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Vanquish the blues
I can’t write enough about how many singles go to bars, and coffee shops to try to stop a feeling of loneliness and be with others. They instinctively gather at neutral places to satisfy their primal need to group.
The reason it is important to recognize the grouping and intimacy needs that drive humans to these locales is that you will need to spot the grouping instinct in your own mind. Smile when you feel it. Now you know how to deal with this feeling. You need some social activities to be happy, group and feel safe.
To help you group, find a local book store or library and seek out a book about something you always wanted to know about like a country, an event in history or a language or find a book by an author you have heard good things about.
Do not interact too much with others and focus on the subject or book that interests you. Maybe you are interested in visiting Spain, learning about the history of Japan or creating a veggie garden. Take some time and relax and learn.
As for me, I read fiction of all stripes: Elmore Leonard, Michael Ondaatje, and William Faulkner to Flannery 'O Conner and some good non-fiction too.
Tonight write something about your new interest. What attraction does this new thing hold for you?
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