Wow, that was quite a lot today, I’ll give you that. Let’s recap on what we’ve covered off…
I started off by making the very sensible suggestion that you quit asking your partner if she's come? when you have sex.
What worked with your last partner in bed might not work with your new partner. I'm using the word ‘new’ in a very loose sense of the word of course. She might be 10, 20, 30 years+ new! But it’s quite possible that you might still be using old sex ideas that worked well all that time ago.
Don’t use sex as a tool to mend other, broken, areas of your relationship.
Remember that you being given a blow job is not permission to come in her mouth! Apologies again for the bluntness, but it will likely not go down particularly well with your partner.
Your partner’s clit is neither (a) a magic button or (b) a miniature cock. It will need very different handling to your penis.
If you are putting pressure on your partner to go on the pill then stop it. At least be open to the idea of discussing it with her first, don't just make the assumption that she's okay with it.
Whether you are getting sex or not, do not criticize it, and that includes putting any pressure on her to be 'wet' for you. It will not help your cause, at all.
Keep a check on yourself daily - don't, whatever you do, go back to doing any of the stuff that I've recommended that you stop doing. You will only go backwards in this process if you do.
If you start enriching your partners life with a little of what she wants and needs then she should be way happier, in theory, to start enriching your life with a little of what you want and need, ie sex.
Think of sex like putting up a skyscraper; all of the stop it now’s that we’ve covered are your planning permission, and the start it now’s are the skyscrapers very important foundations, and it's steel superstructure to keep it upright and together.
Being ‘connected’ to your partner outside of the bedroom is very important to helping her want to get connected to you inside of the bedroom. ‘Connecting’ is something that you do daily.
If you can remember and bear with the fact that women do not need to have a purpose for a conversation, like you probably do, then you'll be doing yourself a lot of favours. Just talking with your partner builds the connection between you both, and being connected is really, really important for ensuring that your partner is in the right place for sex with you.
Become a better listener to get more sex... that's right. When you are chatting with your partner listen to her well. I won't go back over the listening skills here, we will get to them again when we hit the daily connecting tips, so for the moment all you need to remember is that listening to your partner =AN IMPORTANT THING TO DO.
Day 5 Exercise’s
You’ll be glad to know that there isn’t quite as much homework today…
Exercise 1
The first exercise is only really relevant the next time you have sex, and it is this; if you normally ask your partner if she's come? after sex. Then stop it. Worry not though, because later on we'll get to some tips, ideas and tricks you can try so that you can help make her come yourself, and secondly we'll get to some pointers you can watch out for to know if she's turned on or not.
Exercise 2
Today have a good think about what I said about not using sex as a tool to mend other broken areas of your relationship. Now this might absolutely not apply to you, but if it does then go careful. Perhaps consider just not having sex for a while until you've applied the suggested stop it now's. ie fix the relationship first, then get back to the sex later.
Exercise 3
Today, and from here on in, if you have been doing any sort of criticism of the sex that you either have or indeed haven't been having, and that needs to also include you putting pressure on her to be wet for you - then I need you to stop this please - TODAY. It's jolly simple really.
Exercise 4
From here on in, daily, you need to be checking in with yourself. You need to be making sure that you aren't doing any of the stuff that I've suggested that you stop doing.
Exercise 5
Imprint into your brain the following, and do it by repeating it at least 17 times over the course of today please... if you start enriching your partners life with a little of what she wants and needs then she should be way more open to the idea of starting to enrich your life with a little of what you want and need, ie sex.
Exercise 6
Today I'd like you please to remember that connecting with your partner = A VERY GOOD THING. So, with that in mind, and from here on in, when your partner says that she wants to ‘talk with you’ don't roll your eyes, and instead remember that (a) by talking you are connecting and (b) actually sit down and talk with her. Even if you just try it a few times to see what occurs. Just please give it a try.
Exercise 7
And when you are talking with your partner today I want you to practise the listening skills we discussed earlier. I don't expect you to remember all of them, there were a lot there. When we get to the daily to do exercises we'll practice all of the listening skills regularly, so just do what you can, remember what you can from what you've read and observe the difference that listening well makes to your conversation and to your connection with your partner.
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Well done for getting to the end of week 1. In a moment you'll get to the two appendices included in this weeks eBook; "Causes of low sexual desire" and "Talking about sex with your partner". Before we do that though let's take a quick look at what we'll get to in the eBooks for weeks 2, 3, 4 and 5-8.
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"The Get More Sex, Get Better Sex Course - Week 2"
Days 6-8: In week 2 we start looking at the 'Start It Now' suggestions. The first 2 days of week 2 continues to look at more suggestions for things that you should start doing if you want more sex. Having taken you down a peg or two with all of the 'Stop It Now’s', these 2 days will continue to build you back up. We cover topics that will help you get more such as; creating a connection with your partner, becoming a good listener, appreciating and valuing what your partner does for you, your household and your family, giving your partner your time and helping out around the house. And for the non-believers we bring each suggestion back to why you purchased the course in the first place – ie why each of the start it now suggestions will help you get more sex.
Day 8: On day 8 we look at 20 self-improvements which will help you look better to your partner both mentally and physically - which will assist you on your journey to getting more sex. Topics such as; becoming more of an old romantic, sorting your wardrobe, becoming a flirt with your partner, hygiene and looking after yourself, for example. Day 8 also sees the introduction of the ‘Getting better at sex’ tips, 61 of them in total, which from day 8 onwards will be given to you two tips per day until the end of the course.
Day 9: On day 9 we start looking at how you can get your partner to start thinking about sex with you more. This is a key step in the process. Today is all about introducing and getting you going with this seriously important concept. We also start looking at what I call the ‘Daily tasks’, these are the things that I suggest that you should be doing daily in order to make it way easier for you to get sex when you want it. From this point on in the course the daily tips are given to you two per day in order to make it easier for you to learn and practise them in the exercises.
Day 10: On day 10 we start looking at the suggested weekly to-do’s, mainly getting you working on the concept of having regular ‘date nights’ with your partner as a way of reconnecting and giving you the perfect opportunity and conditions for you to initiate sex. You'll also get introduced to the concept of improving the conversations you have with your partner, giving you suggestions for conversations that will help you to effectively ‘chat your partner up’, because those normal, dull old conversations that you’ve been having about who’s taking Jemima to ballet, the mortgage and the weather aren’t really overly effective seduction techniques.
Two appendices are included in week 2: " Tips for meaningful conversations with your partner" and "Erotic media to get you both in the mood "…
Appendix - Tips for meaningful conversations with your partner: The course makes the suggestion that those normal, dull old conversations that you’ve been having with your partner are not going to be that great a seduction technique to get her into bed. So this appendix is about how you can have conversations with your partner that will steer you more in the direction of what you're after.
It starts with how you can become a great conversationalist with her, moving on to some great ways to fuel conversations, and finishing off with how not to totally kill conversations stone dead.
The main course covers listening skills and the importance of being a good listener, and this appendix revisits this topic and summarises it.
It covers off some great conversation starters, what I call ‘middle’ conversation questions, and also some later, more sexual, questions that you can ask. All as a great way of helping to get your partner into bed.
It also looks at ways that you can keep the connection going with your partner through conversation and some very important verbal listening cues which can help you transition your conversations from one type to another and also to assist you incase your conversations run out of steam, because let’s face it, empty silences where you don’t have a clue what to say to each other are, again, not a great seduction technique.
Appendix - Erotic media to get you both in the mood: The main course suggests that looking at erotic media with your partner is a great way to get her mind into the right place for sex. So this appendix makes a large number of suggestions on erotic media that you can buy, read, watch, listen to or play together. The appendix covers; books (traditional, audio and digital), video (porn which you can both watch together, and a number of suggestions for more traditional films to watch – but with some seriously erotic content), board, card and digital games that you can play, and also some romantic and seduction music suggestions.
"The Get More Sex, Get Better Sex Course - Week 3"
Day’s 10 to 11: In day 11 we keep going with what was started in day 10 - looking at the suggested weekly to-do’s, and keeping going with the concept of having regular ‘date nights’ with your partner as a way of reconnecting and giving you the perfect opportunity and conditions for you to initiate sex.
Days 12 to 13: These two days are all about giving you some suggested monthly to-do’s. We look at some regular monthly to-do’s that you really ought to be doing whatever, a number of suggestions that will give you great opportunities for sex and finally some that will more than likely lead to sex.
Day 14: Today is about just two topics; firstly how you can create opportunities for sex with your partner, and secondly how you can spot good opportunities for sex with your partner.
Day 15: On day 15 we start looking at how you can get your partner into bed when you want to, how you can start to call the shots! You’ll get introduced to the process of how to relax, then romance your partner and how you undertake a little foreplay on her mind.
Appendix - Getting better at sex: This appendix gives you all 61 of the ‘Getting better at sex’ tips in one place. In the main course the tips are spread out, two per day from Day 8 onwards, so this appendix exists to make it easier for you to review all of the tips in one place. They are categorised, so you can find the tips you want a lot easier.
"The Get More Sex, Get Better Sex Course - Week 4"
Days 16 to 17: These 2 days continue looking at how you can get your partner into bed when you want to, including looking at what we call ‘Foreplay stage two – working on her body’ and 'How to initiate sex with your partner'.
Day 18: Today is all about how you can keep it going. You’ve spent 17 days working hard to get your learning up to scratch, so today is around giving you some tips on how you can keep the momentum going so that you can keep on getting more of what you want.
Day 19: Day 19 is there just incase none of what you’ve tried so far has helped you to achieve your goal of getting more sex. Today we look at a step by step checklist of what you can do if nothings worked so far. If it has all worked then you can skip day 19’s main content and go straight to the exercises for the day.
Day 20: On day 20 the main course content has concluded and we start concentrating purely on the exercises.
Appendix - Massage: The ‘Massage’ appendix covers two main topics; erotic massage and Swedish massage. The appendix gives you a step by step guide on how to give your partner these two very different types of massage.
Erotic massage is covered because this is a great way to get your partner into the right place for sex.
It also covers Swedish massage because this is a really good way to get all touchy feely with your partner and to help her relax. And both of these things are very useful to you in order to help get you more of what you want.
Appendix - Scripts: The ‘Scripts’ appendix is split into two parts; part 1 is a detailed walk through seduction scenario who’s primary purpose is to help you bring the learning together that you’ve read in the main course. It is a walk-through of the entire process of creating opportunities for sex with your partner, and we look at one detailed scenario where you are essentially setting up to seduce your partner into bed. Part 2 looks at some fantasy / role play ideas which can help your sex lives in the following ways; they are a great way to help you both to more easily communicate your sexual desires, they very effectively remove most, or all, of the communication issues such as embarrassment or shyness, fear of hurting your partner's feelings, or an inability to identify you or your partners needs and desires and they can help spice things up a bit and make things that little bit more exciting, thereby helping to get you both back into bed that little bit more easily next time.
"The Get More Sex, Get Better Sex Course - Weeks 5-8"
Days 21 to 38: For the remainder of the course it’s all about the exercises. You’ll be given an average of around 7 exercises to work on every day to cement your learning on the topics that you will have covered in the main course, such as; getting better at sex, the daily to-do’s, how you can build a connection with your partner, spotting good opportunities to initiate sex, boosting her self-esteem and your self-improvements.
Appendix - Become an oral sex god: This is an entire appendix on getting good at going down. The course makes the suggestion that pleasing your partner when you get her into bed is a great way to keep on bringing her back to the bedroom, and that pleasing your partner with some mind blowing oral sex is a great way to give her that pleasure! This appendix is structured in much the same way as the rest of the course and aims to make it easy for you to get good at what is quite a tricky thing to do well.
Appendix - Quick reminders: As you may have noticed the course is pretty lengthy, so this appendix exists to make it easier for you to quickly and efficiently review the topics that have been covered and the suggestions that have been made in the main course. It’s a 5,500 word summary of the whole course which, if you need speedy reminders of some of the suggestions or processes having completed the course and you don’t want to make the time to go back through the whole thing again then this is a great way to get a quick summary of all of the tips.
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