Chapter 03
“Ideas for Being Romantic”
If you want to ask a girl out on a date, you should approach her with some style and romance. The advice in this chapter will help you to bring out the romantic side of your personality.
Synopsis
Having a girl as a friend is one thing; it is the moving on to a romantic relationship that can be the difficult part. Making a smooth transition will be easy if you approach it in the right way. What you say, and the way you behave, when you ask a girl out, can be the key to your success or your failure.
Don’t be Afraid to Show your Feminine Side or Caring Nature
If you are really interested in a girl, you need to let her know. That often means toning down your ‘macho’ attitude and behavior and letting her see you have a softer and more caring nature. If you come across as having too much testosterone, you risk frightening or turning the girl off, and she will make excuses not to go out with you.
Many of the male populations are reluctant to admit that they have a feminine side, especially in front of other males. However, the best way to get the girl to go out on a date is to show her you do have a sensitive and caring nature. If you do this, and she continues to turn you down, then you should forget her and find another girl to ask out.
Believe in Yourself
You may not be the most attractive male on the planet, but you may not be the ugliest. You need to be strong in the belief that you do have something to offer a girl. However, you do need to find the right balance between being self-confident or being over-bearing, if you want to be successful in attracting the girl.
If like most males starting out on the dating game, you think you don’t have a romantic bone in your body, you may be surprised. Following a few simple steps can introduce you to your romantic side.
Sit Down and Make a List
If you are not good at remembering things, you can write them down in a list. Girls are well impressed if you remember their birthday, or special occasions such as anniversaries, without having to be reminded. The minimum you should do is send her a card, but you will gain a lot more brownie points if you send flowers, chocolates or take her out for a nice meal to celebrate.
You can also use your list to make a note of her likes and dislikes such as does she have a favourite perfume, what is her favourite colour and so on? It will save you a whole lot of grief if you choose something she really likes as a gift for those special occasions.
Make the First Move
Knowing when your relationship with a girl is ready to move on to the next stage can be tricky. As many girls will be reluctant to take the initiative, it is up to you to make the first move. If you over-step the mark, by being too passionate too quickly, you can destroy the relationship. You need to start off by saying goodbye with a wave or a casual kiss on the cheek. You can hold hands while walking, or while sitting in the cinema. The more you get to know her the easier you will find it is to read the signs. She will let you know when she is ready to progress the relationship.
Communication
Communication plays a very important part in any relationship. It is an excellent tool that provides the opportunity for the couple to find out what makes each other tick. The conversations should be natural and should be geared as much to listen and learning, as they are about talking. Initially, the girl may appear to be shy or unwilling to talk about herself, talking about interests or hobbies you have in common will help her to relax.
You can try to draw her out by asking questions. However, you should take care that you don’t make her feel like she is being interrogated.
Be There for Her When She Needs You
If your girl is upset for any reason, or just feels unwell, you need to bring out your caring side and be there for her. You may not be able to do anything to cure a physical ailment, but you can provide emotional support. Just by being there and listening shows that you really care and that can help to improve her emotional state.
Make Sure She Notices You
There is little point in you wasting your time and energy putting on a show for a girl, is she doesn’t even know you are there. You need to make sure your actions involve something she is interested in and ask her to get involved or to give you her opinion on what you intend doing. Unfortunately for some, that does mean you need to talk to her and get to know her first, before trying to impress.