Chapter 02
“Planning to Ask a Girl Out?”
There are several things you need to plan when you are going to ask a girl out. This chapter will guide you through the planning.
Synopsis
You are likely to come across some tough situations throughout your life-time. However, perhaps one of the toughest will be getting it right, when you ask a girl out on a date. You are hoping she will say yes straight away. However, you may not always be that lucky and she may say no, or make excuses as to why she cannot go out with you.
Here are some tips on how you can get the girl to say yes to your request for a date.
Reason for Failure
If you are a stranger to the girl, you are asking out, the chances are she is more likely to say no. You could be ‘Jack the Ripper’ for all she knows. Her response will likely be an act of self- preservation that has little to do with you. She will be applying what she has been taught since early childhood ‘not to talk, or go with strangers’
You should not allow a rejection to dent your self-confidence. You need to take things slowly and spend some time as acquaintances, getting to know each other. Once she gets to know and starts to feel comfortable with you, she is much more likely to say yes.
Plan to Do Something Exciting
Choose something fun activities you can do with a group of friends. That gives you the opportunity to invite the girl to join your group as a friend. You then have a non-threatening opportunity to relax and interact so you can get to know each other better.
If you succeed in getting the girl to hang out with you and some friends, you will find it much easier to ask her on a date. She is more likely to say yes, because she has seen that you can be a fun guy.
Be spontaneous, and don’t be afraid to show you have a caring side. Show her you are intelligent and can talk about topics other than what’s going on at school or at home. Talk about subjects or hobbies that really interest you, and take time to find out what she likes and dislikes. It is all about natural and free flowing communication and getting to know about each other.
Plan the Logistics of Your Date in Advance
Plan ahead and know what you intend to do on the date. Then when you ask her if she is free that evening, you can tell her what you have planned and ask if that is OK with her. If she has already said she is free that night, she is unlikely to say no. If she sees you are willing to compromise about what you want to do during the date, it will help to win you brownie points.
However, if after saying she is free, she then starts to make excuses why she cannot go on the date with you. You should accept it as a good sign; she is not attracted to you.
Alternatively, if she says, she already has plans for the evening you want to take her out; you can try some charm and gentle persuasion. If she knows you are a fun person to be with, and she is attracted to you, you may get her to change her plans. Or you can ask her what night would be OK with her.
You Have to Do the “Asking”
Don’t labour under the misapprehension that a girl will ask you out on a date. Contrary to a popular belief, there are only a very small number of girls who will ask you out. If you don’t want to miss out, then be prepared to be the one that asks for a date.
Choosing the Right Moment
Making sure you choose the right moment to ask a girl on a date is important. If you rush in and ask her before she has had the chance to get to know you, she will say no. It may take several meetings as friends before you find the right moment. You need to be patient, use your instincts and learn to read the signs she is giving you, and you should know instinctively when she is ready to progress to dating.
Knowing the Right Time to Ask Her Out
There are several signs that may indicate that the girl is ready to go out on a date with you. In addition to the way she looks at you and her body language, you may notice a more intimate tone in her conversation with you.
She will show an interest in you, even when you talk about something boring or are saying very little. You need to rely on your instinct and natural ability to know when the time is right to ask her for a date.