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Open your mouth only for the most
positive words you know.
After the listening skills, good speaking skills in Singleship are important too. As you gain more confidence in Singleship you will no doubt want to learn how to speak to other people and get your intimacy needs met by sharing your views, ideas and feelings with other, select happy humans you know and like. Your communication skills, when fully developed and functioning properly, will make you happier and this will make the world better too. As new, positive words slip past your teeth your world will be better and will make more sense to you as a single. Letting the positive words flow from your lips is another skill of Singleship that happy singles use. Your words should show respect to others and benefit people around you.
In order to let positive words flow to benefit the world at large, there first must be some positive thoughts our brains. You have edited your thoughts each night to help you be more positive and focus on your purpose. Now let some of those thoughts come to help you. That is perhaps the harder part of the communication equation.
When you are faced with a negative situation or disagreement, use a simple phrase …
"What I hear you saying is this . . .”
I recommend you use this simple phrase often to help you hone your ability to understand people better. It is not a game of tennis. Any negative emotions they send you should bounce on past you with no reaction. Diffuse an impending argument with anyone with this phrase. You also do it without any judgment of them or their motives. This shows that you are ready to deal with emotions or differing points of view with respectful language It will help express your views to them.
Write down the phrase two times. Write about a situation where this phrase would have been a big help to you.
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