been quite natural, nevertheless it is still the energy of fear.
Please continue to make notes from these two questions:
1 - What do you love about life?
2 - What do you love about your work?
Though when asking love questions relating to work, please bear in mind that for male and female the answers will differ. This is so because although mankind has evolved, human DNA remains the same.
Males are genetically programmed to hunt and provide.
Females are genetically programmed to nurture and grow.
However, the above is not a strict rule and appreciation is given that males can nurture while females can hunt.
To conclude this section, please note that while the focus has been on two questions, this is simply to draw focus on what it is you genuinely desire. As what you desire, though more accurately, what you love at the core, is what’s driving you.
Once you identify these ‘loves’, the key to creating, installing and growing self-motivation is to build on what already drives you.
For example; Tony stated that he loved his family, which when worked back was a ‘good’, ‘associated core experience’ that left him with a ‘feeling’ of ‘inspiration’. From that good moment created in childhood - good or bad, his sub-unconscious will begin to drive and seek out similar future events. Of course initially Tony would only ever connect this ‘good feeling’ to Uncle Fred, though like the overlays in the photo, and with the passage of time, anything and everything that reminds him of the event will inspire him.
To install self-motivation from an existing driver, you simply identify that driver, and then build in similar associated links to future events. For example; what was it that Uncle Fred did that inspired Tony? Well, this is only something that Tony knows of, and working back from the leave to the trunk, so to speak, will identify it. Though, let’s assume Tony was around 7 years old and he attended an event whereby Uncle Tony was awarded a prize for being number one executive. At that event, Tony connected deeply to the happiness and joy that Uncle Tony was emitting. As he already had a liking for Uncle Fred, in a sense, he was already electromagnetically attuned to him.
Therefore, perceiving the event as ‘a like, good, and a desire’, is a perfectly rational scenario.
Once this event is perceived as good, it locks-down and all future associations that bear any relation to the event will drive and positively motivate Tony. That is, executives, men that look like Uncle Fred, awards, competition, being number one, etc. Albeit operating from the sub-unconscious, it is most likely these will all become future motivators
Please make a note; the same applies to your own motivational forces.