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Reason is lost to chemistry
Sexual attraction is a thrill, flush, flutter, jitter, shake, echoing moment, hot flash, weak-kneed, lip-trembling, breathless moment of hot romantic insanity that you never want to be without again. Sexual attraction is not intimacy and it is not sex, it's just a chemistry recipe made in the plains and winter caves thousands of years ago before there was complex human language. It's not a design flaw.
It is not a bad thing and I imagine that someday a huge drug company will invent something so we can feel this way at anytime, like some sort of breath spray. The commercial for it would go like this: Pubermint Ice Blitz.A minty-fresh torrent of adolescent sexual angst.
If you and another person aim this energy at each other you will immediately set boundaries of personal space that govern the speed and progression of physical and emotional connections. The boundaries will constantly change in a new relationship and that is what makes new romance fun and agonizing in the same instant.
The human need to love is very strong and whether you believe the notion that chemistry and instincts control your logical mind or not (in the matters of romantic love), consider the darker side of the experience. How many news reports do you see about terrible life changing events called "crimes of passion?" Jilted lovers, who by all accounts are not mentally ill, become obsessed with an ex-lover and then commit unthinkable vile acts that they credit to their "love" for the victim or victims.
So for folks who don't know how to be happy on their own first, this kind of intense, earth shaking love can actually be a very dangerous thing. It is a harsh assessment of the "dark-side" of romantic passions and the love experience and I would not mention it unless many of the people I met spoke about how prime–time television shows portrayed these bizarre crimes as having very normal and innocent beginnings.
Tonight focus on your first crush. What is one thing you remember most about them? Do you think this was just new chemistry starting up in your head? Do think there was some sort spiritual "meant to be" notion in your mind when you saw first saw them.
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